Definitely! I hear ya about the decreased optimism and broken wishful thinking, you are not alone. It took me about 18 months to conceive my son (can't imagine 3 years, though it seems I may soon find out). Took me close to 11 months for my second, only to end in an ectopic with me losing my right tube. So add decreased chances by about 50% with everything.
It's been over 2 years trying off and on and it is so easy to feel defeated. But I am going to try as long as I can. I will regret not trying one day even if I never fall pregnant again. My sister recently told me she is expecting baby no.2 on her first month trying (she is 40 with lupus).
So I just have to believe that sometimes miracles do happen, but the rest of the time some of need to haul ass! Lol
If AF arrives, I look at the positive - I will be done with cramps before Christmas and I get to enjoy my wine. I have also put dh and myself on a supplement regime and we are trying to be healthy. Have started D3 supplements together with folate, omega 3 and vit C. Here's hoping!