Poor Joseph has had a bad day

[Jody R]

First of all at playgroup a little boy the same age decided to fight him. Joseph was playing by the sand pit and the little boy ran over, grabbed him, shook him, tried to pull his hair and they both fell over and Joseph bumped his head.

The little boys mum was really apologetic but poor Joseph wouldn't let any of the other children near him for the rest of the morning. He kept hiding behind me every time anyone got near him. I'm hoping he doesn't remember next time because it seems to have knocked his confidence playing with the other children and I don't want him to get shy because of this.

And then we were out for a walk earlier and he had a lovely time but he fell over on the path when we got back home and grazed his nose, so it's been tears again.

He's happy now and busy playing before bedtime but is this what life with a toddler is like? Bumps and scrapes every day? He's only just really found his own legs and we've already had one trip to A&E.

I've just got the Corrie storyline with the little boy in hospital after bumping his head flashing through my mind as being a weekly event now he's on his own feet.

My poor boy, I hate it when he's in the wars. How will I deal with the confidence issue though if he is frightened of the other children now?

 

[Eala]

I don't have any advice (as my LO is younger than Joseph), but big hugs

 

[MotherBeth]

Yeah -- I think bumps and scrapes and bruises are part of toddler life! Band-aids, ice packs and antibiotic ointment are sort of necessary staples around the house, it seems.

But being hit by strange kids should be a rare occurrence, I think. Good that you were around to break up anything like that as quickly as possible.

Maybe arrange a social event that's sure to be easy for him to try to get him over what happened? Like ... invite over a friend who has a nice toddler, and let them play in the safety of his own home, with the two moms chatting and watching? Maybe a positive social experience is what he needs after such a bizarre and terrible incident. Just a thought!

 

[Mum1980]

Aww Jody.. give Joseph a big cuddle from me

Sadly hun, yep.. this is what life is like with toddlers!
It was only Saturday that we were in A&E with Soph, after not one, but two bumps to the head!!

They all have their fair share of bumps and bruises along the way.
Poor Joseph at playschool though.. that's what bothers me a lot of the time. Other kids can be so hands on.. I had an incident when a boy really scratched at Chloe's face in nursery. It was awful, her face was a mess!

I hope it won't bother him too much and he'll join in again next time you go. It may have just really put him off it for today.

Hope he's feeling ok now, lots of hugs to you both xxx

 

[Jody R]

Thanks everyone, he went off to bed without too much protest, a bit of a cry on the way up the stairs but right off to sleep when I put him in the cot.

I'm hovering a bit around his door checking if he is okay.

The other mum said that her older son has ADHD and she thinks the toddler has learned from him, which made me a bit worried that it's what the older boy does to him at home. I'm hoping Joseph feels better about it next week but he seems to have a good memory for things like this.

Poor Chloe and her two bumps and her scratched face. I hope she's feeling better from the bumps.

 

[Eala]

Just had a thought - do you know any of the other kids at the playschool? Like, are there a few quieter, gentler ones who tend to stick together? If you could try and introduce Joseph to a small group of gentler kids, then maybe he'd gain confidence that it's ok to play with other children?

 

[v2007]

Aww Jody, poor Joseph.

I hope Tuesday is better for him.

Toddlerhood is a bumpy ride.



V xxxx

 

[Jody R]

Just had a thought - do you know any of the other kids at the playschool? Like, are there a few quieter, gentler ones who tend to stick together? If you could try and introduce Joseph to a small group of gentler kids, then maybe he'd gain confidence that it's ok to play with other children?

It's more of a drop in session than an organised, regular group. He's one of the youngest but he plays well with the older ones. They have a kitchen set up and he likes to pass them things to put in the pans or empty stuff into the baskets from the pretend washing machine.

They are usually quite good with him but he even avoided the ones who he normally plays with today.