Positive test now what?!

[Teekayy]

I have just found out today that I am pregnant (positive home test) I'm 19, I live with my mum and my boyfriend.
My boyfriend is very crook in bed & I don't want to tell him just yet for obvious reasons.
Although, how do I approach the situation with him and my mum?
Mum knows we are active together.
We have been together for 2 years.
Any advice, personal experiences and opinions will be great!

 

[ClairAye]

First, congratulations and welcome :wave: I'm Clair, also 19, I have an 18 month old son and I am 38 weeks pregnant with our second

I would focus on telling your boyfriend first, just tell him straight or show him the test

 

[Teekayy]

First, congratulations and welcome :wave: I'm Clair, also 19, I have an 18 month old son and I am 38 weeks pregnant with our second

I would focus on telling your boyfriend first, just tell him straight or show him the test

I had the test in my boob & when I was helping him out of bed to shower it fell out.
He was shocked and has said "where is the clinic"
Not sure if serious or shock.
How did your boy relate when you told him?

Congrats to you honey, I want to keep it but I guess it's a decision we born have to make together

 

[charlotte f]

congratulations! I sadly had an early miscarriage but as soon as i found out i phoned my boyfriend (he had just moved 4 hours away so i was very stressed!) he was very supportive, but most definitely shocked. just sit down with him and talk it through!

 

[ClairAye]

Tbh with out first he was really good, he said he'd stick by me no matter what I chose to do. He might just need time to let it sink in. My OH also knew that I was testing and had known for about two weeks before that I thought I was pregnant so it wasn't suddenly sprung on him either. Have you spoken to him?

 

[Teekayy]

We went to the doctors where they did a test, he teared up in think it finally hit him.
Although he said if it was a couple year down the track he would keep it.
I don't think he wants it.
He keeps asking if I am okay and that I'm really quiet.
I wouldn't mind keeping it but yeah

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Sweety, yhis is your child and your decision as its also YOUR BODY. Yes its his baby too, but thats not his choice. If you want to keep this child, keep it. End of story. Id let your mom know, and stick to your guns with the boyfriend. Dont let him make you do something youll regret.

Congratulations by the way! Im Lisa, and Im 21. My daughter Emma is 3 and a half.. she was born the day before my 18th birthday and My son Coltin is 6 months

 

[Teekayy]

Just so hard I don't wanna let him down.
His trying to be supportive but ideally don't think I can do it. The tought of killing it makes me cry. :

 

[ClairAye]

Sweety, yhis is your child and your decision as its also YOUR BODY. Yes its his baby too, but thats not his choice. If you want to keep this child, keep it. End of story. Id let your mom know, and stick to your guns with the boyfriend. Dont let him make you do something youll regret.

My reply would only be a repeat of this

 

[mstennischick]

First, congratulations and welcome :wave: I'm Clair, also 19, I have an 18 month old son and I am 38 weeks pregnant with our second

I would focus on telling your boyfriend first, just tell him straight or show him the test

I had the test in my boob & when I was helping him out of bed to shower it fell out.
He was shocked and has said "where is the clinic"
Not sure if serious or shock.
How did your boy relate when you told him?

Congrats to you honey, I want to keep it but I guess it's a decision we born have to make together

honestly it's not a decision you both have to make together. It's your decision. my fob threatened to kill himself if I didn't have an abortion when i first got pregnant and now he couldn't be any more excited. i was pro choice before i got pregnant. Now I'm against it because I know how in love and how amazing i am with this child inside of me and she wouldn't be here if I had listened to her father. You can do it, and if not, there's adoption. But I don't know a single person who's had an abortion and hasn't regretted it every day since.

 

[Teekayy]

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[mstennischick]

obviously it's your choice and whatever you do, everyone on here will be here for you, but please don't do it just because that's what your boyfriend wants. It is 100 percent NOT his decision.