Positive thinking.

[TCooper]

Hi all.
I moved in with my boyfriend of 3 years in August, and slowly came off the pill. I never really wanted to try for a baby, but knew I wouldn't be upset if I fell pregnant.
Now, 8 months later I find myself wondering why it hasn't happened for us. I know it can take time after being on the pill, and at 28 I had been on it for 11 years, but it's mighty hard not to feel that dread set in.
This is the first month I have actively looked in to ovulation and the different things I can do to help, so I don't want to feel sad that it hasn't happened yet, I want to feel excited.
I've noticed that I spot a pregnant person a mile away, and get a little lump in my throat when friends share their baby news, and it's such a hard feeling to describe to people, that I haven't really said anything to anyone about it.
Every few days I feel my mind wondering to silly things, and creating symptoms that aren't really there. It's a tough old game, more so for the mind I think, since once we decide to try for our babies, they're already there in our hearts.
I guess my aim of this post really is to find a place for me and my baby obsessed mind to feel safe to discuss these things.
You do feel silly for being SO disheartened by another month and another period, so I wanted to get myself excited for this amazing journey we have decided to take, and get some positive vibes out there for everyone else in the ttc boat.

So! Hope you're all feeling that excitement! And here's to an amazing story that's just beginning.

 

[abennion]

Hey TCooper,

Your aren't alone! My husband and I are coming up on 1 year of trying to get pregnant. I have seen friends accidentally get pregnant, and a SIL not only get pregnant, but also give birth within the same time frame of us trying. I can understand that hopeless feeling, because surely SOMETHING should have happened by now.

Everyone will tell you a normal, healthy couple can take up to a year before getting pregnant, but if you feel something is wrong, it wouldn't hurt to go to the doctor and have both you and your boyfriend tested. I would continue to temp as it helps pinpoint when you ovulate, and it will help the RE see if your cycles are regular, if there is something preventing ovulation etc;

If you ever need to vent, or just want to talk to someone who can relate, any of the girls here would be more than happy to lend an ear. Welcome to BnB! Don't be afraid to message me if you need someone to talk to.

 

[KBP]

For many months, I would create symptoms as well. Every cramp after O, I thought, this must be implantation! Or, I peed a lot today, I MUST be pregnant! Now, I really don't consider any symptoms because it just sets me up to be even more dissapointed.
After 11 months, the only thing I'm looking for is the lack of arrival from AF.
I won't even take a pregnancy test early because it use to get my hopes up.
You've come to the right place-I joined this forum a couple months ago and it really helps to connect with women who are going through the same thing.

 

[BelleNuit]

I'm in the 5-7 cycle range depending on how you want to count it (5 active ttc, 1 ntnp, 1 anovulatory). I'm also getting really frustrated and depressed with the whole process. It's so hard to get yourself motivated month after month to BD only to be disappointed a couple weeks later. My cycles are on the shorter side (25 days) so I feel like I barely have time to catch my breath and just be myself.

I'm sure we'll all get there, one way or another. Maybe by this time next year we'll already have babies or be pregnant, and then the struggle of TRYING to conceive will seem like a distant memory.