Pregnancy after our preemies support thread!

[Anna_due Dec]

Girls haven't caught up but wanted to let you know our second little girl arrived last night thirteen days overdue with a lot of induction!!! Weighing a whopping 8lbs7oz !!

Hope the rest of you are all doing good x

Congratulations!! overdue...wow

 

[Lottie86]

How did you all tell your families you were pregnant and how did they react?

I'm going down to see my Mum next week and I'm not sure if I'll be able to hide it from her with the constant nausea and sickness and the fact my tummy is decidely not flat!

I mentioned to Mum on the phone about 3 weeks ago I hadn't been feeling great and had been sick and as soon as I mentiond the word sick she did the whole 'you're not pregnant are you' I said no as I hadn't tested at that point as I was in denial about it but she went on for about 15 mins about how very stupid it would be for me to get pregnant with the risks to my health, the fact I am Findlay's full time carer and therefore need to be in a fit state to look after him and the fact that a baby would be at such a high risk of having the same abnormality as Findlay and could be even worse affected plus of course the high risk of it being prem.

When we actually tell her I am pregnant she is going to be sooooo much worse. I know she will only be doing it because she loves me and worries about me and whilst we live at opposite ends of the UK now we have always been so so close (I'm an only child) but that isn't going to make it any easier to listen to as no doubt that will start Dave off again as well and he seems to have finally stopped voicing his opinion about how perhaps it would be best not to keep it.
When I am already absolutely terrified about being pregnant I could do without people constantly telling me what I already know with regards to risks. Part of me is so tempted to try and keep it a secret as I won't see Mum again until the end of April and that way if something goes wrong anytime soon I haven't been lectured for nothing but then I feel bad about keeping things from my Mum and if something goes wrong later on I'm going to want my Mum's support. Argh everything is all so confusing

 

[nkbapbt]

Wow lots of congrats all around ladies!!!!!!

 

[AP]

awww bugger lottie i thought i had replied but its not submitted

Perhaps once you have your scans and more discussions with consultants then you will be more confident in the pregnancy and yourself to tell your mum, which might be best? ?

 

[AP]

My FFN test was NEGATIVE! The researcher was delighted, as were we!
The nurse was determined to get a pic...but got a foot instead
https://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs737.snc4/65739_478770414317_514829317_5554387_1984581_n.jpg

I'll have these tests still every 2 weeks but im glad we got a negative for now!

Our 4D scan was yesterday! We took Alex to Babybond with us and she sat with a biscuit and watched the screen

The images werent as clear as Alex's was at 25 weeks, but it was great!

https://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/hs007.snc6/165697_479228409317_514829317_5561218_2091118_n.jpg

https://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs1366.snc4/163894_479106054317_514829317_5559424_1837223_n.jpg

We got a fab DVD too! The woman gave us a disc with screenshots but i wish i hadnt bothered buying that because i've took better ones since!

 

[Anna_due Dec]

sb does Alex talk much? If you remember my Sebastian is almost the exact same corrected age. I'm trying to work out if he is normal or behind, He doesn't say too much.. just mum, dad, nan and toot-toot. He doesn't say the names to the right people either, he will regularly call me nan or dad. He also says these names when he wants something as in yelling "nan"= give me more food. I'm a little worried about it.

 

[AP]

Anna - alex doesnt even say that, just lots of noises and oohs and hmms.

 

[Lianne1986]

Lovely pics sb.

 

[rensben]

Hi ladies,

Can I join you? I had my son Gabriel on March 31st. He was born at 30 weeks and weighed 3.5lbs. He stayed in the hospital for 7 weeks. I had a rescue cerclage put in at 20 weeks due to an incompetent cervix. It did it's job and held off labour for 10 weeks, long enough for Gabriel's lungs to mature to an acceptable point. Today he is a happy, healthy 8 1/2 month old and I am 5 weeks 4 days pregnant! This pregnancy wasn't planned but we are thrilled! I know I will have to have a cerclage put in at 12 weeks this time. I was on bed rest for 2 1/2 months last time and I really do not want to go through that again. I'm also scared of going throught the preemie experience again. I'm sure you can all understand. So glad to have found this thread. I wish everyone here big healthy 10 pound babies this time around!

 

[Anna_due Dec]

Anna - alex doesnt even say that, just lots of noises and oohs and hmms.

Awesome. i feel much better. Its hard to remember from one baby to the next what they are supposed to be doing and when

 

[AP]

So hard to chuck the development book out the window huh? She knows what im saying, she just wont speak. I can tell her to do something like follow me, or eat her toast, and she'll do it, but not a word back, just a noise!

 

[nkbapbt]

Ok I know you will all just tell me to calm down...but I am really not freaking out THAT much. But it's hard to believe I am currently half way through my pregnancy with Lakai with my current pregnancy. It's so hard to believe in another 11 weeks...I actually gave birth!

I hope my freaking out doesn't jinx me.

We finally go to see the specialist on the 29th. There is a $175 charge if you don't show! GEEZUS this woman but be crazy busy!

How is everyone feeling?

Lottie where are you?

 

[mummy3]

I've been scared to join here, very worried about the baby im carrying and didn't want to get hope up too much, but I'd really like to chat to you all

Nkbabt, I don't want to come across a stalker but i have followed your story, its just incredible how well Lakai (gorgeous name btw) is doing, and its just amazing your half way through to his gestation at birth! Good luck with the specialist

 

[AP]

Its scary huh hunny? Now im approachin alexs gestation, im freaking out too! Argh!

Mummy3 take a seat hunny, and stay here! this thread is growing, so is the preemie section huh?!

 

[Lianne1986]

im almost at the stage where things started goin dwn hill with tyler (30wks)

over the weekend i was losing a watery discharge, thought it cud of been my waters leaking.

i had an appointment with the consultant yesturday, normal checks all fine, then he did an internal to check if my waters had gone and they hadnt, he said it cud be an infection but he doesnt think it is. he did a swab anyway.

now i have been discharged from consultant led care. he said all i can do now is just sit and wait it out. theres no telling if and when im gonna go into labour.

hope everyones ok.

 

[nkbapbt]

mummy3 - of course I don't think you are a stalker! lol. Welcome! What's going on with this pregnancy?

 

[hopefully2]

Hey girls,
Just catching up on how you are all doing.
We are great and Juliette is a great little baby so far.
Still can't believe is had to be induced at nearly two weeks over, I would never have thought that earlier in pregnancy.
I see some of you are approaching your last delivery gestation and to be honest this was the longest toughest part of the pregnancy fir me, I even had a false alarm during it. But remember every day that passes is a huge bonus and hopefully before you know it you'll be and overdue cranky mammy like me and deliver a 8lb11oz whopper like me too!!! (who by the way was easier to deliver than her three pound sister!!)

 

[mummy3]

Hopefully, wow 2 weeks over, well done, and congrats!

sb, thanks hun Im really hoping to stay for a long while lol

Lianne, hope your ok

Nkbabt, I am a little bit of a stalker This pregnancy is a rollercoaster, basically contractions and shortening cervix at nearly 19 weeks, restrictions and weekly progesterone nijections which dont seem to be doing much and the nurse keeps jabing the needle into hip bone

Going back to gp tomorrow for strep throat, great fun when you need to deal with 3 small kids

sb, also my son was a lot like how your describing Alex, then all of a sudden at around 2 1/2 he just came out with long sentances, if the understading is there I wouldn't worry too much

 

[nkbapbt]

Mummy3 - Yikes! I hope things settle down for you!

I go on the 29th to specialist...I am hoping she will agree to stitch that sucker closed (for good if she must!!)

I hope you feel better soon too! Being sick and pregnant...with kids...no fun!

sb - Lakai doesn't talk that much, our insane OT (the one who does his feeding studies and only sees him every six months) is SOOOO WORRIED about it, to the point she thinks he is very delayed. And yet the speech therapist was just here and said he is like maybe a month behind. He talks and does say words, even smaller sentences like "what's that?" "where did you go?" but he doesn't have a 40 word vocab yet. Oh WELL!

My hubby didn't say boo until he was over two years old. And well I didn't walk till I was 17 months, just like Lakai. I sometimes wish they would back off with the "it's because they are preemies" stuff. Maybe it's just genetics? Or who they are? I know tons of kids who are full term and not talking and are over two!

Sorry rant over.

Alex will get there and you will wish she would just be quiet! he he

I do wonder what the fluck Lakai is doing when he points down the hallway and gabbers these really long sentences that don't make sense, but it's clear he knows what he is saying and his ton is a little like he is telling someone off. But no one is there...not even the cat or dog?!

 

[AP]

Well we bought matching outfits for baby and Alex today 9-12 for her in april and newborn for baby exact same hungry caterpillar dresses and clothes

This 2 girls malarky is way more better than i imagined

I was at the consultant today, my tummy goes verrrry tight often, and doesnt let go for 15 mins or so. She told me to be aware of it, otherwise, cervix is fine, everythings normal.

But in the supermarket i was doubled up in pain and though "oh shit...."

Im ok now but mixed emotions.