LouOscar01
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One of the hardest emotions that I am having to deal with at the moment is the most intense, all consuming pregnancy jealousy/anger/bitterness/unjustness/hatred of my partner's younger sister.
It's taking me over and consuming my every minute. I really don't know how to deal with it.
I just feel like it's so unfair!!
I did everything right I waited 2 years for my partner to be ready, I waited till I'd finished my degree and got a teaching job, I waited till I had a house and a comfortable income, I ate well, maintained a healthy wait etc etc.
She's been with her partner for a year, she still lives at home with her parents, she's in the middle of her degree, she has no savings, no job, no way of supporting her baby.
And she got pregnant on purpose without discussing it with her partner! She used to be anorexic and since she's recovered she has missed the constant attention that she had then. She tells everyone 'I was taking my pill but my periods are so irregular I didn't notice'. The pill regulates your period, that's what it does! You can't have irregular periods and be on the pill! She always does exactly what she wants, when she wants, regardless of the consequences on other people. She wanted a baby so she made it happen. She was on a huge number of horrible drugs for mental health issues, has the most atrocious sugar filled diet. I'm really struggling to deal with everyone's joy for her and her happiness. I'm so so bitter. She didn't tell anyone until she was 17 weeks pregnant.
I did everything right, we've been trying for 14 months on fertility meds and I lose MY baby.
I just don't know how to deal with these emotions. I know that they are awful and nasty and that's not how I want to be but they are just so intense that I just can't help it. I can't rid myself of these jealous angry thoughts.
I don't know how I'm going to interact with my partner's family with her baby around. I was due 2 months after her so it's going to be a constant pain.
I've given myself the deadline of her due date to get pregnant so that I can deal with the new baby. So that gives me till February.
I don't know how to get past this emotion. Please help. And please don't judge me too much. I know these feelings are wrong and I know they are unacceptable. I don't need people to tell me that but I do need people to give me advice on how to get past this...or to tell me that they have felt similar emotions.
I can feel that I'm losing ME to these awful emotions.
I've felt jealousy towards all pregnant women and mothers of young children throughout WTT and TTC and fertility woes but I could always deal with that by just going home and not having it in my face. Even though I've avoided my SIL since my miscarriage I can't shut it out. My brain is not cooperating.
I can't believe how much I've written...think I needed to vent.
It's taking me over and consuming my every minute. I really don't know how to deal with it.
I just feel like it's so unfair!!
I did everything right I waited 2 years for my partner to be ready, I waited till I'd finished my degree and got a teaching job, I waited till I had a house and a comfortable income, I ate well, maintained a healthy wait etc etc.
She's been with her partner for a year, she still lives at home with her parents, she's in the middle of her degree, she has no savings, no job, no way of supporting her baby.
And she got pregnant on purpose without discussing it with her partner! She used to be anorexic and since she's recovered she has missed the constant attention that she had then. She tells everyone 'I was taking my pill but my periods are so irregular I didn't notice'. The pill regulates your period, that's what it does! You can't have irregular periods and be on the pill! She always does exactly what she wants, when she wants, regardless of the consequences on other people. She wanted a baby so she made it happen. She was on a huge number of horrible drugs for mental health issues, has the most atrocious sugar filled diet. I'm really struggling to deal with everyone's joy for her and her happiness. I'm so so bitter. She didn't tell anyone until she was 17 weeks pregnant.
I did everything right, we've been trying for 14 months on fertility meds and I lose MY baby.
I just don't know how to deal with these emotions. I know that they are awful and nasty and that's not how I want to be but they are just so intense that I just can't help it. I can't rid myself of these jealous angry thoughts.
I don't know how I'm going to interact with my partner's family with her baby around. I was due 2 months after her so it's going to be a constant pain.
I've given myself the deadline of her due date to get pregnant so that I can deal with the new baby. So that gives me till February.
I don't know how to get past this emotion. Please help. And please don't judge me too much. I know these feelings are wrong and I know they are unacceptable. I don't need people to tell me that but I do need people to give me advice on how to get past this...or to tell me that they have felt similar emotions.
I can feel that I'm losing ME to these awful emotions.
I've felt jealousy towards all pregnant women and mothers of young children throughout WTT and TTC and fertility woes but I could always deal with that by just going home and not having it in my face. Even though I've avoided my SIL since my miscarriage I can't shut it out. My brain is not cooperating.
I can't believe how much I've written...think I needed to vent.