Pregnant after a MC at 21weeks

[morm91]

So here I am 19 weeks tomorrow.. Just a little worried that it will happen again.
There was no actual reason for my Mc in April last year, my doctor had been very unhelpful in answering my questions and all. When I got pregnant this time around i went to my orginal gyno from when i was a teen. A little further to travel but much worth it as she answers all my questions and puts me at ease.
Anyways I was just wondering if there were any other ladies on here that lost there LO in the second tri and are now expecting.
I am not considered high risk as there was no medical reason for lossing my little boy, so no extra apts for me. having my first ultrasound in less then two weeks and just praying everything goes well.. So thats about it. Just hoping to chat with some ladies who know how im feeling

 

[3xscharmer]

I haven't had a second tri loss, but wanted to say I'm sorry and hope that you are finding the support you need during this time, good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, hope it's very uneventful.

 

[Andypanda6570]

I wish you all the best. I am not pregnant , but I lost my Ava at 22 weeks, I gave birth to her in my home. I know I would be terrified and prob ably paranoid . Take one day at a time and I am so sure everything will go great for you/ I wish you all the best & I am so deeply sorry for your loss

 

[angela2011]

I understand what you are going through. I am now 11 weeks but my last pregnancy ended at 22 weeks weeks when my son's heart stopped beating. I don't think I can relax until my baby is born. Best of luck to you. Just wanted you to know you are not alone

 

[morm91]

I understand what you are going through. I am now 11 weeks but my last pregnancy ended at 22 weeks weeks when my son's heart stopped beating. I don't think I can relax until my baby is born. Best of luck to you. Just wanted you to know you are not alone

Thanks im hoping all goes well with this pregnancy for you xox

 

[Nikki_d72]

Hi I'm 18 weeks now and lost my twins last year at 20 weeks, so I get where you are coming from. I'm so sorry for your loss. i'm also sorry you are not getting earlier scans even just for your own reassurance, that must be tough. i have had 3 scans to date, partly to check my cervix, as that was a possible reason for my loss but there was no concrete reason for me either - I know it can be hard to have nothing to "fix" but some comfort to know there is no reason for it to happen again. I am extremely scared right now as I'm fast approaching when my waters broke last time but that was a twin pregnancy so if it happens this time it could be later, so I'm hoping not till at least 30 weeks but it means I can't really relax. I have my anomaly scan next week and am so anxious to get to it and see if my body is behaving itself or not, so I can't imagine how paranoid you must be to have been left all this time to wonder. Do you feel movemnets yet? Hopefully that will reassure you, depending on the circumstances of your midtrimester loss previously. I also did what I said I'd never do and bought a home doppler, just a cheapy but it puts my mind at ease if I've not felt movement in a while or am just having one of those crazy days. Do you not have the 12 week screening scan there? I wish you all the best with your scan and i hope time flies for you till then, I know the waiting is a killer. I will chat with you if it helps distract you till then if you like, I don't come here very often now but can do if you need a buddy as I know how this feels and will be happy for the distraction myself too!

xx

 

[nicksi27]

Hello I've just found I'm pregnant after losing our son at 20+6 weeks in february due to placenta failure (the docs don't know exactly why this happened). Im sure it's gonna be a 9 month anxiety attack but it's understandable. I'm so sorry for your losses ladies - we WILL get our rainbows xx

 

[morm91]

Hi I'm 18 weeks now and lost my twins last year at 20 weeks, so I get where you are coming from. I'm so sorry for your loss. i'm also sorry you are not getting earlier scans even just for your own reassurance, that must be tough. i have had 3 scans to date, partly to check my cervix, as that was a possible reason for my loss but there was no concrete reason for me either - I know it can be hard to have nothing to "fix" but some comfort to know there is no reason for it to happen again. I am extremely scared right now as I'm fast approaching when my waters broke last time but that was a twin pregnancy so if it happens this time it could be later, so I'm hoping not till at least 30 weeks but it means I can't really relax. I have my anomaly scan next week and am so anxious to get to it and see if my body is behaving itself or not, so I can't imagine how paranoid you must be to have been left all this time to wonder. Do you feel movemnets yet? Hopefully that will reassure you, depending on the circumstances of your midtrimester loss previously. I also did what I said I'd never do and bought a home doppler, just a cheapy but it puts my mind at ease if I've not felt movement in a while or am just having one of those crazy days. Do you not have the 12 week screening scan there? I wish you all the best with your scan and i hope time flies for you till then, I know the waiting is a killer. I will chat with you if it helps distract you till then if you like, I don't come here very often now but can do if you need a buddy as I know how this feels and will be happy for the distraction myself too!

xx

Hey sorry ive been rweally busy lately.. almost at 22 weeks now. had my first and hopefully last scan we are team feeling much better as time goes by, they only give a 12 week scan if you are not sure of your dates unfortunately and onyl give a 20week scan unless they think there might be something wrong further along. how are you feeling.. I wanted to buiy a doppler also but decided against it. I am just hoping to atleast make 30 weeks also once i get over that point i think i will feel much more at ease.. I hope you are doing well llet me know would always love a buddy

 

[morm91]

Hey Ladies just wanted to let you know I had my little rainbow girl the 16th of January. She is a very happy and healthy baby. No problems at all. Labor was short only 7 hours and I pushed for all of 20minutes. She wieghed 5lbs 9oz and 19 inches long. she is now a good 10lbs will find out for sure tomorrow.
I hope that all has gone well with you guys.
Nikki you little one must be here by now. I hope the rest of ur pregnancy wasnt to hard.
nicksi I see that your a 31weeks now. You must be getting excited. I hope everything has gone well for you so far

 

[mdjoy]

Hi. First I am sorry for your loss. I understand that fear completely. I had a mmc June 2011 at 19 weeks. My baby died at 14 weeks. I am now 11 + 3 and scared to death! I keep trying to stay positive but it is so hard after something like that. I mean after my 7 week loss I sighed a breath of relief once I hit the 12-13 week mark. Even heard the HB at 12 weeks just for her to pass at 14 weeks with no reason found what so ever. I still have a hard time wrapping my mind around such things. I feel like I can't even look forward to 2nd tri. I mean everyone posts how they can't wait for first tri to be over so they can stop worrying about m/c and all I can think is.. I can't wait til I hold a healthy live baby in October.. it is so sad we have to experience things like this, and a shame we cannot enjoy our pregnancies after. It is supposed to be a happy time and you can't help feeling sad for the baby lost and worried that that fate may await the baby your carrying. Everyone says stay positive and I try but it's so hard. Even bought a Doppler and still worry after hearing the heart beat.

 

[mdjoy]

Sorry, didn't realize this post was old! Congrats on your healthy little one!

 

[nicola91]

Hi
I am so sorry for your losses I have had two losses first at 6 weeks and the second at 13 weeks, but the doctor wouldnt investigate anything as they just put it down to bad luck and now i am 14 weeks pregnant and i am so so so very scared everyone tells me to enjoy it but its really hard to enjoy it after experiencing such upset!
i hope all you ladies are ok best of luck x

 

[ginny83]

It's nice to see some positive outcomes on this thread

I found out about my first loss at my 12 week scan, the baby measure 11+5, so about right for dates but there was no heartbeat

Then I fell pg again got past 12 weeks - yay. Felt really confident, we told everyone. I had my first OB appointment at 15+3 - everything looked great. I was still checking everynight with a doppler also and a few days after that appointment we couldn't find the heartbeat I went to the emergency department and after being told that I was probably over reacting they finally did a scan where it was confirmed the baby had passed away

I had tests done on both these babies - they were perfectly normal little boys. They're basically unexplained losses, although since then I have had high blood pressure, so now I am on BP meds, plus for this new pregnancy I am on clexane since I have had a couple of borderline results.

 

[morm91]

Hi. First I am sorry for your loss. I understand that fear completely. I had a mmc June 2011 at 19 weeks. My baby died at 14 weeks. I am now 11 + 3 and scared to death! I keep trying to stay positive but it is so hard after something like that. I mean after my 7 week loss I sighed a breath of relief once I hit the 12-13 week mark. Even heard the HB at 12 weeks just for her to pass at 14 weeks with no reason found what so ever. I still have a hard time wrapping my mind around such things. I feel like I can't even look forward to 2nd tri. I mean everyone posts how they can't wait for first tri to be over so they can stop worrying about m/c and all I can think is.. I can't wait til I hold a healthy live baby in October.. it is so sad we have to experience things like this, and a shame we cannot enjoy our pregnancies after. It is supposed to be a happy time and you can't help feeling sad for the baby lost and worried that that fate may await the baby your carrying. Everyone says stay positive and I try but it's so hard. Even bought a Doppler and still worry after hearing the heart beat.

It wasnt easy, ill tell you that much, a real rollercoaster of emotions. you just have to take it a week at a time, the hardest part will be when u hit the point you lost your little one but once you get over that milestone things seem to be easier.. but i dont think you ever really stop worrying though until you are holding them in your arms. I cried so hard when she came out and was okay. A perfect little girl. I can say this much from my experience is that it was worth it. the first week after she was born i would wake up and have to check on her. it was really surreal, but now shes just over 2 months and let me tell you its the most amazing feeling ever when i hear her coo and caw at me. and just try to remember that every pregnancy is different. and the chance of a second tri loss a second time around is rare. I hope this post will help put your thoughts at ease even for a minute

 

[morm91]

I am sorry for your losses, like i said to mdjoy is that you just have to take it one week at a time, and try not to worry ( I know nearly impossible) but added stress is not good for the baby. I hope that these will be your rainbow babies, keep me posted on how things are going. and if anything im online often so dont be shy if its just worry or even some questions I might be able to help you out.
I got my fingers crossed and toes for you and hope that you ladies will know the joy that i have been so lucky to feel.