pregnant after misscariage, likely misscarying again, feeling confused, guilty.

[lama31]

Oh and just to let you know, even with my twin pregnancy my hcg levels did not double every couple of days like they are supposedly suppose to but my doc said that the point is for them to keep going up.

 

[bee.bee]

I feel so awful for even posting this thread :/ I was in a very dark place for about a week there. I had a couple friends telling me that my pregnancy was doomed and I was just determined to protect myself. My numbers were still rising as of a week ago. They went from 7, 400 to close to 25, 000 in eight days. The doctor said that was perfectly normal. I have an ultrasound on Friday I am beyond nervous!!

 

[geordiemammy]

Good luck for your scan hope all is ok x

 

[kellymassage]

I read your post and I know it's scary after a mc, I had one back in January and am cautiously pregnant again, but it sounds like you are fine girl! Numbers don't necessarily have to double and 103 is a very normal heartrate for 6 weeks! I hope you get some peace of mind Friday. I will be thinking of you!

 

[Amsan]

I would ABSOLUTELY switch doctors! I have switched twice now for the same reason. And something I've learned just recently, quit reading things online! They will make you worry and panic for no reason at all, trust me!

And sometimes doctors/nurses just aren't very thorough... My nurse called Thursday to tell me my hcg levels dropped about 40,000 so she thought I was miscarrying. What she FAILED to do though, was check to see how far along I am (12 weeks today), and realize the placenta takes over at this stage so its perfectly normal for numbers to drop.

I know its so hard, I've been reassured so many times this pregnancy that everything is fine, but I cannot for the life of me be as excited as I want to be for fear of losing this one too...

But the way someone else on here explained to me, even if you let yourself get excited or not, if you do miscarry its going to hurt either way. So at least show you babe a little bit of love, give it a fighting chance.

I sure hope everything works out for you dear. And, if all else fails, go into the ER and tell them you're having cramping (even if you're not), explain your history, and see if they'll do a check. Even just for a piece of mind! That's what I did after the call I got on Thursday and she wouldn't see me until Monday! (Today).

 

[bee.bee]

It is so hard to just stay calm! I just want to be happy so badly, but I'm so afraid. I've been seeing a therapist since a while after my loss this summer and just sae him last week and he said the exact thing you just told me! That the pain of the loss won't be any greater or less depending on my attitude beforehand. Might as well be happy and enjoy my time with my baby, and hopefully all will be well! I will be glad when I know what is going on, which will be soon as I have genetic testing next week. The not knowing is the hardest part!


I finally did go to the ER one night, I was having some pains but really just like you said I wanted to be checked. They did not give me an ultrasound, but they did check my numbers. She was a very nice lady and carefully explained everything to me, I told her all of my concerns and she explained it so that I felt 8 millions times better. My doctor never did that for me! He just sent me away. That's all it would have taken. Ugh. I'm working on finding a new doctor

 

[Amsan]

I feel ya.. I was a WRECK for the first 11 weeks of my pregnancy. Hell, I'm STILL worrying about something, ALWAYS. I really pray this one sticks for you

 

[bee.bee]

My precious peanut got its angel wings today. Thankyou everyone for your support and well wishes. I will have a family one day, I won't stop until I do.

 

[Amsan]

My precious peanut got its angel wings today. Thankyou everyone for your support and well wishes. I will have a family one day, I won't stop until I do.

Oh hun I'm so sorry to hear that.

 

[geordiemammy]

I'm do sorry thoughts are with you xx

 

[MommyNikki]

So sorry for your loss sweetie