Pregnant and TERRIFIED

[Alicealicexx]

So...I've just found out I'm 4w 2d pregnant and I'm 18. My boyfriend is refusing to support me if I go ahead with the pregnancy and it'd mean leaving university for at least a year.
I just don't know what to do

 

[Spiffynoodles]

Just don't make any decision based off your boyfriend's threats. It's not his body. You can easily stay in school during pregnancy and at the end you can always give your son or daughter up for adoption to a loving couple while you finish your schooling.

 

[MummyMana]

You can make it work, with or without him I'm sure he'll warm to the idea eventually and at least want to be in his child's life! And as for uni, I'm pretty sure you can take mat leave however I'm not sure, but even if you have to leave for a while you canalised qualify later my mum is 46 and last year trained to be a teacher if uni really means that much to you I'm sure you could arrange childcare while your there good luck and congratulations! I'm mana btw and have a 1 year old called Imogen

 

[LegoHouse]

Never take someone's first reaction to your teen pregnancy as how they're going to feel when the baby is born. Once it's a person they feel completely differently. That's the best advice I was given when I was 18 and pregnant. She's almost 6 now and she's definitely the best thing that ever happened to me. She didn't 'ruin my life' like everyone said she would, she made it a million times more wonderful. Sure it's hard work, and she did change everything, but there's not a single thing I could do before she came along that I couldn't do after she came along. There were things I didn't want to do anymore, but nothing I couldn't achieve with her by my side! xxx

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Hi hun I was also pregnant at eighteen, I had a place at uni that September but didn't go because of it but did the same course from home with the open uni which I'm still doing. I believe that, depending on your course, you can transfer your degree over to the open uni and finish it from where you left off, so that's always an option if you still want to finish your degree in the same amount if time. If not you could take a year out then go back to your current uni and use childcare until you complete it, there are lots of options and it is doable! X

 

[katiemckeiver]

Hi im katie found out I was pregnant at 19 and have only turned 20 in feb...I had the same problem with my bubbas daddy...I asked him to at least attend the first mw appointment and scan with me so I wasn't alone and could get his family background info for notes...as I was considering adoption at first...although after he saw the first scan...he changed his mind and is now sticking by for Taylor when he's born...I wouldn't worry about doing this alone...he'll either change his mind or he won't...if he doesn't...bubba is more than likely better off without him! Your baby only needs a loving mummy! As for the uni...a friend of mine dropped out for now as she's due in july...but she's already signed up to start again in September ! There's plenty of options for support during pregnancy and after! xxxx

 

[nic18]

congratulations & welcome
I'm Nicola 19 & pregnant with my first

Do what you want to do! don't worry about what your boyfriend says or wants, its not his body! at the end of the day the decision is yours and only yours. don't worry about uni, there is plenty of things that can be put in place for you to finish uni , you can arrange child care! having a baby in your teens is not the end of the world & there is worse that could happen!

 

[katiemckeiver]

congratulations & welcome
I'm Nicola 19 & pregnant with my first

Do what you want to do! don't worry about what your boyfriend says or wants, its not his body! at the end of the day the decision is yours and only yours. don't worry about uni, there is plenty of things that can be put in place for you to finish uni , you can arrange child care! having a baby in your teens is not the end of the world & there is worse that could happen!

Completely agree with what you've just said!! :') nobody else can make the decision only you xxxx

 

[ClairAye]

Congratulations

I'm not sure about uni but don't make a decision based on your boyfriend's bad reaction. It's your body, so only you should make a decision. I had my son at 17 and my daughter at 19 and plan on going to uni in a few years time, I'm still young enough to do these things later

 

[mayb_baby]

Congratulations on your pregnancy and welcome
I'm Lorna, 22, I have a 3yo son called Michael and I'm due to have my second little boy in 4 weeks I'm also in my second year of university.

Don't worry about your boyfriend or anyone else's reaction, its not his body! As for uni you can defer for a year or continue if you think your able. I deferred my place for a year had my son and went back.
Uni are really supportive of mothers and will help you in any way they can with assignments and financial issues so don't stress over that.

 

[vickyandchick]

Hi hun, congratulations and welcome

Try not to worry to much about other people's reactions, my OH didn't want this baby at first, and after a while of letting it sink in he regrets saying he didn't think we should keep it.

At the end of the day it's your body and your decision, don't let anyone else make it for you as it's you that has to live with it.
As for uni you can always defer for a year and they always have childcare open for you, stay positive hun x

 

[MummyToAmberx]

i fell pregnant at 17 was at college.
i didnt go back for 2nd year and having my little girl was best thing

 

[yish1]

keep the baby. that's a blessing. tell your parents about that since you're boyfriend is no good. everything happens for a reason dear. God Bless

 

[Katy Bug]

Forget your boyfriend. Really. You can make your own decision, babies are the true loves of our lives. The saying that you don't know true love until you have your own child is very true.

 

[Ashleii15]

I am 17 and pregnant with my second boy. I am due July 21, graduating high school June 24, and then going to college September 2. And university a year after that!
It's not the same, but with my first I went to school up until the day before I had him! I home schooled for about 2 months to stay caught up and went back sooner than I could have waited and wrote exams, etc. It's definitely worth it in the end and I feel so accomplished All you need is determination and support, but of course your boyfriend's support isn't the only!

 

[Jenny_23]

Its your body at the end of the day and you decide what is right for you. I would suggest to go with the pregnancy though because life has a funny way of making things better for anyone!