staralfur
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That's terrible. I wouldn't want my LO around an adult who said they're going to "toughen her up" to be perfectly honest, if taking her out and putting her in somewhere else was an option I'd be doing that. I can't even imagine what toughening up a toddler entails but it doesn't sound healthy. I'd ask her specifically what she meant by that comment if you're hesitant to or can't take her out.
The only child thing is a ridiculous thing to bring up as well, I'm an only child and I was definitely not "soft" at that age (my mom tells me about how I used to boss all the boys around at daycare). Even if it was a common trait of only children I'm not sure how helpful or productive it is to bring that up as no one should have another child just to try to change the other one's personality. That's insane. It's also of course highly insensitive as you are not the only person in the world who has an only child not by choice and dealing with kids and parents regularly she should be aware of that.
And lastly, I think it's very unfortunate that she thinks being "soft" is a bad thing. Your daughter is 3! She's not a 16-year-old trying out for the wrestling team. My LO is also very sweet and timid and I do encourage her to stick up for herself if other kids take advantage of that but I'd never want her to stop being herself. I'm thrilled that my LO is sweet and kind and in tune with her and other kids' emotions, I'd be livid if anyone tried to tell me I needed to change that.
The only child thing is a ridiculous thing to bring up as well, I'm an only child and I was definitely not "soft" at that age (my mom tells me about how I used to boss all the boys around at daycare). Even if it was a common trait of only children I'm not sure how helpful or productive it is to bring that up as no one should have another child just to try to change the other one's personality. That's insane. It's also of course highly insensitive as you are not the only person in the world who has an only child not by choice and dealing with kids and parents regularly she should be aware of that.
And lastly, I think it's very unfortunate that she thinks being "soft" is a bad thing. Your daughter is 3! She's not a 16-year-old trying out for the wrestling team. My LO is also very sweet and timid and I do encourage her to stick up for herself if other kids take advantage of that but I'd never want her to stop being herself. I'm thrilled that my LO is sweet and kind and in tune with her and other kids' emotions, I'd be livid if anyone tried to tell me I needed to change that.