Probably Being Silly

[MrsP]

Hi girls,

Really need a moan and only mummies to be would get it.

Been feeling low the last couple of days which is probably just the hormones, but I'm 5 weeks pregnant and keep worrying about my little bean, wondering if its ok and growing ok.

I'm sure everything is and there is nothing at all that would make me think other wise - it's just probably my mind doing over drive.

Just wondered if anyone else felt like this and how you manage to keep your chin up. I'm worried I'll worry so much and end up causing my self problems.

Sorry for the moan x x

 

[Mervs Mum]

I felt exaclty like that at about 5 weeks. I think its totally natural. I got in a pickle worrying so much. My first midwife appointment seemed ages away and so did my scan so I booked in to my Dr's and told him how I felt. When I was talking I was practially wringing my hands and getting wound up and he was 'Whoa!'. I asked him about checking my HCG levels to see if they were rising as they should. He was great and sent me to have that checked plus B12/iron as I'm borderline anaemic and the results were back in 2 days and I felt LOADS better.
It worked for me so if you felt it might why dont you suggest checking your levels??

x

 

[Samantha675]

Oh lord yes love. I worry every single day about my baby. It is the nature of the beast I am afraid. My midwife told me early on that worrying will not cause anything to happen, but nor will it stop it. So I take each day at a time, and if I really start to worry, I divert my thoughts best as I can. I also made a calander, and would highlight my week milestones, ie. getting to 6 weeks, 8 weeks, 12 weeks, 20 weeks, and so on.

 

[MrsP]

Thanks for the reply.

That's an idea.

My doctor is rubbish but the nurse there is excellent and being a woman she might get it too.

I'm actually in the process of looking for a new doctor not sure I feel comfortable with him being responsible for the health of my and my baby.

CAn I just ask for it to be done and they should go ahead?

 

[Doodles]

I too felt the same at 5 weeks ; at my first appointment with the midwife I hardly listened to her because I was terrified that she would 'jinx' me and I'd miscarry (I'm blaming my irrational hormones for that one) .
In fact I was so paranoid I threw away my home pregnancy test and didnt dare look at the leaflets and booklets the consultant gave me. Looking back I feel really silly and wish I had been able to relax and enjoy the first trimester.
I'm sure your anxiety is natural, must be that maternal instinct kicking in. Samantha675's calandar sounds like a great idea, would give you something positive to focus on

 

[Mervs Mum]

I actually asked for it out right and told him I thought that it would reassure me. The Dr is in the business of caring for you and your baby's welbeing and if this will make you feel better then he'll get it done for you. If he's crap then be insistent!

 

[anita665]

I'm the same. All the way through my pregnancy I've been worried about something. Most often it is just whether he is growing properly. I think it's unavoidable during pregnancy. Who knew it could be so stressful!

 

[Vickie]

I felt the same way at 5 weeks, worried about absolutely everything, wondered if the test I had taken and somehow been wrong. Completely normal

 

[gde78]

I've been exactly the same. Watching every little symptom. Worried about cramps then worried when they went, then worried boobs weren't as sore, or I didn't feel as tired, or I didn't want to cry today. It's never ending. The scan I had last week has reassured me a bit, but this week I'm now worrying whether it's still growing and healthy. I think we're all the same, but I'd try Mervs Mums advice and try and get your hormone levels checked if you can. Hope you find something that puts your mind at rest a little bit.

 

[wickedstepmum]

Hi MrsP. I am 5w+3days and feel exactly the same way. Just this morning i was freaking about the fact that i havent felt any real nausea yet and my boobs arent as sore as they were 3 days ago. i twitch at every little twinge and worry it is a sign that something is wrong.

my husband has actually had to hide the vial of HPT's i had becuase i was compulsively peeing on sticks to reassure myself that i was still pregnant.

it is insane. the rational part of me knows that but the paranoid part is shouting louder at the moment.

good to know i am not the only nut case.

 

[MrsP]

Thanks girls for your comments, it's nice to know I'm not alonw.

I had a word with my self this morning, once I had finished crying for the second time, that I need to pull my self together and trust my body and go with the flow and try and be positive until something tells me to be other wise.

Thanks again x x

 

[Tegans Mama]

Hey hun! I have to add that I've read your post so sorry if I'm repeating myself here..

During this pregnancy I've had really low blood sugar levels and low iron levels too. My mind is on overdrive all the time anyway - BUT even more so when my sugar and iron levels are low
If I don't eat every 3 hours I feel REALLY depressed. Like right now, I need to eat but I do feel so sh!tty that I don't want to get up and cook. Maybe you should try eating more frequently, taking an iron supplement and talking it through. Good luck hun xx

And another thing - worry/stress is NOT a cause for miscarriage. Look at the statistics of women who were pregnant on 9/11 and who went on to give birth to healthy babies, even after the deaths of their husbands Odds are, you'll be fine!

 

[lynz]

its normal to worry hun i worried all the way through the first tri that something was gonna go wrong every cramp etc i was continually on knicker watch, i drove myself mad. Even now in the second tri i still worry and i think i will up till i have my scan next week.
i wouldnt worry hun the best thing i did was take it one day at a time

 

[Donna26]

I am exactly the same as you hun,
I even had an internal scan today, which showed everything is going great and even saw a heartbeat,
However i've been having cramps since I got back home today, due to an internal I had afterwards.I think and I have spent the last 4 hours worrying more than ever!

So I think that we will worry every day till the birth and then when they are born i'm sure we will worry too.
Fingers crossed for you hun - Always post if you feel worried again- I have found this place a great help.
D

 

[MrsP]

I can't thank you all enough for being so great and putting my mind at rest, I knew if I posted on here it would be a great help.

Even my mums says what do your other mummies to be say - she knows all about you all and what a great help it is to have you all here.

I think I can start to put my mind at rest.

My poor hubby, I think he is too scared to talk to me just in case I cry, I don't think he is getting the hang of all this yet.

You're all so great and I thank you so much for taking the time to read my posy but not only that but replying to it too.

It's so nice knowing that no matter what the day has brought we all log on and have each other here.

Thanks again and all of your comments have really helpped me! x x x

 

[Mervs Mum]

And you know the worrying doesnt even stop when your LO is born!!! Ask any of the girls here who already have kids.......I cant begin to tell you how much I worry about my little girl....and she's 14 this year....a whole different bunch of worries......
xx

 

[MrsP]

These wprries are never going to stop now are they for one reason or another?

I thought conceivng was the hard bit - I couldn't have been more wrong. I do know though how worth it, it is going to be for us all when we reach the end. x x

 

[Mervs Mum]

Its gonna be wicked!!!! xx

 

[MrsP]

Now I'm getting excited!!

Can't wait to hold them for the first time - bet it's so amazing?!?!