Question about Delivery...

[lily2011]

So I know I have to start thinking about who will be in the room with me for the labor, and I was wondering if anyone had their own father with them?? He is the only person I am close to, and has been my biggest supporter, but then I wonder if that is weird? Not like he'll be telling me to push or anything, but I felt like maybe just having him in a chair nearby would be better than nothing?

I feel like I'd be ok with doing it alone; I've done everything this entire pregnancy alone... but everyone says noooo don't do it! Has anyone else done it alone?

Please help!

 

[Rhio92]

If your dad is who you feel most comfortable with, there's no reason why you shouldn't have him

 

[kirst1805]

I had my mum with me, I don't really know my dad.

It doesn't matter what other people think hun, You need someone with you that you totally trust, and if that is your dad and he's happy to be there. Go for it..

As long as you tell him to stay by your head just kidding.

I really respect women who can go through the birth on their own, I know I couldn't. But if you have that support there it can make things so much easier.. No matter who it is.

xx

 

[teal]

If you think it would be a support to you then I would ask him.

I had my mum and my best friend with me when I delivered and they were both a fantastic support xx

 

[ka_ox]

Hey

My mum passed away last year, and I'm not with the FOB (or on good terms with him) and I have no sisters or close friends.

Therefore when I give birth I have asked my dad to be there as I have a very good relationship with him, he has experience after being with my mum when she gave birth all three times and he is very supportive.

Obviously he's going to stay at the end near my head, not the business end. But I don't see a problem with it. As long as your comfortable with your dad being there (and hea confertable being there too) then I don't see an issue with it it's your labour, your choice, your decision. And I think it's good your relationship with your dad is that strong you feel able to include him.

I hope your pregnancy and birth goes well x

 

[lily2011]

Obviously he's going to stay at the end near my head, not the business end.

Of course!

Thank you for the feedback; I do feel most comfortable with him and he's been a huge source of support.

I hope your labor goes well too xxoo

 

[ka_ox]

Thankyou

I'm glad you've got someone you can feel that comfortable with your dad should feel really special. From my experience, when people find out my dad will be with me during labour they find it odd and don't really understand it, most people don't have a relationship with their dads which would allow them to feel comfortable in this situation.

I think thats why we sometimes wonder whether it's weird but it's just not as common as having your mum or a female relative there, that's all.

But I'd much rather have someone I feel really comfortable and supportive with me (my dad) and have people deem it as being weird, then having my auntie there and feeling really uncomfortable and unsupported.

Good luck xx

 

[mskellydenise]

If thats who you want with you in the delivery room then that who should be there...I have an amazing dad and he was in the delivery room when I gave birth to my daughter...I also have my 2 sisters, mom and FOB in there tho so when he slipped out when I actually started pushing I didnt realize...then he slipped back in...lol

 

[whoops]

I'd love to be that close to my dad. If you want him there, then absolutely have him. And don't mind what anyone else thinks.

 

[xJG30]

Both my parents were my birthing partners but my dad had to stand outside as he couldn't bear to see me in so much pain.

 

[Snowball]

Have there whoever you feel comfortable with

I'm thinking I'll end up doing it on my own but I'm a very private person and the thought of anyone else being there other than FOB (if he wasn't being such a penis right now) would panic me no end.

 

[SophiasMummy]

I had my mum there, I nearly had one of my ex bfs that im really close to there aswell even though hes not the dad he wanted to support me while I was in labour, I wish he had been there now but it was either him or my mum as they dont get on. I think whoever you feel comfortable with is fine xxx

 

[jessrabbit]

I'm probably doing it on my own as not close enough to anyone to want to share.

I think its great that you are that close to your dad, you shouldnt care what anyone else thinks, you have to do what feels right for you.

Best of luck xxx