Rant! Did I get treated right??

[17pregnant]

I had my first scan a couple of weeks back, my dating scan, and the more i've been thinking about it, the more i'm wondering if I was treated right. So this is about how it went. The technician didn't really say much, first thing she said, which was abrupt and snide was, " Are you planning on keeping this baby?" To which of course I replied yes, as did my OH. She then took the measurements, and said your 8 weeks. Done. That's it. Only reason I found out the due date was looking up at the screen myself. She didn't offer pictures, or any more information. Is this right or am I just over reacting??

 

[teenmommy15]

No she definitely should have been more kind and respectful. next time you go ask for a different technician because what she did was just rude and not right. your definitely not over reacting

 

[17pregnant]

Thankyou! Gosh reassured me a lot. I thought I was just being a drama queen. I think i'm just going to go to a different place all together next time! I'm obviously not 100% sure if it was because of my age, but I suspect it was. And it's the first kind of age prejudice i've experienced, I don't know if i'll ever be able to handle it

 

[ClairAye]

I've seen people of all ages have experiences like this, I think because you're only 8 weeks that all she wanted to do was a quick check, as the main checks happen around 12 & 20 weeks iykwim? I don't think you're over-reacting though, I would not be happy if I was spoken to like that!

 

[magic93]

I do not think your overreacting at all hun!
That is damn ignorant to ask someone if their keeping their child as an ultrasound tech!

 

[17pregnant]

I do not think your overreacting at all hun!
That is damn ignorant to ask someone if their keeping their child as an ultrasound tech!

Thankyou. I thought so too. I mean I really have no prior experience so I don't know whats right/wrong. I just kinda had a gut feeling it was wrong :/

I've seen people of all ages have experiences like this, I think because you're only 8 weeks that all she wanted to do was a quick check, as the main checks happen around 12 & 20 weeks iykwim? I don't think you're over-reacting though, I would not be happy if I was spoken to like that!

Yup I agree with that, I know she wanted a quick check, but I would've liked pictures, and if I hadn't of looked up at the screen I wouldn't of known my due date (I know I could've calculated it but still?) Good to know that it's not normal to be spoken to like that though Thanks

 

[teenmommy15]

you should have gotten pictures at your first scan, atleast i know i did.

 

[17pregnant]

you should have gotten pictures at your first scan, atleast i know i did.

When I had a scan at 9 weeks when I mc, the lady gave me pictures. She was lovely. I'm kind of gutted I didn't get them, well very gutted. I'm the type of person who just loves to document every single little thing, and this is the most important thing in my life yet! I wish I spoke up for myself, but thats the beauty of hindsight I suppose.

 

[teenmommy15]

me too and my ob was rude to me the first time i met her but still gave me pictures and discussed things with me etc cause its her job and she shouldnt put her ignorant feelings infront of them but after i let my ob know that i wasnt being treated like that and that i was going to be a good mother she was never rude to me again.

 

[ClairAye]

No, that's definitely not right, especially if she didn't write it in your notes (?) hope you get someone nicer next time!

 

[17pregnant]

No, that's definitely not right, especially if she didn't write it in your notes (?) hope you get someone nicer next time!

She didn't write anything down, well not that I saw anyway :/ Just done and dusted as soon as she could possibly do it, well thats how it seemed anyway. I'm going to go to a total different place and hope for the best

me too and my ob was rude to me the first time i met her but still gave me pictures and discussed things with me etc cause its her job and she shouldnt put her ignorant feelings infront of them but after i let my ob know that i wasnt being treated like that and that i was going to be a good mother she was never rude to me again.

I have to learn how to speak up for myself Haha hopefully it's easier than i'm expecting it to be x

 

[teenmommy15]

Lol it will be