Nicola83
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Hi ladies
I just have to get this off my chest! It'll probably be a long one, I'm sorry.
My mum is a difficult character at times but we generally get on fine. She has a lot of health issues (nothing serious) and in my honest opinion plays on them a bit, I think she likes the attention she gets when she's not well.
Since new year she's has a host of issues with her eyes, infection, dermatitis and finally the optician found the start of a cataract on one eye. Talking to her it's like no one has ever suffered with these things before, it's 'woe is me' constantly. She rarely asks how anyone else is before she has ranted about how bad she is.
2 weeks ago I asked her to pop up to the house and see me and DD as my DH was going to the hospital to see his dying Nanna (and had the car). She didn't want to because of her eyes. In the end we went to hospital with DH.
4 days later I text her asking how her eyes were and told her that day was the due date of my angel baby, I was really emotional. Well I got abuse back as I'd not bothered asking about her for days. I also got a text saying 'sorry about baby but don't make this about you, I'm ill blah blah blah'. I was disgusted, hurt, angry, the lot. This sort of thing has happened before when I've been 'told off' (I'm 31!) for not calling often enough but this was something else.
My dad rang and I told him I wouldn't spk to her until I got an apology and 2 weeks later I've still heard nothing. My own mother doesn't care how I felt on the day my angel baby was due, or how I am at 30 weeks pregnant, and I can't get past that
I'm upset and it's getting me down thinking about it all the time. I want to ring her and sort it all out but at the same time I know I've done nothing wrong and don't want to give in and have her think this is acceptable behaviour.
My DH says just leave it and she'll crawl back eventually but it's constantly on my mind and I don't want it affecting my health in any way.
I really don't know what to do! Families, who'd have them!!
I just have to get this off my chest! It'll probably be a long one, I'm sorry.
My mum is a difficult character at times but we generally get on fine. She has a lot of health issues (nothing serious) and in my honest opinion plays on them a bit, I think she likes the attention she gets when she's not well.
Since new year she's has a host of issues with her eyes, infection, dermatitis and finally the optician found the start of a cataract on one eye. Talking to her it's like no one has ever suffered with these things before, it's 'woe is me' constantly. She rarely asks how anyone else is before she has ranted about how bad she is.
2 weeks ago I asked her to pop up to the house and see me and DD as my DH was going to the hospital to see his dying Nanna (and had the car). She didn't want to because of her eyes. In the end we went to hospital with DH.
4 days later I text her asking how her eyes were and told her that day was the due date of my angel baby, I was really emotional. Well I got abuse back as I'd not bothered asking about her for days. I also got a text saying 'sorry about baby but don't make this about you, I'm ill blah blah blah'. I was disgusted, hurt, angry, the lot. This sort of thing has happened before when I've been 'told off' (I'm 31!) for not calling often enough but this was something else.
My dad rang and I told him I wouldn't spk to her until I got an apology and 2 weeks later I've still heard nothing. My own mother doesn't care how I felt on the day my angel baby was due, or how I am at 30 weeks pregnant, and I can't get past that
I'm upset and it's getting me down thinking about it all the time. I want to ring her and sort it all out but at the same time I know I've done nothing wrong and don't want to give in and have her think this is acceptable behaviour.
My DH says just leave it and she'll crawl back eventually but it's constantly on my mind and I don't want it affecting my health in any way.
I really don't know what to do! Families, who'd have them!!