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I am sorry ladies, but today has been an emotional roller-coaster and I needed a safe place to vent. This will most likely be a very long post, so my apologies now.
The first major issue we are having is one concerning our currently family members living with us. We ended up letting DH's sister and her boyfriend move in with us at the start of the year, due to them having to relocate from a friend's residence. We ended up talking about the issue and and everyone's wants and came to the agreement that they would move April 1st, if they cannot find their own place to her mother's home. He, meaning the boyfriend, just had to find a better paying job.
They would take care of themselves and their costs. Since staying here, they blow through our food budget (the difference to feed everyone coming from LO's savings), have borrowed money several times and never paid it back, their pets that we did not want here have destroyed parts of our house and furniture, they have no care as to the fact I am pregnant and wake me up at all hours of the night coming and going, do not help clean, do not contribute to bills, they constantly fight and drink and have thoroughly taken over our home.
During this entire ordeal, he has put in two applications, both of which he was 'forced' to do by SIL. As many can see the April agreement went straight out the window, and now when we try to broach the subject of what they are going to do I am yelled at, or they bring in DH's family to 'talk' with me and hubby is ignored. I just want straight answers, but to make matters in this situation worse SIL has just found out that she was pregnant. I was happy about the situation until I was told today that they are planning on staying here as long as they want or until he finds a new job, the job he knew since January he needed, which she says will take at least two more months to obtain ( she does not want to pressure him, since he needs time to come to terms with the fact that he is going to be a father. ) I want to be happy for them I really do, but when I am nothing more than a maid and a caretaker to them now- I cannot find it in me to be happy over the situation.
We now have been left with two options in this, either let them stay and deal with the above problems and a newborn or seek legal action that is going to cost us the rest of our savings and they would still be staying here until June due to the amount of days given by our state for relocation. This would also terminate our relationship with SIL, which up until now was amazing and to make matters worse be kicking a pregnant family member out on the streets.
Another bit of news today my mother who was supposed to be coming for all of three-five days later this month has now told me she will be staying the month, and I need to pick her up my induction day. This would be fine if it were not for the fact my mother is a recovering addict that likes to take advantage of people, I HAVE NO ROOM, and the rest of my family will not be around her due to their history. Which means the only person I wanted in the birthing room with me now will not even be coming down because she does not want to start problems for me (whenever my aunt and mother are around each other, they constantly fight so I do understand.)
Ladies I am sorry about the extremely long post, but it is days before I go in to have my daughter and I am so depressed. I do apologize again, and thank anyone who was able to make it through that.
The first major issue we are having is one concerning our currently family members living with us. We ended up letting DH's sister and her boyfriend move in with us at the start of the year, due to them having to relocate from a friend's residence. We ended up talking about the issue and and everyone's wants and came to the agreement that they would move April 1st, if they cannot find their own place to her mother's home. He, meaning the boyfriend, just had to find a better paying job.
They would take care of themselves and their costs. Since staying here, they blow through our food budget (the difference to feed everyone coming from LO's savings), have borrowed money several times and never paid it back, their pets that we did not want here have destroyed parts of our house and furniture, they have no care as to the fact I am pregnant and wake me up at all hours of the night coming and going, do not help clean, do not contribute to bills, they constantly fight and drink and have thoroughly taken over our home.
During this entire ordeal, he has put in two applications, both of which he was 'forced' to do by SIL. As many can see the April agreement went straight out the window, and now when we try to broach the subject of what they are going to do I am yelled at, or they bring in DH's family to 'talk' with me and hubby is ignored. I just want straight answers, but to make matters in this situation worse SIL has just found out that she was pregnant. I was happy about the situation until I was told today that they are planning on staying here as long as they want or until he finds a new job, the job he knew since January he needed, which she says will take at least two more months to obtain ( she does not want to pressure him, since he needs time to come to terms with the fact that he is going to be a father. ) I want to be happy for them I really do, but when I am nothing more than a maid and a caretaker to them now- I cannot find it in me to be happy over the situation.
We now have been left with two options in this, either let them stay and deal with the above problems and a newborn or seek legal action that is going to cost us the rest of our savings and they would still be staying here until June due to the amount of days given by our state for relocation. This would also terminate our relationship with SIL, which up until now was amazing and to make matters worse be kicking a pregnant family member out on the streets.
Another bit of news today my mother who was supposed to be coming for all of three-five days later this month has now told me she will be staying the month, and I need to pick her up my induction day. This would be fine if it were not for the fact my mother is a recovering addict that likes to take advantage of people, I HAVE NO ROOM, and the rest of my family will not be around her due to their history. Which means the only person I wanted in the birthing room with me now will not even be coming down because she does not want to start problems for me (whenever my aunt and mother are around each other, they constantly fight so I do understand.)
Ladies I am sorry about the extremely long post, but it is days before I go in to have my daughter and I am so depressed. I do apologize again, and thank anyone who was able to make it through that.