re-post from LTTC help - moods/health/stress??!!

[biscuitnodles]

Hello Girls,

I was wondering if any of you might like to share with me your experiences of IVF? it's the next step of our fertility journey if we are not naturally pregnant by April. (After 3yrs of trying, blood tests, sperm tests and lap&dye)

I am worried about what to expect. I'm worried about crazy mood swings, how tired/stressed/healthy or sick I might feel and I'm really worried about how to cope with the failure of it, if it does fail.

Please help, any advice or stories of how you stayed strong would really make me feel like im not alone! My husband (low sperm) is being really supportive, I couldn't ask for more. It's my family that are not helping, assuming I just need to relax more and it will happen naturally and stop going on about it!!

help!!

thank you

Amanda xx

 

[lbm2009]

I havent started ivf yet, im just awaiting referal from our Doctor. like you weve have been ttc 3.5 years and ivf is our only option as my husband has a low sperm count. (less than 5%)

I know exactly what you mean about the family not being supportive, my mum just told me to relax it will happen too. its a very stessful time and i find i cry more now than ever and the littlest thing sets me off.

All i can say is your not alone there are many people on here in the same situation.

I feel alone sometimes too. i get frustrated by people with children telling me they know how i feel, when actually they dont, my sis in law says it regularly when it only took her 3 months to get pregnant. 3months is a drop in the ocean compared to 3.5 years which feels like a lifetime.

im too scared about the outcome of the ivf, our pct only offers one funded treatment so i feel the pressure is immense. Im determined to stay positive because negitivity drains you, All i tell myself is it will work all we need is a little help.

Goodluck.

 

[rachelle1975]

I'm just having my second go but....

1st cycle I was happy & positive but felt quite stressed & fearful re drugs & EC. I felt pretty rotten & it took my a while after the cycle to sort my head out.

2nd cycle & I'm less stressed, obsessed & more chilled. The injections were easier, less side effects & EC was a breeze apart from mild OHSS. The wait to find out how many embies you have is killer, so is the wait for the call re 3 or 5 day transfers.

Thought 2nd go would be easier but I think it's been more emotional to do it all again knowing we probably won't have a third cycle due to money & the emotional side effects.

The positive outweigh the negative... It is a huge thing but it's a step closer to a baby

 

[biscuitnodles]

I havent started ivf yet, im just awaiting referal from our Doctor. like you weve have been ttc 3.5 years and ivf is our only option as my husband has a low sperm count. (less than 5%)

I know exactly what you mean about the family not being supportive, my mum just told me to relax it will happen too. its a very stessful time and i find i cry more now than ever and the littlest thing sets me off.

All i can say is your not alone there are many people on here in the same situation.

I feel alone sometimes too. i get frustrated by people with children telling me they know how i feel, when actually they dont, my sis in law says it regularly when it only took her 3 months to get pregnant. 3months is a drop in the ocean compared to 3.5 years which feels like a lifetime.

im too scared about the outcome of the ivf, our pct only offers one funded treatment so i feel the pressure is immense. Im determined to stay positive because negitivity drains you, All i tell myself is it will work all we need is a little help.

Goodluck.

You sound just like me! I have had bloods, lap & dye and I am okay, it is my husband who has low sperm and morphology. Only difference is as I am 25 (not 30) the PCT will not pay for any of my cycles so I have to pay £5,000-£6,000 myself!!!!

I am so glad you understand what it is like when people say 'just relax' and you think SHUT UP!!!

Amanda xx

 

[biscuitnodles]

I'm just having my second go but....

1st cycle I was happy & positive but felt quite stressed & fearful re drugs & EC. I felt pretty rotten & it took my a while after the cycle to sort my head out.

2nd cycle & I'm less stressed, obsessed & more chilled. The injections were easier, less side effects & EC was a breeze apart from mild OHSS. The wait to find out how many embies you have is killer, so is the wait for the call re 3 or 5 day transfers.

Thought 2nd go would be easier but I think it's been more emotional to do it all again knowing we probably won't have a third cycle due to money & the emotional side effects.

The positive outweigh the negative... It is a huge thing but it's a step closer to a baby

Thank you for your post, I am glad looking back you think the positives outweigh the negatives. I am on one hand really looking forward to it because we might be pregnant in a few months but on the other im so scared because if it fails we cant afford another, we can barely afford one cycle. no funding for under 30's is ridiculous!!!


Amanda xxx

 

[lbm2009]

I am 27 in march, i think its terrible that different PCT's have different rules.
We all pay the same national insurance. i hate all this postcode lottery,
Infertility is an illness and no one should be disciminated because of their age or where they live.
I think a baby and bump petition is in order to be delivered to the prime minister.

keep positive, it will happen for us one day.

 

[biscuitnodles]

I am 27 in march, i think its terrible that different PCT's have different rules.
We all pay the same national insurance. i hate all this postcode lottery,
Infertility is an illness and no one should be disciminated because of their age or where they live.
I think a baby and bump petition is in order to be delivered to the prime minister.

keep positive, it will happen for us one day.

That is such a good idea! Xx

 

[lbm2009]

Please sign this petition. She magazine have also been intouch and are running a story on the postcode lottery!