Reaching My Loss Milestone

[Starry Night]

Hey ladies,

My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 12 1/2 weeks....just days before my 13 week scan and after twice seeing it on ultrasound with a heart beat. I'll be 11 weeks tomorrow so now I'm entering the time I lost my first baby and the milestone has me freaked. It doesn't help I still get lots of brown discharge leftover from my sub-chroniac haemorrhage.

For those who have already passed this milestone how did you cope during this time? I've already seen my baby multiple times and it's been great each time. But having a later loss makes me think I can't feel safe yet. I'm starting to dread a Christmas loss. I know I can't let myself dwell but due to my sch I have been on bed rest and it gives me lots of time to think and worry.

Thanks

 

[heva510]

Hi Hun nothing anyone can say to u will make u worry less x try and keep busy I went through weeks of bleeding etc and have passed milestone x keeping everything crossed for u love Heather p.s if u want a chat p.m Hun x

 

[hb1]

milestones are hard, my anniversary of my mc was the week before last and it makes you go right back there.

Try and stay positive - there is more chance that all is well than not.

Take care

hx

 

[MrsWez]

I've passed 3 milestones and it doesn't seem to ease my mind much to be honest. I'm so afraid of something going wrong but at the same time I am so grateful to be where I'm at. It's a very conflicting feeling. My DH took me out to dinner to celebrate our latest milestone (10 weeks) it was very sweet.

 

[Starry Night]

That's so nice that your dh took you out for dinner to celebrate. Hubby and I should do that once we reach the New Year. He bought me a pizza when we found out that our baby survived my latest big bleed (clots as big as my hand).

 

[SugarFairy]

Starry I've been wondering about you lately. Glad to hear everythings still great
*hugs* as you approach your milestone xx

 

[secretbaby]

I didn't stop worrying when I passed my loss milestones, but I did breath a huge sigh of relife. We did not mark passing them anyway specificially.

 

[MrsWez]

I think I won't be alone in saying I will relax when I have a healthy baby in my arms. Until then I will be anxious.

 

[cgweegee]

I didn't stop worrying either, I don't think I really let myself acknowledge the milestone until I was well past it.

 

[MrsWez]

That's so nice that your dh took you out for dinner to celebrate. Hubby and I should do that once we reach the New Year. He bought me a pizza when we found out that our baby survived my latest big bleed (clots as big as my hand).

We are taking a weekend trip for New Years to celebrate reaching the second trimester.

 

[Starry Night]

Ugh. I had a big cramp today that was so intense it had my lower back throbbing. But in spite of the pain it didn't feel like my miscarriage cramps had as there was no downward pressure. It was more just below the belly button but it was still scary! DH did some online research and found that you can braxton hicks this early and that my constipation could have been a culprit (had a huge bm afterwards, tmi, lol).

But I have started to trade 1st trimester symptoms for 2nd trimester. Heartburn has replaced ms and I now have the appetite of a gorilla. And my bump is starting to pop. I'm choosing to see these as good signs.

 

[SammieGrace]

I am right at the point where I started spotting last time when I mc'd and now I am going through the exact same thing while away on vaca over christmas. Needless to say I am very worried with all of this again! Positive hopes and prayers needed! Anyone had this happen and have it turn out ok? Cause last time did not end well for me?

 

[Starry Night]

I started to spot at 5 weeks and bled right through to about 9 weeks when I passed some huge clots and baby so far is fine. It turns out I had a sub-choroniac bleed. I've been spotting brown the past few weeks and even that has seemed to stop (for now). My latest ultrasound showed all was clear. If you're concerned you should get checked out. Definitely thinking of you!

Less than a week until I reach my milestone....

 

[SammieGrace]

Thanks for your reply! When the spotting started I called my dr right away, he told me to take advil and tylenol every six hours to calm the cramping and that this was all I could do until my appointment the first week of jan. He said it could just be a "blip" and he hopes that everything will turn out to be fine. But he also said that if I mc this early it would just be like a bad period, not too comforting in all honesty. I am trying to enjoy my vacation and hoping the baby can hang on in there!

 

[Starry Night]

If you get really worried could you go to the emergency? That's where I went the first few weeks and they would check my hcg levels and give me an ultrasound. This early on spotting and cramping could mean ectopic so they should take you seriously.