Read and Run!

[RebeccaG]

Why is there so much reading and running in this forum?!! If you don't know what to say to offer any advice you can offer some hugs or positive thoughts! It isn't nice to see that sooooo many people have read your post but not responded!
Sorry for rant am feeling very emotional at the moment!

 

[Marleysgirl]

(didn't want to R&R lol)

Now this is just my opinion, but I think that in this section, Mums/Dads tend to be talking about specific problems and stick to their own area of experience/expertise. Sometimes we have to open a thread to see what the question is, but then we can't actually help so we don't post.

I guess what I'm saying is that posters in this section tend to be more focussed and less into platitudes

 

[sun]

I agree with Marleysgirl - I don't post much because "special needs" covers so many different things and I know next to nothing about most of them. If I think I can help or offer something useful, or if someone is posting about their LO in general terms then I will. xx

 

[Tegans Mama]

This is also why I very very rarely ask for support in this section. I've written threads that poured my heart out in here before and had five billion r&rs and not a single reply. When you need that help, it's humiliating.

 

[Lottie86]

If the title doesn't make it clear what the question is I tend to open it, read it and then reply if I can help. I now absolutely nothing really about for example ASDs which a lot of threads are about so I don't like to reply.

SN is always an 'odd' section as our LOs are all so different that depending on what our child's issues are sometimes there really is no one who can answer our questions.

We don't seem to have the sort of closeness in here that you find in other 'specialist' areas of the forum ie the loss sections, preemie section etc but again I think it's down to things being so varied with our children

 

[Lottie86]

Lea: you always know where I am if you need me

 

[sophxx]

Remember some of those reads are guest views so they can't reply.

 

[RebeccaG]

Yeh I can understand that - fair point. I just felt that so many people had read my thread but only a couple of people responded. I guess I was looking for support as well as answers to my questions.

 

[hopeandpray]

I am always afraid to leave just hugs in case the OP sees that there's a reply to the thread and thinks I have useful information for them. it's not that people don't care.

 

[Tegans Mama]

I know it's different but I think it's similar to the loss section. It makes me angry that people come in here to read our threads (which are sometimes VERY personal eg continence issues), read them, think "aww poor kid" or think "glad THAT's not me!" and then move along. I don't post anymore because I feel like my life is a freakshow or a spectator sport. I haven't brought it up with the mods or admin but I feel it's unfair that the loss sections have no view count but we do in here.

 

[Tegans Mama]

Scratch that, I have bought it up with admin. Hope they can help by removing the post count

 

[LoveleeB]

I agree with you, Tegans Mama, I also wish this section were locked so it isn't just "entertainment" for some...

 

[Tegans Mama]

I agree entirely tho I'm sure that won't happen. It just really pisses me off that people are insensitive enough to actually read our heartfelt threads for shits and giggles and then move along. Maybe they don't have anything to say but an acknowledgement would be nice!

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Wow lea so true. I agree and sometimes I dont want to post as people just think thank god thats not me

I wish it could be a private section or at the very least no post count x

 

[Marleysgirl]

I've never been in the loss section, so I didn't realise that it had no "view count". I would agree that it would be a really good idea for this section.

 

[Tegans Mama]

There was a lot of fuss made a while back about people reading the threads and not commenting, which is exactly what is happening on here x

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I hope the mods read this as I have alot of issues I would like to address but I dont like every willy nilly seeing if they dont need too

 

[Tegans Mama]

Send a PM hun. the more of us that complain the more likely it is they'll do something about it

 

[immie]

Although i have no relation to this section of bnb i do care very much for those that do. So i just wanted to offer cuddles lots of love and kind thoughts to all that are going through really tough times with issues raised on the special needs thread I know it doesn't help in any way but it's nice to hear a few kind words now and again xxx

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Thanks xxx

I will do TM xxx