I am feeling a bit depressed at the mo as I'm just very confused.
i've been waiting to try for about 4 years now and had said i would start trying this august/september. i have been soooo broody for the whole time and really looked forward to trying for another. i have a 9 year old and a 4 year old so it was all about timing for school/nursery fees etc.
anyhow, the time has come and i'm now very confused. i'd always said i'd wanted 3 children. i had my first when i was 20 so was very young but never felt i'd missed out on anything. i'm married, got a nice house, lovely husband, we have nights out and big holidays, etc.
but now i'm questioning my life. i've recently turned 30 and i know it sounds stupid but i've watched a few leo dicaprio films recently which has made me question things. i've seen him in a whole new light- he's beautiful!! so i googled him and realised he's not married, etc. his lifestyle sounds great, going to ibiza, living in malibu etc. and i don't know why but that triggered me to start thinking i've done nothing in my life. i had dreams of being an actress when i was young but now i'm in a job that i'd never planned on doing (it's not a bad job) and have lived in the same city my whole life. i want to try something new, to live abroad or something but my husband is not interested. i feel i've made no contribution to society or done anything amazing in my life (apart from having my kids) and i want to do something.
i love my kids to bits and don't regret for one minute having them but i'm not sure i want another one now. i don't want when i'm older to look back and wish i had had another one.
long story i know and a bit random but i'm just so confused and keep crying. my youngest has physical problems so i'm worried if i have another one that they will also have physical problems and will i cope with that? he's also very angry and can be very hurtful at times, he's very difficult to cope with. he makes me very sad sometimes, saying he doesn't want me anymore and to go away. i think about the extra money i'll have and freedom when he starts school which i won't have if i have another one.
i'm really confused and not sure what i want. feels like an early midlife crisis. has anyone else felt this way when it came to start trying?
i've been waiting to try for about 4 years now and had said i would start trying this august/september. i have been soooo broody for the whole time and really looked forward to trying for another. i have a 9 year old and a 4 year old so it was all about timing for school/nursery fees etc.
anyhow, the time has come and i'm now very confused. i'd always said i'd wanted 3 children. i had my first when i was 20 so was very young but never felt i'd missed out on anything. i'm married, got a nice house, lovely husband, we have nights out and big holidays, etc.
but now i'm questioning my life. i've recently turned 30 and i know it sounds stupid but i've watched a few leo dicaprio films recently which has made me question things. i've seen him in a whole new light- he's beautiful!! so i googled him and realised he's not married, etc. his lifestyle sounds great, going to ibiza, living in malibu etc. and i don't know why but that triggered me to start thinking i've done nothing in my life. i had dreams of being an actress when i was young but now i'm in a job that i'd never planned on doing (it's not a bad job) and have lived in the same city my whole life. i want to try something new, to live abroad or something but my husband is not interested. i feel i've made no contribution to society or done anything amazing in my life (apart from having my kids) and i want to do something.
i love my kids to bits and don't regret for one minute having them but i'm not sure i want another one now. i don't want when i'm older to look back and wish i had had another one.
long story i know and a bit random but i'm just so confused and keep crying. my youngest has physical problems so i'm worried if i have another one that they will also have physical problems and will i cope with that? he's also very angry and can be very hurtful at times, he's very difficult to cope with. he makes me very sad sometimes, saying he doesn't want me anymore and to go away. i think about the extra money i'll have and freedom when he starts school which i won't have if i have another one.
i'm really confused and not sure what i want. feels like an early midlife crisis. has anyone else felt this way when it came to start trying?