Really hoping I'm not the only one who feels like this!

[fuffyburra]

Hey everyone I'm not engaged yet but I think it'll be happening within the next year. I know it sounds stupid but does anyone else think they'll feel embarassed walking down the aisle and having the whole day focused on them? I cringe just thinking about it! Usually I'm a right show off but when it comes to getting married I couldn't feel more different.
It might be because we're only 20 and I'm worried people will think it's too young. Mind you, by the time we actually get married we'll be 22ish, but I think I'll still feel silly then I don't think I'd feel okay about that aspect unless I was 25 or over! And even then there's other reasons for feeling ridiculous!
I just know there'll be someone who doesn't approve or thinks we're too young or whatever... Again, not the sort of thing that usually bothers me, I just do whatever takes my fancy with very little thought of anyone else's opinion, but this time it matters.
Ahhhhh seeee I'm just getting myself worked up over it! Does anyone else feel this, or did anyone feel it before their wedding?
Please help, I feel silly even asking! :/
Thankyoooooou!

 

[fuffyburra]

BUMP!

Starting to get freaked out now that I AM completely alone in this after all

 

[orange-sox]

Oh you poor thing

I understand completely what you mean, which is why when we get married there's only going to be OH and I there - we plan to get married on a cruise, and have two crew members as witnesses! That way I can focus completely on our wedding day, and not on what people think, and that everyone has the right meal etc etc etc.

We're going to have a big party when we get back so I can wear my dress again!

 

[firstLO]

You're not alone. I was a nervous wreck walking down the aisle and it was all because I hated the idea of everyone watching me! plus I was quite stressed.

 

[Shezbum]

This is not a silly question at all huni,, I didnt like to start with when people found out i was pregnant ..... I felt terrible saying that and when i told my mum she said to me its individual people thats how we are. Dont worry and try not to stress urself out 2 much-maybe talk to ur partner and say these feelings to him xx

 

[pinkclaire]

I just made sure that I only invited the people who I actually wanted there no matter what fuss was caused! it meant that the people who were there I felt comfortable! I was 8 months pregnant when I got married, I am 25 my OH is 23 and thought people would judge us, but actually once we'd told everyone about the wedding those worrys went! If you plan of having the right day that you want it will help, although I think every bride feels nervous walking down the aisle!

 

[fuffyburra]

THANK GOD! I was so worried I've talked to OH about it, and he's been really good trying to reasure me. I told him I wish we could just fastforward through the wedding bit to the married bit Or just go to Vegas (and now a cruise is sounding appealing!!) but he wants his whole family there which obviously I can't say no to, it's too important to him. I'm feeling a bit better about it now though, just knowing that I'm not the only nervous wreck!! I'm sure when the horrible walking down the aisle thing is over I'll be able to enjoy myself.
Thankyou so much everyone, you've no idea how helpful and comforting you've been

 

[enola]

Hey there - I just wanted to share with you that you are totally NOT alone in feeling this!
I got married last June, aged 22 and my husband was 21! The church was totally packed out and I got really worked up over the idea of everyone looking at me and 'what if I do/say something stupid or trip' etc. etc. BUT on the day it was TOTALLY fine! Something must've switched in me overnight or something, because putting on that dress I felt like it was OK for me to be the centre of attention this one time, and I felt like a princess all day surrounded by people I loved
You'll be absolutely fine, it's so so normal to feel pressured about 'everyone looking at you', but remember they are there to celebrate and weddings are happy occasions, no one will be judging and it'll be all smiles I'm sure. Good luck!

 

[fuffyburra]

I really hope that clicks in me before our wedding day, it gives me hope reading all your stories Right now I'm thinking "I can't wait 'til it's over!" but I bet on the day I'll be thinking "I don't want it to end! Just 5 more minutes!" xx