really pisses me off that ...

[BethHx]

because my OH works we are entitled to hardly any benefits!!
Just because he works doesn't mean we don't need the extra help.
I don't even qualify for healthy start vouchers!
When we went to apply for a council house the man said 'do you work' when my OH said yes he laughed as if it was a bad thing & told us we had no chance! It really bloody annoys me.
So now we've had to get a mortgage, buy a house & budget.
Don't get me wrong i'm glad we've managed to do it all alone but why should we not get stuff because he works?!

Everyone is telling us to lie & say we don't live together etc but i shouldn't have to lie! Even the man at the council housing thing said that we will have to lie & say we've been kicked out & have no where to live.
Im not a bloody liar!!

argh rant.

 

[HellBunny]

Its rubbish isn't it! I would of liked them vouchers aswell but no chance! lol.
Could you not of rented privately? xxx

 

[OhhBabyBump]

Thats crazy! Im not sure how benefits work where you are, but here in the u.s. in Washington state, you can get benefits for ONLY you, regardless of of who you live with. But then after the babys born they would go after OH for child support. Im glad to hear you are doing fine without benefits though, thats good! Congrats and good luck

 

[BethHx]

We could have gone private but the monthly payment would be alot more expensive & its kkind of dead money when we know we can be using that money to payy off the mortgage. I wish it was based on the individual as jist cause my oh earns, how do tgey lnow je spends that on lo & me (thankfilly he does) it reallllly amnoys me, erg!,

 

[Kiki1993]

because my OH works we are entitled to hardly any benefits!!
Just because he works doesn't mean we don't need the extra help.
I don't even qualify for healthy start vouchers!
When we went to apply for a council house the man said 'do you work' when my OH said yes he laughed as if it was a bad thing & told us we had no chance! It really bloody annoys me.
So now we've had to get a mortgage, buy a house & budget.
Don't get me wrong i'm glad we've managed to do it all alone but why should we not get stuff because he works?!

Everyone is telling us to lie & say we don't live together etc but i shouldn't have to lie! Even the man at the council housing thing said that we will have to lie & say we've been kicked out & have no where to live.
Im not a bloody liar!!

argh rant.

Know how you feel. I'm in quite a low paid job 12000 a year after tax. OH is in a low paid job as well so we can't afford a morgage and private rent would take half our pay and thats not including food, tv license, electricity, gas etc. We don't want to get married or ttc until we are in our own place and because we are working full time we got told the exact same thing. But we also got told if we got pregnant we would have a chance or if we got kicked out It is not fair at all but keep looking for things you maybe entitled to. My sister is a single teen mum but she works full time so she gets no help with rent but she gets half her childcare paid (not much but it helps her out a lot) and she got milk vouchers but they didn't do her anygood at all seeing as she breastfed It really isn't fair but i hope you get some help, does your OH earn quite a bit or under enough to claim support? And i know you don't like lieing but would you consider applying for a house on your own and then once you are in a house move him in? You will be more likely to get one if it is just you without your OH who works but they can't chuck you out just because you move someone who works in?
It's amazing you have been able to cope with a mortgage nowadays, we are too scared to get one so private let is our only choice it seems
Good luck x

 

[Hannah :)]

Its annoying is it! Just cos me and OH work doesn't mean we don't need any extra help!
We get child benefit, we don't even get child tax credit anymore. Which is the only thing I'm annoyed about cos it really helped a lot.
We have a mortgage and bills to pay and my a car to pay for. I mean we get by don't get me wrong but it is a struggle some months!
That's a load of crap about the council house! Fair enough you would probs have to be on a waiting list for a while but I know someone who had a job as a plumber and he and his family have just been given a house!

Hope you get in ok hun

X

 

[ClairAye]

I don't get the council bit? My OH works and we're in a council and pretty high up for moving into a bigger place too
Good on you for managing it all on your own though

^ Sorry that isn't much help

 

[Kiki1993]

I don't get the council bit? My OH works and we're in a council and pretty high up for moving into a bigger place too
Good on you for managing it all on your own though

^ Sorry that isn't much help

It could be your area? For example, my area there is a high demand for council housing (my mum has one because she needed a ground floor for her disabilities and needed it immediately so got it) but in my area the houses are mainly given to young mums which is fair enough or junkies who got themselves homeless because their families disown them. Because there is such a high rate of both in my area for example, the ones who are given priority are the ones who simply could not afford any other option (private) which is the ones who are unemployed so basically if you have a job they think you are more likely to afford private than those who recieve benefits (even though my friend gets more than i do working with all her and her OH benefits combined)

 

[beanzz]

when your LO is here you should be able to get help with money. I'm claiming child benefit which is about £20 a week and I'm sending off a form for child/working tax credit (whichever one you get whilst on maternity leave lol) and that'll be around £150 a week because of what I earnt last year. I'm only band C for a house though.

I know someone who's mum had to make her homeless so she'd get given a house and it overlooks the sea and they now spend weekends at eachothers places ... my mum wants to try that

 

[BethHx]

Know how you feel. I'm in quite a low paid job 12000 a year after tax. OH is in a low paid job as well so we can't afford a morgage and private rent would take half our pay and thats not including food, tv license, electricity, gas etc. We don't want to get married or ttc until we are in our own place and because we are working full time we got told the exact same thing. But we also got told if we got pregnant we would have a chance or if we got kicked out It is not fair at all but keep looking for things you maybe entitled to. My sister is a single teen mum but she works full time so she gets no help with rent but she gets half her childcare paid (not much but it helps her out a lot) and she got milk vouchers but they didn't do her anygood at all seeing as she breastfed It really isn't fair but i hope you get some help, does your OH earn quite a bit or under enough to claim support? And i know you don't like lieing but would you consider applying for a house on your own and then once you are in a house move him in? You will be more likely to get one if it is just you without your OH who works but they can't chuck you out just because you move someone who works in?
It's amazing you have been able to cope with a mortgage nowadays, we are too scared to get one so private let is our only choice it seems
Good luck x

He earns to much to get any help himself. & we could have done it just through me but theres alot of dodgy areas by me & without sounding snobby no way was i being shoved in a council house in one of those areas.
The only reason we went on the council list is because my OH lives in a nice village & they were building council houses there where people from the village get priority so we was hoping to get one of those - but no chance! & it would be pointless me doing it all alone now we have a mortgage & have bought a house lol.

I don't get the council bit? My OH works and we're in a council and pretty high up for moving into a bigger place too
Good on you for managing it all on your own though

^ Sorry that isn't much help

Its because of the area i live, its a small town with several vile places & the amount of people needing/wanting a house is ridic. People get pregnant round by me just to get a house! So when people like me who actually needed it come along we have no chance.

 

[BethHx]

when your LO is here you should be able to get help with money. I'm claiming child benefit which is about £20 a week and I'm sending off a form for child/working tax credit (whichever one you get whilst on maternity leave lol) and that'll be around £150 a week because of what I earnt last year. I'm only band C for a house though.

I know someone who's mum had to make her homeless so she'd get given a house and it overlooks the sea and they now spend weekends at eachothers places ... my mum wants to try that

I will be getting income support & child benefit for the first 4 weeks but then we move out on our so the income support stops. I'll still get the £20.00 a week though, i hope! or maybe its £17.54 or something i'll be getting.
But even living here i don't get child/working tax credit.
When we've moved out ill be sickness/disability benefit anyway but thats still only gonna give me like £50.00 a week or something.
& do it, all my friends got there moms to lie (well the ones i have with babies) but they hate where they have been placed cause of the dodgy areas by us x

 

[Kiki1993]

Haha do you happen to live around my area? Fife? I don't wanna sound snobby but my god! I can't wait to get out of the area i'm in but i don't want to leave my mum there, we have had our house broken into because a junkie knew my mum had loads of painkillers to ease her pain Sick people! Our neighbours also saw her fall over in the garden and did any of them help her..no....she fell out the car once and again the busy street not one of them helped her up I was attacked by a group of tween boys with stones and bricks for no reason we litteraly walk around with our heads to the floor its that bad Hope we can afford to move to one of the nicer parts of fife but the area im in i just want to kick their bums. I hate that my mum has to stay there, she told the council she is worried about living here on her own once i leave because if i hadn't been there when we got broken into, when she falls no one will help her and i've seen 2 men in the past year in our garden looking through our kitchen window (where mum keeps her medicine) and i've woken up to men standing outside my window and because my step dad leaves 3 months out of the year to visit family in england mum is left alone and it terrifies me to leave her here

 

[BethHx]

Wow it's not that bad where i'm from. Thats horrible that people would just leave your mom! & i have a fear off going downstairs at night incase there is someone looking through the window.
Alot of the areas round by me are really nice, but alot are vile - there is no inbetween section.
Thankfully we live in a nice area, not one house has been broken into in the past 35 years, but if i take a 5 minute walk ill be on the 'worst road' in our area.
I hope you can move out for your sake but really do feel for your mom, some people are just vile!

 

[bumblebeexo]

I know a lot of people in my area who have said they have been kicked out to get a house and it's worked for them because otherwise they wouldn't have been able to get anywhere. The only thing is where I live most people end up in 'emergency housing' to begin with which really is the total pits, but they can then wait for a 'normal house'.
I am extremely lucky as OH's granny left him her house so we live rent and mortgage free, and I know that very little people are as lucky as us.
I personally think that everybody should be entitled to the healthy start vouchers regardless of income, it would encourage people to be healthy because just because you're on a higher income than someone else doesn't mean you are more likely to be more healthy!

 

[MUM0FTW0]

Well sometimes things arent always fair but you gotta do what cha gotta do
I said for a long time I didnt live with OH because he made too much money technically for us to have any benefits...so I said I lived with someone else and now I get $576 dollars for food every month.
I changed my address and said I lived with OH but I said we werent together...just living together..and I still get the benefits because they didnt look into his income since we "arent together"

You can say you "should have to lie" but you can always think of other options if you truly need help...theres no point in sitting around being mad about it when you can actually get them,without having to lie

I guarantee if you think of something,and get on benefits..youll wish you did a long time ago haha goodluck

 

[Kiki1993]

Wow it's not that bad where i'm from. Thats horrible that people would just leave your mom! & i have a fear off going downstairs at night incase there is someone looking through the window.
Alot of the areas round by me are really nice, but alot are vile - there is no inbetween section.
Thankfully we live in a nice area, not one house has been broken into in the past 35 years, but if i take a 5 minute walk ill be on the 'worst road' in our area.
I hope you can move out for your sake but really do feel for your mom, some people are just vile!

I really hope she at least finds somewhere a bit nicer, my gran has a council house in a lovely area and i wish mum would get offered somewhere like that but apparently there is no reason for her to need to move because the house is okay for her disability (it has 3 steps outside to get into ourwalkway and then there is 2 to get in the house) and it is pretty hard for her because she has to drag her leg up while using crutches to support herself as well And if i wasn't there when we got broken into he could've killed her, he pushed past me and hit me and luckily im young and healthy so it wasn't too bad but if he had done that to mum she would have just fell over and damaged her back more or she couldve hit her head if she fell and i dont want her being here. I mean it took one low life finding out about mums medicine and he broke in, i keep worrying if he tells his friends and they try it too my sister lives close by as well so she visits a lot like everyday but its night that im worried about most, its more dangerous people wise and then there is the fact she could slip in the bath and everything. You can't help but worry about your family i guess but i would worry less if i could sleep knowing the chances of someone breaking in is slim instead of likely.
I'm glad your in a nice area, fingers crossed mum gets one! Once i move out they might offer for her to get a smaller place seeing as she would have a spare room so thats what im hoping for got to stay hopeful!

 

[x__amour]

I wish we had more help here in the US. Hope you guys can sort something out soon.

 

[BethHx]

Were just gonna have to lube withour, weve budgeted so its possible just annoys me. & mumoftwo there really is no way around it apart from not living with oh or lieng & im not willing to do either tbh as were a family so I shouldnt have to not live with him etc (sorry if I aeem short & spelling is crap, on my phone)x

 

[ClairAye]

I don't get the council bit? My OH works and we're in a council and pretty high up for moving into a bigger place too
Good on you for managing it all on your own though

^ Sorry that isn't much help

It could be your area? For example, my area there is a high demand for council housing (my mum has one because she needed a ground floor for her disabilities and needed it immediately so got it) but in my area the houses are mainly given to young mums which is fair enough or junkies who got themselves homeless because their families disown them. Because there is such a high rate of both in my area for example, the ones who are given priority are the ones who simply could not afford any other option (private) which is the ones who are unemployed so basically if you have a job they think you are more likely to afford private than those who recieve benefits (even though my friend gets more than i do working with all her and her OH benefits combined)

Might be there's a 20k population, also I forgot we're not council we're housing association - do you have one of those?

 

[BethHx]

I don't get the council bit? My OH works and we're in a council and pretty high up for moving into a bigger place too
Good on you for managing it all on your own though

^ Sorry that isn't much help

It could be your area? For example, my area there is a high demand for council housing (my mum has one because she needed a ground floor for her disabilities and needed it immediately so got it) but in my area the houses are mainly given to young mums which is fair enough or junkies who got themselves homeless because their families disown them. Because there is such a high rate of both in my area for example, the ones who are given priority are the ones who simply could not afford any other option (private) which is the ones who are unemployed so basically if you have a job they think you are more likely to afford private than those who recieve benefits (even though my friend gets more than i do working with all her and her OH benefits combined)

Might be there's a 20k population, also I forgot we're not council we're housing association - do you have one of those?

Yeah, it was the housing association we went through but by me its linked in with the council, so if you have no chance with housing association you have even less chance with the council lol.