Hey Ladies ...
Well, here I am ... 6 weeks out ... from the worst day of my life!
I truly thought I was gonna be OK once this day came, I've been thinking & planning for it actually .. BUT it's crap! It actually started off as any other day but soon went to crap as soon as I was talking with a friend ....
Well, here's what did it... Let me fill ya in just a bit ..
I have 4 older children and my 4th child was a preemie, d/t stupid IC (Incompetent Cervix) well, that was 8 years ago... He was in the NICU for 3 months growing & doing amazing, we walked away from that with NO issues.. SOooo very blessed with that, he was born at 27 weeks weighting 2.5lbs ...
SO, I met this lady in the NICU, her daughter was born about the same day, same issues and we bacame friends... After all these years, we have still remained in contact and get the kids together regularly... BUT as we spoke of our NICU babies turning 8 in a few days , I mentioned how it made me think of my Emma, how I won't get to celebrate those accomplishments with her ... Very quiet & deep in thought when she said .... " I understand, and you have beautiful children & Emma is in the best place." ... OMG...
Really?!? Did she really just say ALL of those lil things.... I was immediately upset , felt like I was gonna snap FINALLY and tell her "NO! You don't understand! Have you ever been told that you are gonna deliver your daughter and she will not make one lil sound, that she will already be passed away once you see her...." NOpe, she hasn't ... Then wanna say " Yes! I KNOW I have 4 beautiful healthy children, but who the hell care how many living children I have, I still lost 1! The pain is still there!" ... She has 2 children, and I soooo wanted to say " Well so, if something happened to your daughter, then I could say, Well at least you have your son!" ... Seriously...?? Then when she said "She's in a better place." .... Really?? No! She isn't, best place for her is to be with her MOTHER ....
I really wanna make a flyer and pass it out to everyone I know.... Saying ... "What NOT to say to a grieveing mother" .... Hahahaha ...
I just hate this all ... Emma was born 6 weeks ago tomorrow, I'm going back to work soon , with NO baby ... Can't believe I just had to take a maternity leave with NO baby in my house... No cute baby pics to take to work with me to show off my daughter ... No funny sweet stories to share how she doesnt sleep well & we sit and rock and sing silly songs ....
My heart is broken all over again .... As I lay in bed for the last few nights, thoughts of her consume me, just longing to be her mom , to be able to do all the things I do with my other children, well damn it, I wanna do them with her too ...
I'll never understand why she was taken from me & I'm really trying not to be angry at HIM and trying to remain open minded, but not today .... I'm not angry, just heartbroken & miss my Em ... She would have had such a great life ...
Thanks girls for always listening & showing me such support ...
Well, here I am ... 6 weeks out ... from the worst day of my life!
I truly thought I was gonna be OK once this day came, I've been thinking & planning for it actually .. BUT it's crap! It actually started off as any other day but soon went to crap as soon as I was talking with a friend ....
Well, here's what did it... Let me fill ya in just a bit ..
I have 4 older children and my 4th child was a preemie, d/t stupid IC (Incompetent Cervix) well, that was 8 years ago... He was in the NICU for 3 months growing & doing amazing, we walked away from that with NO issues.. SOooo very blessed with that, he was born at 27 weeks weighting 2.5lbs ...
SO, I met this lady in the NICU, her daughter was born about the same day, same issues and we bacame friends... After all these years, we have still remained in contact and get the kids together regularly... BUT as we spoke of our NICU babies turning 8 in a few days , I mentioned how it made me think of my Emma, how I won't get to celebrate those accomplishments with her ... Very quiet & deep in thought when she said .... " I understand, and you have beautiful children & Emma is in the best place." ... OMG...
Really?!? Did she really just say ALL of those lil things.... I was immediately upset , felt like I was gonna snap FINALLY and tell her "NO! You don't understand! Have you ever been told that you are gonna deliver your daughter and she will not make one lil sound, that she will already be passed away once you see her...." NOpe, she hasn't ... Then wanna say " Yes! I KNOW I have 4 beautiful healthy children, but who the hell care how many living children I have, I still lost 1! The pain is still there!" ... She has 2 children, and I soooo wanted to say " Well so, if something happened to your daughter, then I could say, Well at least you have your son!" ... Seriously...?? Then when she said "She's in a better place." .... Really?? No! She isn't, best place for her is to be with her MOTHER ....
I really wanna make a flyer and pass it out to everyone I know.... Saying ... "What NOT to say to a grieveing mother" .... Hahahaha ...
I just hate this all ... Emma was born 6 weeks ago tomorrow, I'm going back to work soon , with NO baby ... Can't believe I just had to take a maternity leave with NO baby in my house... No cute baby pics to take to work with me to show off my daughter ... No funny sweet stories to share how she doesnt sleep well & we sit and rock and sing silly songs ....
My heart is broken all over again .... As I lay in bed for the last few nights, thoughts of her consume me, just longing to be her mom , to be able to do all the things I do with my other children, well damn it, I wanna do them with her too ...
I'll never understand why she was taken from me & I'm really trying not to be angry at HIM and trying to remain open minded, but not today .... I'm not angry, just heartbroken & miss my Em ... She would have had such a great life ...
Thanks girls for always listening & showing me such support ...