Dream.A.Dream
Mum to 6yo and WTT #2!
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Really really really struggling with waiting today.
I just want to cry and scream and shout
I know it's completely irrational but i want to shout at OH and ask how he can be so selfish and lie to my face when he says he'd do anything to make me happy.(I know he isn't actually being selfish, if anything i probably am) He obviously won't do anything because he won't let us try for the one thing that would make me happy. I've even gone as far as to think that he can't really love me, because if he did then he would want me to be happy which he clearly doesn't. Why should i sacrifice my happiness for his?
I know a baby is a commitment between two people, but he's even been saying in recent months that it is definitely something he wants, he is ready but he wants to wait until we've moved in together to start trying (which will be by Jan at the latest). I think he thinks that if he just sticks his bits inside me for one second i'll get pregnant. He doesn't understand it can take a lot of time. I've found out that i need surgery in the near future. It could possibly end up being even bigger surgery than first suspected. The more serious surgery has quite high complication risks (around 5-10% of people do not survive the operation), it could also be an even more serious condition/disease than is currently known. As over the top as this will sound...i don't want to die without having had the chance to have children. I do not want to undergo very serious surgery without knowing i've at least tried to achieve my dream of having a family.
I also am getting really down about people not understanding how i feel, saying i'm stupid because of my age or that it's hard work. I know exactly how much hard work it is, through my own experiences with people i know and through reading those of people on here. Contrary to what a lot of people keep telling me i don't think a baby is just a doll to look after. I know it's a lifelong commitment, it's one i want to make. I know that i won't have my own freedom and someone else will suddenly become the centre of all of my decisions, i can't think of anything that would make me happier. There's nothing i want more than seeing my own child grow and develop, and being involved in that process.
Sorry this is so long, and such a rant. If anyone managed to read it all then thanks for taking the time. I just feel so down about it . xx
I just want to cry and scream and shout
I know it's completely irrational but i want to shout at OH and ask how he can be so selfish and lie to my face when he says he'd do anything to make me happy.(I know he isn't actually being selfish, if anything i probably am) He obviously won't do anything because he won't let us try for the one thing that would make me happy. I've even gone as far as to think that he can't really love me, because if he did then he would want me to be happy which he clearly doesn't. Why should i sacrifice my happiness for his?
I know a baby is a commitment between two people, but he's even been saying in recent months that it is definitely something he wants, he is ready but he wants to wait until we've moved in together to start trying (which will be by Jan at the latest). I think he thinks that if he just sticks his bits inside me for one second i'll get pregnant. He doesn't understand it can take a lot of time. I've found out that i need surgery in the near future. It could possibly end up being even bigger surgery than first suspected. The more serious surgery has quite high complication risks (around 5-10% of people do not survive the operation), it could also be an even more serious condition/disease than is currently known. As over the top as this will sound...i don't want to die without having had the chance to have children. I do not want to undergo very serious surgery without knowing i've at least tried to achieve my dream of having a family.
I also am getting really down about people not understanding how i feel, saying i'm stupid because of my age or that it's hard work. I know exactly how much hard work it is, through my own experiences with people i know and through reading those of people on here. Contrary to what a lot of people keep telling me i don't think a baby is just a doll to look after. I know it's a lifelong commitment, it's one i want to make. I know that i won't have my own freedom and someone else will suddenly become the centre of all of my decisions, i can't think of anything that would make me happier. There's nothing i want more than seeing my own child grow and develop, and being involved in that process.
Sorry this is so long, and such a rant. If anyone managed to read it all then thanks for taking the time. I just feel so down about it . xx