Realy upset (RANT.)

[Serene123]

I'm so fed up of never being able to leave my bedroom because everywhere in my house is so smokey. I asked my mum to stop smoking everywhere and I got "since you became pregnant Victoria, everything is always about you!" Excuse her? I'm pretty sure it's about the baby? I chose not to smoke, I chose not to have my lungs filled with smoke all the time. Now I just feel like I don't have that right to choose anymore. She smokes so I have to? Am I over-reacting? I'm so mad I'm crying

 

[lilmumma]

hun, take deep breathe and just calm down. Your certainly not in the wrong here, but getting upset over it isnt going to help matters. I think it's great that your thinking about your babies health and wanting to stop your mum smoking to help him/her, but i doubt it will make much difference what yu say to her. You can either, by the sounds of it, argue with her about this and make the pregnancy difficult for both of you as you'll be stressed and she wont see you, or you can try and talk about it rationally, i know it sounds cliche, but if you feel like you cant talk to her, write her a letter. She has no choice but to listen to you that way, she cant jump in and say anything mid convo cos its all in front of her. truth be told, she really needs to be trying to cut down anyway, especially if both you and the baby are to continue living their during and after the birth. Just try to calm down a little and take it easy. I can see why your upset, i would be too, but getting yourself into a state wont help you or your child either

I dont really know what to suggest, apart from lots of hugs, theres always support on here, so if you need to rant do it, just try and keep things a little calmer, for both your sakes

 

[Serene123]

She managed to completely quit when she was pregnant with me and my sister but she can't even smoke outside for less than 5 more months for me? Or in the study? Or somewhere else I don't go. But in the living room, the kitchen, walking around the house, I don't think it's fair? She's been drinking tonight anyway, probably wasn't the best time to bring it up with her.

 

[lilmumma]

probably not lol, ut your under pressure and your babies welfare is paramount to you right now. It;s little points like that you need to raise with her, when she's not had a drink, when shes not cooking or cleaning or watching tv, or reading or whatever she does to relax lol, maybe ask to speak to her at a specific time, then she cant get mad, and will be more impressed at how mature your being lol

just to add, when she had you and managed to stop, it was a while ago, it may be harder now, although i totally get your point about going outside for 5 minutes

 

[Layla]

i know how you feel, my 2 oldest go to there dads every friday night and come back saturday morning stinking of smoke, its disgusting, i make them have a shower and change there clothes when they come home.

I cant ask him not to smoke in his own house but i did hope he would put the kids first, esp as Ethan has Asthma! his answer is 'a smokeing room' well its no good coz they still stink of it and smoke wont just stay in the 'smokeing room' it travels everywhere!

I used to smoke, i gave up a couple of years ago, i cant belive i used to smell like that and make my kids smell like that

Im so glad i quit!

x

 

[luckyme225]

Maybe she just didn't think that you would ask her to smoke outside so she just responded without thinking. I hope now that you have said something that she considers smoking outside!