recurrent early miscarriage?

[cookie]

hello
I'm new to this site and was full of excitement after my latest BFP but unfortunately this weekend I've had my fifth miscarriage in twelve months and am beginning to lose all hope. All miscarriages have happened just before seven weeks, with most of the having really strong BFP's.
My husband and I have had blood tests and everything has been clear so far. Has anyone else been in this situation? I am feeling really lonely, having just moved to a new job/area with nobody to talk to about what I'm going through. My GP isn't very sympathetic, he claims the miscarriages are all caused by "my mental state". I'm waiting for a consultant appointment in the new year
I really don't know what to do with myself
thanks for listening
xx

 

[danielle19]

aww sorry to hear of your losses hun
i have had two miscarriages both at round about 6 weeks and they couldnt find anything wrong either
i would maybe get a second opinion hun as youre doctor sound like a prat
if you ever need someone to talk to just pm me and we can have a chat in the chatroom hun xxx

 

[shamrockgirl4]

very sorry to hear what u r going thru hun

 

[duejan19th]

im really sorry to hear that u have suffered like this, iv never had a misscarraige myself so i cant say i know how u feel but i wanted to give u some advice that may help, firstly what kind of doctor tells u that the misscarraiges are caused by your mental state, hes basically telling u its your fault it happened, WELL ITS NOT and i wouldnt see him again thats ridiculous there supposed to be supportive of these kinda things.
have u thought about maybe having a break? i really dont mean that in a bad way its just i think after so many losses maybe you should give your body some time to heal before trying again, maybe go to another doctor and have everything checked out it could be something simple causing this to happen that u dont know about, i think a new doctor would really be a good idea. i really do wish u all the best in your future pregnancys and do not let this arse of a doctor tell u things like that its not right. x x x

 

[Miss~Gaby]

i would definetly consider going to see another doctor. Maybe a female doctor would be more understanding of your situation?? I'm sorry for what you have been through.

 

[suzan]

Am so sorry

I know its hard, I just had my second miscarriage but it was a non viable pregnancy due to blighted ovum. My first the lil heartbeat stopped at 7 weeks.

Doc told me that there is nothing wrong with is, it's just bad luck. Have u had early ultrasounds to see that everything is going fine? If u miscarry naturally why dont u take progesterone to make the womb stronger if ur having healthy pregnancy?

Please feel free to PM me if u need someone. We are currently on a TTC break for 2 months and can't wait to ttc again so that we can still have hope to have a 08 baby

 

[Suz]

I am very sorry for your losses

 

[Mynxie]

sorry to hear of your losses. (((hugs)))

 

[cookie]

thanks for your kind words everyone
have tried to change my doctor but the PCT have said there are no other doctors in my area taking new patients,so it looks like I'm stuck with it for the time being
have been signed off work for two weeks so am going to try and keep myself busy and try to stay positive. Have to go into the EPU tomorrow for a scan to confirm whether I need a D&C and am going to ring my consultant later and try to move my appointment forward.
thank you for all your support, it feels much better knowing you are not the only person in the world going through this (which is how I felt previously!)
xx

 

[coccyx]

What an awful gp, talking out of his bottom!. We had 6 miscarriages in a row, and after many tests found that my hubby had something called a balanced translocation, which is basically some of his sperm have muddled up chromosomes. If we got one of these sperm then foetus would not grow properly and then miscarry. Our consultant said not classed as recurrent miscarriage until you have had 3, and then they start investigating you. and your partner. SAdly miscarriage is common, and often find no reason. Could not do anything for us ,we just had to keep trying, we have 3 daughters now!!!. Its a horrible time for you and your partner, i wish you well and good luck with further pregnancies

 

[Tricks26]

Cookie,

It sounds like we are going through the same type of thing at the moment!!,
I have had 1 ectopic and 3 miscarriages the most recent in October, we have been for test after test and got no answers just that we are unlucky!!!, we have just seen a conslutant in Nov and he said the next step for us is when we next get pregnant to start taking baby asprin and progesterone as soon as you find out, and we shall see what happens from there, but just wanted to say that you are not alone and if you ever need someone to talk to or just to vent then you can always PM me!! take care

 

[RachiePachie]

Hey Cookie, I can't say I have been through this - only once. But I know someone who miscarried girls. She wasn't able to carry girl babies only boy babies. Over the years she's had around 13 pregnancies 4 of which were boys and they went full term.

Hope it works for you soon though.

 

[Stef]

So so sorry about your losses..

Just wanted to send a hug.

Xx

 

[coccyx]

Never give up. I had 6 miscarriages in a row and know how low you are feeling. Are you and partner seeing a infertility consultant? Chase up your gp for a referral if not. Found out my hubby had some dodgey sperm. I am now on my thirteenth pregnancy with baby number 4! Hope 2008 is your year

 

[Smiler13]

Sorry for your losses.

The GP sounds rubbish, but GP's can't do the investigations that you need anyway, they just refer you, so it's good that you have been referred to a specialist, hopefully they will be much better.

I have found Lesley Regan's book about miscarriage helpful in explaining the science and dismissing rubbish like "wrong mental state". Comments I have had (from relatives / friends) include that we were trying "too soon" after having our daughter / the last miscarriage (implying that it is our fault), that I needed to "sort myself out" before conceiving and that I might have "got it wrong" about being pregnant at all. Grrr. It helps to ignore all these kind of comments!

We have a young daughter but since trying again I have had three early miscarriages in six months. It is really hard.

This time when I found out I was pregnant we could not get excited as we felt so worried. But gradually I started to feel hopeful and waited until I thought I was 8 weeks and went for a scan (my local early pregnancy unit will do "reassurance scans" for women who have previously had miscarriages). They think that the pregnancy is underdeveloped for the dates, no embryo / heartbeat yet visible, just the pregnancy "sac", so likely to be another miscarriage except this time my body hasn't yet realised. They are going to scan again in two weeks in case of the dates being wrong, but all my pregnancy symptoms stopped a couple of weeks ago, as they did the other times. So am not hopeful.

I know we are really lucky to have our little girl, but it doesn't stop us feeling sad and wondering if we will be able to have another one. I'm hoping that we'll be referred to a specialist soon. Am feeling crap though.

In terms of talking to people, we were initally open with our friends and family about what was going on, but to be honest wish we hadn't because of all the insensitive comments! Am trying to have a thick skin about it as know people mean well, but this time I haven't told as many people.

Good luck for the future.

 

[diane60f]

hello
I'm new to this site and was full of excitement after my latest BFP but unfortunately this weekend I've had my fifth miscarriage in twelve months and am beginning to lose all hope. All miscarriages have happened just before seven weeks, with most of the having really strong BFP's.
My husband and I have had blood tests and everything has been clear so far. Has anyone else been in this situation? I am feeling really lonely, having just moved to a new job/area with nobody to talk to about what I'm going through. My GP isn't very sympathetic, he claims the miscarriages are all caused by "my mental state". I'm waiting for a consultant appointment in the new year
I really don't know what to do with myself
thanks for listening
xx

I have had 3 miscarriages 8, 10 and a MMC at 11wks and the baby stopped growing at 8.

i"m a Navy wife and our doctors are amazing. I was put through the song and dance about miscarraiges and why they happen..yada yada..and the finally my last OB said he was tired of seeing woman lose their babies. sent me in for regular blood work to see why i'm losing my babies.

I have MTHFR.
please google it its a VERY common gene mutation but I have 2 bad copies on my C and A gene. this defect makes it so my body doesn't produce folice acid or vit b6 and 12 vital for pregnancy and my body creates blood clots that get stuck in my baby's cord.

please ask your doctor to test you for it.

let me know!

 

[MrsJD]

So sorry to hear this!

I've had 4 mc's in 11 months, all ending early. Had all the tests done and was told there was nothing wrong. A few years ago I had my thyroid removed so decided to go back to my surgeon to get her view as I had read Thyroid problems can cause early m/c's. Turns out even though I've got it removed my medication was way to high making my thyroid toxic. They reduced my dose and I've recently came back off the pill, so I'm hoping my next is super super sticky!

xxx