MrsMoose
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Hi ladies
I'm going through my 4th pregnancy loss at the moment, which I'm devastated about, although it's really not sinking in yet. I'm being referred to a miscarriage clinic, but wanted to find out from all of you who have been down this road or are travelling it at the moment, when did you start getting tested for recurrent miscarriages?
I don't know whether to wait a few months or start testing right away. I don't want to feel callous towards this loss, but I'm so anxious to have a solution, even if there isn't one (i.e. there's nothing wrong, it's all just bad luck). It's DH and my 5 year wedding anniversary in March and we're going away, and we've both partly said maybe we start getting tested once we get back from our holiday (which is probably wise).
I'm also a complete control freak who needs to know everything, so I've started researching the best recurrent miscarriage clinics out there and have come across 2 that seem to stand out:
Dr Lesley Regan's m/c clinic at St Mary's hospital
Dr Hassan Shehata at The Miscarriage Clinic
Both are in London and both seem to have had positive results. Has anyone been to see these clinics and can you tell me anything about them?
I so wish I didn't have to write this post, as it feels so completely unreal that I thought I'd ever be here. I come from a family of extremely fertile people, where the women just seem to be within smelling distance of their husbands and they get pregnant! I feel like I've let the side down, like there's something wrong with me and that I'm broken. How can I not feel this way? It makes me so sad, so angry, so bitter (the worst part). I don't want to resent friends and family who are pregnant or who have kids, but I'm finding myself avoiding all social situations which involve these 2 scenarios. I can't hide forever....can I?
Carmen. xx
I'm going through my 4th pregnancy loss at the moment, which I'm devastated about, although it's really not sinking in yet. I'm being referred to a miscarriage clinic, but wanted to find out from all of you who have been down this road or are travelling it at the moment, when did you start getting tested for recurrent miscarriages?
I don't know whether to wait a few months or start testing right away. I don't want to feel callous towards this loss, but I'm so anxious to have a solution, even if there isn't one (i.e. there's nothing wrong, it's all just bad luck). It's DH and my 5 year wedding anniversary in March and we're going away, and we've both partly said maybe we start getting tested once we get back from our holiday (which is probably wise).
I'm also a complete control freak who needs to know everything, so I've started researching the best recurrent miscarriage clinics out there and have come across 2 that seem to stand out:
Dr Lesley Regan's m/c clinic at St Mary's hospital
Dr Hassan Shehata at The Miscarriage Clinic
Both are in London and both seem to have had positive results. Has anyone been to see these clinics and can you tell me anything about them?
I so wish I didn't have to write this post, as it feels so completely unreal that I thought I'd ever be here. I come from a family of extremely fertile people, where the women just seem to be within smelling distance of their husbands and they get pregnant! I feel like I've let the side down, like there's something wrong with me and that I'm broken. How can I not feel this way? It makes me so sad, so angry, so bitter (the worst part). I don't want to resent friends and family who are pregnant or who have kids, but I'm finding myself avoiding all social situations which involve these 2 scenarios. I can't hide forever....can I?
Carmen. xx