Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[Hope39]

Hi all! Can I join? I'm sorry I haven't read previous posts. I'm pretty certain in having my 5th miscarriage. A scan tomorrow will confirm. I have a baby boy and to this day I wonder how that pregnancy was successful!! I have been on every drug under the sun on all my previous pregnancies. This time I'm just on progesterone, high strength folic acid, aspirin and eltroxin for my thyroid.
I keep thinking back to my successful pregnancy and thinking what was different, why did that work out? I just realised that a few months before I found I was pregnant with my son, my doc had upped my dose of Metformin to 1000mg. I have PCO.
This time around I'm not on metformin at all, I'm wondering is that the extra medication I need to sustain another pregnancy?

Sorry I'm rambling now. I feel sad about this loss but I honestly don't want to even shed a tear. I've done all that over and over again! I just want to focus on moving on.

Welcome tubs

If you have pcos then i would recommend that you take the metformin hun throughout a pregnancy. PCOS can cause mc's

xx

 

[Tia30]

Whats the debrief Tia? I will be putting in a complaint so no doubt will have to go through this

Isaac was also perfect, everything there just very small. The events of that day still haunt me too, your not alone hun, i know deep down things could have been different.

Little things pop into my head that make me think they should have acted quicker. After she did a scan she then placed her hand on my stomach and said i was contracting. So i was contracting and gushing blood yet they still pissed around for probably another hour. It wasn't as though they kept doing different things, i had a doppler check, a scan, an internal, a trace and then another scan, then i was put to sleep, and isaac was born, all of that took 1hr 50m!

I just wonder whether there wasnt a theatre available or they was waiting for someone to finish theatre? how may theatres do the labour dept have? The obstetrician kept disappearing out the room too or she was dealing with another patient, i really dont know, something isnt right and i cant put my finger on it. Another lady was in hdu when i got there

She was meant to be one of the best obstetrician they got, my endocrinologist rang me to see how i was and her words were "Mrs A is a top obstetrician, i cant comment on your thoughts but she made a judgement that day that was obviously the wrong one" No shit did she make a wrong judgement, and the ambulance service too, ignoring what the hospital had told us and didnt blue light me

Tia if you are on facebook and want to hook up then pm me, i am deactivating my old facebook account today due to some evil cow that thinks it funny i lost isaac, she also plastered a pic of my house, address and tel no on there too with a load of shite that she is going to rob us, dumb idiot, nothing that the police cant sort later when i show them all her evil messages and threats

My new facebook account is purely family, close friends and baby and bump girls ( i have more baby and bump friends than i do my own family and close friends put together)

I shared a pic of isaac on there too, i never put a pic up on my old facebook acc, i felt a bit protective of him and didnt want the world to see. My OH shared a picture though, its his little boy too and he wanted to. whereas i am, noooo, i dont want everyone to see him.

Keep strong hun and we are all here for you

We both need a shit load of luck to get us through our next pregnancy, i cant get admitted to hospital unless i want to sell my business which i dont xx

Hi Hope,

Yes that would be good, I will PM you my name so you can find me. That doesn't sound like they gave you the correct care at all, definitely complain. I will share part of my complaint with you on facebook, the other hald my partner wrote as I was in too much shock on the day and he was the one dealing with the nurses and doctors, although I was there I felt like I was watching it happen. Sounds a bit fucked up I guess.

One midwife just kept saying over and over that the outcome would have been the same unless I was 34 weeks. It didn't even make sense. She was getting very defensive about what had happened the night before. Yes they ran a heart check, when a trainee midwide did and a doctor did a really quick scan and said everything was fine. What we didn't find out until it was too late was that the machine they used cannot detect amniotic fluid levels, which would have highligthed there was an issue. Laurie has more of a chance out of me than she did staying inside me at that point. I had just reached viability. I was desperate to get to 28 weeks and was so happy after getting told I was just getting so used to her moves that maybe I wasn't feeling them, or that she was getting big, and had less room. I was right, something was wrong.

The debrief is with my consultant and the deputy head of midwifery. They will take me through the post mortem results and apparently go over the complaint that was raised. I'm worried sick actually, I can feel the stress on my chest, that tight feeling, different to the heavy feeling I had for weeks after Laurie died. I felt like an elephant was sat on my chest, and my heart was going to explode.

Sounds fucked up what that horrible person is doing. Pure sick, some people are evil I swear.

Anyway will PM you now. xx

 

[tubs]

Thanks Hope. I know, I feel like an idiot for not being on it. Gonna ask doctor tomorrow to prescribe it to me.

 

[Hope39]

Thanks Hope. I know, I feel like an idiot for not being on it. Gonna ask doctor tomorrow to prescribe it to me.

well if you struggle to get some i got boxes and boxes of the stuff

I seen a private endo who said i had mild pcos, i took it for a couple of years and then ditched it when i had mc no6. It was only when i ditched the metformin that the weight fell off (i also went gluten free), all 3st of it

I didnt take if at all for pregnancy no7 and made it to 27w xx

 

[Hope39]

My complaint will go in once i have quizzed the paedatrician and obstetrician, i have a full page of questions ready for them

xx

 

[dan-o]

I'm so sorry you ladies have all this to go through now as well. I hope both your cases go all the way and changes are made as a result. Xxx

 

[Tasha]

Hope and Tia big

I am here if either of you need to talk, I did a complaint when Honey was stillborn at 36+6 and went through a court case with that too, then did a complaint when Riley Rae was stillborn at 24+3. It's really tough.

 

[Tia30]

Hope and Tia big

I am here if either of you need to talk, I did a complaint when Honey was stillborn at 36+6 and went through a court case with that too, then did a complaint when Riley Rae was stillborn at 24+3. It's really tough.

Thanks Tasha,

Well I've had the most insane day. I managed to spin out on the motorway doing 70 on my way to work. Astrglided across the lanes and ended up hitting the trees/ravine side on. Fire brigade had to cut me out of the car as the doors were wedged shut by trees on both sides. Actually thought I was a goner. So by some miracle I have escaped with cuts bruises and a fractured hand. All the emergency services were shocked I came out ok. They just kept commenting on how calm I was. I was so lucky I didn't hit another car, flip or go head on.

Something that has come of this is that when they looked at the fracture they said my bones looked more like that of a 45-50 year old than someone my age -33. He thinks I have a vitamin deficiency. I have never been tested for vit d deficiency but am certain now I have it.

On the way out I saw two woman running out of the children's a&e, they were literally howling and one was on her knees. Whatever happened to me today, something far far worse happened to them.

So am now off work again. Roll on 2015,I so want to move out of this year, it has been doomed. Although I will always cherish Laurie.

I think she was looking after me today. I must live, I must carry on. Today was definitely a sign - wake up Tia, wake up. That's mainly what I remember thinking when I thought it was over.

Tasha, it's an awful thing losing one so late. I can relate somewhat to two. I lost Noah at 18 weeks on Xmas Eve 2011. The worst Xmas ever xxx

 

[Hope39]

Hope and Tia big

I am here if either of you need to talk, I did a complaint when Honey was stillborn at 36+6 and went through a court case with that too, then did a complaint when Riley Rae was stillborn at 24+3. It's really tough.

I know that hun x you have been here for me for the last 4 years

I might even do a court case, if i have the energy, depends what they say at my appts x

 

[Hope39]

Hope and Tia big

I am here if either of you need to talk, I did a complaint when Honey was stillborn at 36+6 and went through a court case with that too, then did a complaint when Riley Rae was stillborn at 24+3. It's really tough.

Thanks Tasha,

Well I've had the most insane day. I managed to spin out on the motorway doing 70 on my way to work. Astrglided across the lanes and ended up hitting the trees/ravine side on. Fire brigade had to cut me out of the car as the doors were wedged shut by trees on both sides. Actually thought I was a goner. So by some miracle I have escaped with cuts bruises and a fractured hand. All the emergency services were shocked I came out ok. They just kept commenting on how calm I was. I was so lucky I didn't hit another car, flip or go head on.

Something that has come of this is that when they looked at the fracture they said my bones looked more like that of a 45-50 year old than someone my age -33. He thinks I have a vitamin deficiency. I have never been tested for vit d deficiency but am certain now I have it.

On the way out I saw two woman running out of the children's a&e, they were literally howling and one was on her knees. Whatever happened to me today, something far far worse happened to them.

So am now off work again. Roll on 2015,I so want to move out of this year, it has been doomed. Although I will always cherish Laurie.

I think she was looking after me today. I must live, I must carry on. Today was definitely a sign - wake up Tia, wake up. That's mainly what I remember thinking when I thought it was over.

Tasha, it's an awful thing losing one so late. I can relate somewhat to two. I lost Noah at 18 weeks on Xmas Eve 2011. The worst Xmas ever xxx

Oh my goodness hun. so glad you are ok. i cant wait for this year to be over with either x

 

[sportysgirl]

Glad your ok Tia. Must of been a scary ordeal. X

 

[dan-o]

Wow that's scary Tia, glad you got out ok. Hand must be sore too!

I'm another fed up with this year, 4 is a lot to lose in 8 months, but thankfully they have all been 10w or less. Can't imagine later. In fact I'm so terrified of losing a baby later, I might give up all together.

 

[Tasha]

dan-o. Obviously no one wants to lose a baby at any gestation, but if I had known I would lose my girls before getting pregnant with them then I still would of got pregnant. I know that sounds odd but I would do the pain I've had a million times over if it meant meeting my girls than never getting to meet them.

 

[dan-o]

Makes perfect sense to me tasha you are so brave.

What treatment will they have you on this time? x

 

[Tasha]

Probably easier to list what I'm not going to be on

Erm, I'm on multivitamins, vitamin d, high dose folic acid, baby aspirin and anti-malaria tablets all the time. Progesterone and steroids from ovulation. Fragmin from bfp. Think I remembered everything x

I'm sorry for what you're going through dan-o

 

[Tasha]

Oh and it's my tenth wedding anniversary this weekend and looks like I might ovulate

 

[Hope39]

Birthday bonking for you then missy

Xx

 

[Hope39]

I had a birthday bonk which resulted in Isaac , lol. Xx

 

[dan-o]

Ooh good luck Tasha

 

[sportysgirl]

Had a pelvic scan today bloods on ten days then referral should be made.

Good luck Tasha.