Regressing? after having a baby

[hypnorm]

Ewan is usually pretty good, last night when i was feeding Robyn (1am and 3 am) there was a horrible smell, once i'd got Robyn settled i searched all over her room thinking i had left a dirty nappy out by accident, then i realised the smell was coming from Ewans room, I didnt wake him as i'd never have got him back to bed.
Anyway he got in to bed with me after seeing his dad off to work at 6.30am i was nearly sick with the smell, he had done the biggest poo in his night nappy.

I don;t know if it was coz of a bug that has been going around, or if he was just being naughty. As the past few days he has been a cow answering back and screaming.

We are using the naughty step and if he screams he gets shut in his bedroom untill he calms down. He is no longer getting treats or toys unless he has earnt them or asked nicely. Seems really strickt but i dont want him answering back.

 

[princessellie]

aww i dont have no advice about what u can do hun, i think ur doing the right thing, letting him know he cant be naughty

good luck babe

x

 

[Serene123]

I can only imagine how Caitlyn would be if I had another!

 

[danni2609]

my lo is the same but we send her to her room to and then make her apologise shes also waking in the night and wanting to get in our bed not a chance in hell though haha

 

[ryder]

Good luck! I am sure this phase will pass quickly, it sounds like your doing the right thing. It is just a big change to not be the "baby" anymore.

 

[brownhairedmom]

Are you breast feeding?

I ask because he could be jealous of the time you're spending feeding Robyn. When my little cousin got a new brother when he was around 4, he did this too. He was soooo jealous that his mom was spending alll of this time with his brother that he started doing stuff like wetting his pants and everything.

 

[princess_bump]

no advice honey, just wanted to say hope he gets better soon x

 

[MoonMuffin]

I don't have experience with this, but my close cousin does. It's most likely just hard for him to not get so much attention all of the sudden. It is hard for little kids to understand that newborns need lots and lots of attention, but it's only temporary. If you breast feed maybe you could pump so that Ewan could feed her with a bottle, or helping you change diapers (hand you the wipes, hand you the diaper), and having him hold her a lot, that way maybe he would feel more involved. Just keep trying to explain how helpless the baby is and how the baby doesn't know how to do anything yet (like the baby doesn't know how to feed itself, go to the bathroom, play, etc.) and tell him how you feel, that it hard taking care of a newborn and even though right now the baby needs more attention, that you still love him very very much and that he's going to be a great big brother! Have you tried giving him a present from the baby? Good Luck!

 

[1st_baby]

hope it gets settled

 

[Lauz_1601]

Ewan is usually pretty good, last night when i was feeding Robyn (1am and 3 am) there was a horrible smell, once i'd got Robyn settled i searched all over her room thinking i had left a dirty nappy out by accident, then i realised the smell was coming from Ewans room, I didnt wake him as i'd never have got him back to bed.
Anyway he got in to bed with me after seeing his dad off to work at 6.30am i was nearly sick with the smell, he had done the biggest poo in his night nappy.

I don;t know if it was coz of a bug that has been going around, or if he was just being naughty. As the past few days he has been a cow answering back and screaming.

We are using the naughty step and if he screams he gets shut in his bedroom untill he calms down. He is no longer getting treats or toys unless he has earnt them or asked nicely. Seems really strickt but i dont want him answering back.

Iv not been on in ages so firstly congratulations!!!! Did you get your homebirth ??

We had a few problems after Kaitlin was born, Ella would wet herself alot...she went backwards for a while, but we seem to be back on track now....we also had a lot of tantrums and in the end we did what your doing, only gave her treats or rewards if she earned it using a reward chart. Its normal hun, its their way or reacting to the baby, your attention is now divided between the two of them and it takes them a while to adjust.....Give him lots of attention when you can, when Robyn is sleeping, and he will soon get used to the fact that robyn needs alot of mummys attention too. I found that Ella was spoilt alot after Kaitlin was born she got loads of presents and I dont think this helped it made her become a spoilt brat lol....but the reward chart seemed to work well after sticking at it for a while xxxx

 

[hypnorm]

Thanks for the responses, yes she is breastfed so i am usually attached to the sofa!
i try and make time for him, which is hard. dont get much me time any more lol.
he had some tractors bought from robyn after she was born. and lots from other people.

We are away next week at the inlaws and i know they wont take any crap from him where my mum lets him get away with murder.

Yes i got my home birth.... in between all the snow!! (nice to see you around lauz)

 

[fernie3]

he could be a little jealous or it could be that is is coming down with or about to come down with a bug mine get like this in the day or two before they get ill, the nappy might be a symptom of this. I have found that for jealousy the best thing to do (at least what has worked for me) is NOT to give the older one any special attention but to keep things totally normal - if he doesn something wrong punish him exactly the same as you would have if you hadnt had the baby. Or try and keep his routines as close as possible to normal. I have found that when I made a fuss about the fact that there was a new baby my older ones play up to that but if I just act as if its just normal everyday get on with it then they just fit into place and they dont seem to care !

sophie

 

[Lauz_1601]

Thanks for the responses, yes she is breastfed so i am usually attached to the sofa!
i try and make time for him, which is hard. dont get much me time any more lol.
he had some tractors bought from robyn after she was born. and lots from other people.

We are away next week at the inlaws and i know they wont take any crap from him where my mum lets him get away with murder.

Yes i got my home birth.... in between all the snow!! (nice to see you around lauz)

awww Im glad you got your homebirth! probably easier than traipsing back and to to hospital in the snow!! I'll have to have a look for your birthstory and have a read xxxx