regretting saying yes already!!

[shiawase]

I stopped liams dad from seeing him about 4 months ago, he txt me the other day asking if he could see liam so i thought about it and said yes. so he's coming down tuesday....with his new gf! he asked if she could come because she drives and its easier for him because else he'd have to get the bus!! boohoo! I dont care that he's got a girlfriend or that she's going to meet liam as i cant stand him and i know in liams eyes no one could replace me lol but he's going to be showing off because she's there. he'll be playing the devoted father (he did the same when his parents came down) and its going to piss me off, as when he'd come down for his 4 hour a week visit he wouldnt play with liam or read him a book he'd sit there watching tv or checking his phone. I wish i just ignored him now as again im feeling stressed and on edge which is what i felt all the time when he was around. I know it isnt about me its about liam but now ive thought about it i think he's trying so hard because his gf has been saying she really wants to meet his son...argh i dont know! I'll just have to see how it goes tuesday! ok rant over!!

 

[elsmogro]

didnt just want to read and run. Couldnt you just cancel? i really wouldnt like to have go through that and the fact he is going to be all super dad just for his girlfriends benefit when really he should be like that all the time for liam. Hope your ok let us know what you decide or how it goes xx

 

[justlove]

Tell him to get the bus! say that it is too soon for liam to meet his girlfriend he needs to establish a relationship with his father before anyone else. If he's really interested in seeing his son and not doing it for show he will make the effort. TBH when I was seeing a guy with a child I always pushed for them to have regular contact with there child I didn't think it was right for them to meet me until that had been well established. Just my opinion x

 

[v2007]

Lazy git, if his lady didn't have a car then he would have to get the bus!!!

If it was me i would tell him HE can ssee his son but not with some random woman he has hooked up with.

V xxx

 

[shiawase]

He doesnt like having to get a train or a bus lol he should try doing it with a toddler a buggy and loads of bags! I didnt want to say no to his gf coming down because i know he will say its because im jealous (yeah really fancy someone who has stopped brushing their teeth and showering! gorgeous!) He has one more chance to see liam so if he messes up this time then thats it. hopefully for liams sake he will step up! I'll let you all know how it went tomorrow! xxx

 

[shiawase]

Forgot to say how it went!! He was really good actually didnt show off atall and i didnt feel the urge to punch him for the whole time they were here! His GF is annoying she gave me parenting advice when she doesnt have any kids and kept calling liam to her but he wasnt having any of it! And when i went out of the playpark to have a cig she picked him up but liam starting shouting no no. FOB is coming down again this tuesday and i asked if she was coming and he said yes which im not happy about as he said to her in front of me that if liam meets her a few times he will go to her etc and they have only been together 3 months (she told me!) so im gonna tell them when they come down that if he wants to get to know his son then he can do it on his own! I dont want her there trying to play step mum when they havent been together very long, and i guess if they dont like it then tough shit!

 

[justlove]

well done on not punchin either of them lol how the gf doesnt feel awkward i dont know. was at least a year before my daughter meet her now stepmum they got on great probably cos same age mentally meowwwww lol

 

[WhiteGeisha]

Tell him to get the bus! say that it is too soon for liam to meet his girlfriend he needs to establish a relationship with his father before anyone else. If he's really interested in seeing his son and not doing it for show he will make the effort. TBH when I was seeing a guy with a child I always pushed for them to have regular contact with there child I didn't think it was right for them to meet me until that had been well established. Just my opinion x

I agree with this. My ex will not be introducing any girlfriends to my LO until he is married. Bit far you might think but the way he puts it about Isabella will grow up thinking she has a million "aunties" x

 

[shiawase]

I sent him a txt lastnight saying if he wants to see liam then he has to come on his own this is how it went!

FOB- Why??
ME- because u have only been with her for a few months, dont want liam getting to know her untill u have been together for atleast a year or so.
FOB- er ok but im not sitting in ur living room and u gotta come up here aswell its only fair....
ME-if u want to see liam then u come to him i cant afford the bus rides money is tight atm
FOB- ok but im still not coming to ur house
ME- lol ur not welcome in my house!

Asoon as i lay some rules down he acts like a teenager! lol all because he doesnt want to get the bus!!

 

[justlove]

lol

If he only seeing Liam for a few hours I'd say that it only fair that he comes to you every time! if he was having him overnight then i say maybe take it turns, but what does he expect you to do if you take him to his? sit in his house? Its good that he doesn't want to sit in your house whilst visiting him it means he take him out and spend quality time with him. Not that you want him in your house anyway.

 

[WhiteGeisha]

Has he replied?

Do you trust him to take LO off on his own if he comes up to you? I am not a trusting person so would think he will bring the mrs, take LO off then meet back up with her LOL x

 

[shiawase]

Before he would come to mine to see liam for 4 hours and everytime he did it would be raining outside so we had to stay in but he wouldnt play with him or anything just sat there watching tv!

I would never ever let him take liam out on his own again, one time he took him out and he told his gf of 2 weeks to wait at the end of my road (i found out on fb!) and another time he said he was taking liam into town, he was gone from 11am till 7pm and he had his phone off he had taken liam to another town an half hour train ride away without telling me and met a girl there who he had spoken to online but hadnt met before. I dont trust him atall so when he see's liam im always there so i can make sure he's safe. It will be a long long time untill i trust him to be alone with liam!

 

[jess_smurf]

omg what an arse, no i wouldnt let him take him out and i wouldnt let his gf be there either, is there anything like stay and play where you live he will have to pay for it tho but you can stay with them while they go off and play. If he doesnt like it tell him to take you to court and use a contact centre, wont be worth the hassle to him

stupid men, they just want to cause you hassle when your doing him the favour x

 

[shiawase]

yes theres one here, he was meant to come down yesterday but i took liam hospital monday night because he has a winky infection! (poor boy!) and the antibiotics has given him a dodgy tummy so i phoned him not to bother, he was meant to come on his own but he said him and his gf were just getting in the car to come down! He's coming down next tuesday so we'll go to the soft play then so he can go off with him and i can read a magazine without the monkey ripping it! (atlast hehe!) i just know his gf will be coming and if she does then i guess i'll have to let them both know that FOB cant walk all over me this time! I need some girl power or something!

 

[jess_smurf]

tell her to sit in the car or go shopping or do something else what is wrong with these people. I would never trust a man thats not with their families as must be something wrong with them x