Rehoming pets - Regrets?

[FEDup1981]

Have any u ever rehomed a pet - cat/dog - and regretted it after? What was ur reasons for rehoming it in the first place.

I know i posted about rehoming my cats about 2 months ago, but we decided to try harder. But nothing has changed. I cant touch them at all for my OCD. Hubby feeds them and thats it. Jack might stroke the lil cat occasionally but other than that, nobody bothers with them. I love them to bits, esp the older one who weve had 5.5yrs. I dont think we give anything to them, and in return dont get much back, and it isnt fair on them. I hate the cat hairs, theyre everywhere .
Jack doesnt want them to go, but weve decided to tell him that they just didnt come home from being out

About 80% of me wants to have them rehomed. The other 20% feels guilty, gutted, worried they wont find decent homes.

I just dont know what to do.

 

[Ilove]

Weve rehomed a dog and some rabbits in the past, and honestly although it was painful and we cried buckets the first few days, it really was for the best for them and us, and we have no regrets

Hugs to you, I know its hard

 

[lollylou1]

i keep thinking the same about my cat hun, he hates annabelle although all he does is stay well away, if we go in the same room as him he goes away, he isnt bothered with us as all if annabelle is up but when she goes to bed he is a little more friendly, we considered rehoming him but i know i will feel to guilty to do it.

sorry i know that doesnt really help hun

Lou
xxx

 

[FEDup1981]

Thanks girls. I just feel so guilty. And i know if we ever have another baby my OCD will go through the roof with having them around.

I wish it was easier!

 

[zowiey]

My uncle and Aunty re-homed their cats, after one attacked my little cousin. They took them to the RSPCA, and even requested they be re-homed together, which they did. My aunty said it was hard, but they knew it was for the best.

xx
PS, Wow! Congrats on your weight loss!!

 

[FEDup1981]

Thanks, ive emailed a couple of sanctuaries in my area for advice. So ill see what happens.
TBH, i dont think the cats would care to go together - the older cat doesnt particularly like the younger cat. Plus i think they could do with different homes. The older cat needs a child free home, but the younger cat would be ok with a family.

And thanks - nearly 6st now! xxxx

 

[sweetlouise]

we had 2 dogs up until our first was born, we loved them like we love our kids now, but to be honest they had to go, i didnt want my baby crawling around on the floor and putting dog hairs in her mouth.

as much as it hurt it was for the best

 

[FEDup1981]

we had 2 dogs up until our first was born, we loved them like we love our kids now, but to be honest they had to go, i didnt want my baby crawling around on the floor and putting dog hairs in her mouth.

as much as it hurt it was for the best

Thank u.

It really is going to hurt, but think its for the best, just hope i dont regret it.

 

[Purpular]

Do you live near Thornberry Sanctuary? My mum's just adopted two cats from there and they do loads of good work sorting animals out.

Saying that though, it's kind of kitten season at the moment and not enough money to go round so resources are stretched. If you need to rehome then do what's best for you but a private rehome might be better if you can sort it. I'm not sure where in S. Yorks you're from but 'Sheffield Forum' has loads of rehoming ads in their pets section.

 

[FEDup1981]

Do you live near Thornberry Sanctuary? My mum's just adopted two cats from there and they do loads of good work sorting animals out.

Saying that though, it's kind of kitten season at the moment and not enough money to go round so resources are stretched. If you need to rehome then do what's best for you but a private rehome might be better if you can sort it. I'm not sure where in S. Yorks you're from but 'Sheffield Forum' has loads of rehoming ads in their pets section.

Thanks hun.

Yeah i live close to thornberry. I looked into private rehoming but the advice was to go through sanctuaries so that the homes can be checked etc.

It would be nice if they got to go to someone we know, but nobody we know wants another! Ill have a look at sheff forum tho xx

 

[missy123]

we had 2 dogs up until our first was born, we loved them like we love our kids now, but to be honest they had to go, i didnt want my baby crawling around on the floor and putting dog hairs in her mouth.

as much as it hurt it was for the best

sorry to be blunt here but how could you love an animal like a child then give it up?you wouldnt give your child up so you cant compare the love that way too many people give up on "much loved" pets when babies come along and its not fair on the animal unless a pet is takin in to a home as part of the family it should be left alone!!

 

[ellie]

i had to rehome 2 cats when i split up with my ex and my new partner wouldnt let me take even one of them (we then lived in a tiny upstairs flat so nowhere for them to go, and he's not that keen on cats) i was devastated and still cry about it now as i miss them so much. i really wish i had put my foot down and kept at least one. however we were lucky that two neighbours in the same street agreed to take one each so at least they got to stay in the same area and it wasnt too much upheaval for them.

we do hope to get pets again at a later date though after Lo arrives and when we're not working so much. i really believe though that bringing up babies/children with animals is a great idea, it teaches them to respect all beings and not be scared of them, and they get such a lot out of having animals around. yes you have to be a bit careful with newborns but probably not much more than you would do without any animals.

it sounds as if it's the OCD that is worrying you though and not the animals per se, are you getting any help with that side of things? as i wonder how it will affect you with a baby anyway whether or not you have cats around?

 

[mrscookie]

we had 2 dogs up until our first was born, we loved them like we love our kids now, but to be honest they had to go, i didnt want my baby crawling around on the floor and putting dog hairs in her mouth.

as much as it hurt it was for the best

sorry to be blunt here but how could you love an animal like a child then give it up?you wouldnt give your child up so you cant compare the love that way too many people give up on "much loved" pets when babies come along and its not fair on the animal unless a pet is takin in to a home as part of the family it should be left alone!!

I had a puppy when I lived with my ex, I raised him from 6 and half weeks old til he was one and a half. I loved and adored him, he was everything to me.
My ex was violent one night and I ran out of the house, without my dog, without my clothes, without anything.
I have never been back.
I left him there. He was everything to me. The love I had for him, was the only love I had known in that way, Its easy to feel you love them like you'd love a child before you knew what it's like to have a child.
I know now that my love for my daughter is a million miles ahead of the love I had for my dog.. but at the time, before my daughter came along I thought I loved my dog 'as much as any child' If you don;t know what it's like to love a child, then its easy to compare.

I still feel awful for leaving my dog behind.
Nothing I can do to take it back now.

 

[missy123]

your story is way different hun you did what u had to, what really gets me is this "they have to go" attitude when a child is born,why cant life be the same?why worry over dog hair?if you were that type of person why bother getting a dog to just have "hair everywhere" its a decision that should be made from the heart and nothing should get in the way of the love you should feel for them,not even a child..i do agree i love my child more than my dogs but its a different type of love altogether, they live in the house and are part of the family...kinda like kids but without the cheek

 

[FEDup1981]

your story is way different hun you did what u had to, what really gets me is this "they have to go" attitude when a child is born,why cant life be the same?why worry over dog hair?if you were that type of person why bother getting a dog to just have "hair everywhere" its a decision that should be made from the heart and nothing should get in the way of the love you should feel for them,not even a child..i do agree i love my child more than my dogs but its a different type of love altogether, they live in the house and are part of the family...kinda like kids but without the cheek

WHY WORRY OVER DOG HAIR? If thats aimed at me, then i have OCD FFS. This thread was NOT started to cause a debate on whether we should get rid of pets when i child comes along. It was to ask people who had already rehomed pets if they had any regrets.

When i got my pets, i was OCD free, and treated my cats like babies. Unfortunately for me i developed OCD after the birth of my son while trying to protect him from dirt & germs. And yes im having treatment but its unlikely that i will ever feel normal again.

 

[missy123]

how could it be aimed at you when its dog hair im talking about,it was aimed at the other poster with the 2 dogs who "loved them like kids"..if the animals are affecting your mental health by all means rehome them its best for everyone and read the posts more carefully before jumping to conclusions

i have never rehomed a pet before,im in the rescue business of finding the good homes,the hard job of taking in animals noboday wants!

 

[FEDup1981]

how could it be aimed at you when its dog hair im talking about,it was aimed at the other poster with the 2 dogs who "loved them like kids"..if the animals are affecting your mental health by all means rehome them its best for everyone and read the posts more carefully before jumping to conclusions

i have never rehomed a pet before,im in the rescue business of finding the good homes,the hard job of taking in animals noboday wants!

cat hair/dog hair - same difference.

If youve never rehomed a pet before then you cant really comment on a thread that is for people who have rehomed a pet and had regrets.

 

[hopefulfor09]

Let's all play nice.

When I got engaged I had two cats (still lived at home with mom) and when DH and I bought our house and mom moved to BC I had no choice but to rehome them - my DH is deathly allergic to cats....it was really hard.....I had one of them for 10 years....

Luckily I found really great homes for them both (people that lived in the same building that I knew). And I still get pics of them from time to time. they are both doing great.

I think in your case Fedup - you should rehome them. But don't rush into anything....do your research etc. so you feel confident and don't have any regrets....

I have a dog now and could never ever rehome him. Not a chance. Not to offend anyone please don't get upset....but I think you develop a different bond with dogs then you do with cats (cats are so independent and dogs follow you everywhere).

Good luck.

 

[missy123]

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cat hair/dog hair - same difference.

If youve never rehomed a pet before then you cant really comment on a thread that is for people who have rehomed a pet and had regrets. [/QUOTE]

of course i can comment im one of the people cleaning up the mess,i would be the person with the hard task or rehoming animals when good homes are getting harder and harder to find,i feel sorry for you and your cats its a pity things turned out the way they did but be prepared to look long and hard for someone to take your cats especially the 5 year old

 

[morri]

The dog of my sister who lived together with usso it was more family dog anyway) was rehomed when we moved- because we moved together with small kids and my sister would move into a small apartment in the city so neither of us could take him so my mother rehomed in to a very friendly farmer where he has lots of space to run etc , I am still thinking of him sometimes because he was such a good dog , very cute too , initially we got him from a state home for abandoned pets when he was about 6 months old)https://img20.imageshack.us/img20/4306/rockklein1.jpg