Request for the LTTTC section.

[SnuggleMum]

I browse the forums using the 'New Posts' button, and often don't notice the subforum, I just click on titles that look interesting or that I might be able to be helpful to.

And the thread I was talking about wasn't titled that.

 

[Just_married]

I browse the forums using the 'New Posts' button, and often don't notice the subforum, I just click on titles that look interesting or that I might be able to be helpful to.

And the thread I was talking about wasn't titled that.

The comments mentioned, not just by you, were all origInally from the venting thread and quoted in a different one.

May I suggest you check the subforum in future then? A small thing to do to prevent upset on both sides.

 

[shorman]

Wow yeh I really get a kick out of it lol your such a victim arnt you I am fed up of you trying to make me look evil I actually go in there because there's people unlike to give me support to my mum suffered from infertility so no I wasn't just going in there to get a kick out of your misery I wasn't judging you or saying how anyone should feel but I wont accept the crap you say either it's fine to vent and maybe that's why it should be privait do people can't see the insulting hurtful things you say, even when I said sorry and held my hands up your still on here saying stuff about me,

 

[zanDark]

Anyway thank you for your input ladies. I don't have anything constructive to add and I don't feel it will make a difference anyway.

 

[SnuggleMum]

I browse the forums using the 'New Posts' button, and often don't notice the subforum, I just click on titles that look interesting or that I might be able to be helpful to.

And the thread I was talking about wasn't titled that.

The comments mentioned, not just by you, were all origInally from the venting thread and quoted in a different one.

May I suggest you check the subforum in future then? A small thing to do to prevent upset on both sides.

I find your reply a little aggressive and hurtful. Despite never having replied to a thread in LTTTC, I'm not welcome to even read a thread when I stumble upon one by accident?

 

[SnuggleMum]

Anyway thank you for your input ladies. I don't have anything constructive to add and I don't feel it will make a difference anyway.

There is obviously upset on both sides so I think it is good to talk about it and find a solution that keeps as many folk as possible happy. I don't think anyone would want you to not be able to vent, but in venting sometimes hurtful things are said. Perhaps some way to remind people to not take venting as personal attacks, and a way to remind people to try not to be too attacking in venting would help? Saying "I don't feel understood" doesn't upset people like "They cannot understand" if you know what I mean? Hard to consider wording when you are hurting though, so that is why I agree with it being private.

 

[zanDark]

Wow yeh I really get a kick out of it lol your such a victim arnt you I am fed up of you trying to make me look evil I actually go in there because there's people unlike to give me support to my mum suffered from infertility so no I wasn't just going in there to get a kick out of your misery I wasn't judging you or saying how anyone should feel but I wont accept the crap you say either it's fine to vent and maybe that's why it should be privait do people can't see the insulting hurtful things you say, even when I said sorry and held my hands up your still on here saying stuff about me,

Feel free to pop into the LTTTC forum anytime you want to let us know that we should be the bigger person while you cuddle your three kids. Your posts are the reason I no longer feel at home there...and your posts are the reason I feel I can't vent in the forum that was created for people like me...not you!

I'm done with you and this whole thing. You're obviously soooo helpful that you can't even respect what the forum was created for.

Go ahead and post all over LTTTC offering your helpful advice about how we're mean and bitter and it's unacceptable...

 

[zanDark]

There is obviously upset on both sides so I think it is good to talk about it and find a solution that keeps as many folk as possible happy. I don't think anyone would want you to not be able to vent, but in venting sometimes hurtful things are said. Perhaps some way to remind people to not take venting as personal attacks, and a way to remind people to try not to be too attacking in venting would help? Saying "I don't feel understood" doesn't upset people like "They cannot understand" if you know what I mean? Hard to consider wording when you are hurting though, so that is why I agree with it being private.

I completely understand what you're saying and thank you for taking the time to explain your point of view

I don't disagree with you at all, I just feel that we shouldn't have to be careful and choose our wording in the section made for us...I never vent in other parts of the forum in the same way I vent in LTTTC. It was nice while it lasted because sometimes you just need to go somewhere and let out all those dark horrible thoughts that eat you away.

I'm pretty sure the gender disappointment forum was made private because people don't understand what it's like...I think the LTTTC forum should be private for the same reasons!

I do appreciate your input and understanding hun

 

[buttonnose82]

I'm going too lock this girls, I hope you don't mind.

Your request has been highlighted too admin so it seems best too lock this for now too prevent any further bad feeling

 

[Wobbles]

I'm sorry but we will not be user grouping the LTTTC forum.

How will members find the support here if we shut it off from the public ... BabyandBump is a PUBLIC forum.

Not all the loss sections are private, journals are only private from guests and 2 other forums of sensitive natures are not Admin approval you simply make the decisions yourself if you join. We have to draw a line somewhere or the whole forum will be on shut down.

Like all the issues on BabyandBump if there is a problem report it and let the BnB team deal with it. Not all actions taken are public knowledge so report > leave the thread > let us handle it. The incident that has promoted this thread is still being reviewed due to my absence this week and coming weekend.


Wobbles