Rows

[Greta]

Hi, I just wanted to share that I have had a miserable weekend with lots of rows with my DH. We are soon to start ICSI after a miserable IVF experience and he admitted he is very worried about it because it is so unnatural and playing with nature, even more so than IVF, as well as worried about it failing.

He says I am just completely obsessed with getting pregnant and have been for years. He is right about this and I am 41 and feel broken hearted that I haven't conceived.

But I am trying to keep things nice and do other things, but it is hard when you feel depressed and can't have the one thing you want above all else. I am sure you can all relate to this.

I do love my DH. He is lovely, funny, kind, attractive and clever etc. He is usually supportive but this weekend has been nasty and moody and we both told each other we are miserable. We are due to start ICSI in six weeks and I said we need to do the counselling along with it as it is so scary this time as we have had one failure and IVF is not an option now, only ICSI.

I think I will really try and do things to look after myself physically and mentally and hopefully that will make him happier. I am going to do yoga, meditation, swimming etc. I'll also try and listen to him more and not react too harshly when he gets so stressed. I don't want it to ruin what we have. Any advice welcome. Thanks for listening. xx

 

[brumbar]

aww sorry you're having troubles hun....it is normal i guess- it's stressfull and we are a "little" bit hormonal you see...no word of advice - sorry- just didn't want to read and run
hugs

 

[ANGEL223]

Hi Greta, I think what you are feeling in perfectly normal.

Its a very stressful time for you both. In my limited experience, men have more of an ego about this sort of thing - male pride and all that! Im guessing he also feels stressed that he cannot give you the one thing you want most.

It would be great if you could go to counselling together but dont force him - theres no reason why you cant go alone and talk over your own concerns.

Hope everything works out for you this time!

 

[Greta]

Thanks for your help. xx

 

[rainbow girl]

Hi Greta,
Poor you, I hate when I have arguments with my dh it makes me feel miserable too. It sounds like you are both under a huge amount of stress, but it's clear from what you've said that you really love your hubby. I agree with Angel that some counselling might be really helpful for you both and if your dh isn't keen on it, it can still be useful for you. Let your hubby know you love him and why not plan something special for you both to do together ( no baby or fertility talk allowed!!) before the treatment begins to just enjoy each others company and relieve the stress a little. Hope you feel better soon and good luck with everything!
xxx