Ruining our lives!

[DazedConfused]

So I'm having a bit of a moment here, just a deranged pregnant lady? or am I talking some sense?

BASICALLY OH used to be "the next big thing" in drama here in NZ. Got into super exclusive drama school, won awards blah blah amazing blah. Then he dropped out. This was years before we met.

When I met him just over a year ago he was a bartending bum and I basically sorted his shit out. Then surprise, I got pregnant. And all is well we work full time etc.

Except I watched one of his performances/old interviews and completely fell in love with his talent, I've never even seen him perform live! And now I really want him to go back to drama school etc! But we're like having a baby... and the school is in a whole different city... but gah!

Am I sad because I feel like this door is closed now? Am I worried about leading a mundane life? probably.
Or am I being totally stupid as he didn't want this years ago and is unlikely to want it in the future. Eep *deranged*

 

[DazedConfused]

Follow up possible psychotic thought: OMG I'll just leave him! and refuse to let him see his son! *GENIUS*

 

[tasha41]

Aww, maybe just ask him what he thinks of getting into it again. Even if he doesn't get into it full time, maybe taking it up as a hobby again would be good for him?

 

[lu-is]

I agree with Tasha, talk to him about his performing see if he is still interested in it.
Perhaps he would prefer it as a hobby instead of a career, lots of communities put on productions that are tons of fun!

 

[DazedConfused]

Good advice!

Maybe I'm drawn to the glamour of his life back then and he was so pretty back then! I want that OH!

He just said he's more excited about being a daddy than he ever was about being an actor.

 

[newmommy20]

Have you thought about asking him the reason he dropped out of his drama classes? That might hVe something to do with him not wanting to go back.

 

[mayb_baby]

Well he left for a reason sweetie and if he really wanted it I'm sure he could pick it up part time again. I think you’re just worried that you two are no trapped with this baby and that the old lives you lead are gone, which is not the case many people have babies then careers
I felt like this as has OH in early pregnancy but now I cannot wait until we are a proper little family

I think it’s pregnancy pulling your strings and making you feel this way, try and remember you are lucky you have an OH who is more excited about being with you and having a baby with you than he ever was about his old career path

xxxxxx