Sad for FOB...just a rant

[DragonTamer]

Here is a little history to get everyone on track

My FOB was the world to me. We were soulmates and were finally having a baby after trying for over 4 years with no success...I stood by his side through thick and thin as he stood by mine. Everything was perfect, we were just 3 weeks away from my due date, then it happened...he was accused of a horrible crime and was thrown in jail. He lost everything because due to the crime he was accused of we can never be together because of my children. He missed the birth of his son and can't help me raise him. Even if he is found not guilty I will be frowned upon by society as a whole if I stay with him. I believe he is innocent but what I feel and what the jury decides could very well be completely different.

Anyway, he is out on bond and he is trying to get his disability back (he lost it because they claim he is no longer disabled, not because he was in jail for a month) because without it he can't get the meds that control his disability. He is epileptic and so far since social security kicked him off disability (and are insisting he pay back over $25,000 in one lump sum) he has run out of a vital medication and has had 2 major seizures in less than a weeks time. Ha ok, and social security claims he isn't disabled...whatever. If he is able to get back on social security our son will be eligible to receive money too and that will help out some. But I just want FOB to be able to get the meds he needs! He is on three different medications and they cost a LOT...its over $2000 a month for all three of them. Its crazy. I get upset because I promised him I would always be there for him and I now I can't without losing my entire family because they ALL think he is guilty...its amazing how one day my family was happy for us and waiting for him to finally propose and marry me (which btw I found out he had the day planned and everything to propose) and the next day because of one accusation they hate him and want him to fry...they just don't know him how I do I guess.

Sorry for the rant...I guess I put it here since I am a single mom and this kind of goes with it...I'm just so upset today because he had another seizure today (his mom called me and told me and sent me a picture of his eye where he hit it on the dresser) and I can't be there for him

 

[whatwillbe]

I'm sorry Hun, it all must of been such a shock for you, one day your all happy as a family and the next it's torn apart and when someone we love does something bad, it doesn't just stop those feelings, I know you believe he hasn't done what he's accused of, and you probably know him best out of everyone.. I can understand you wanting to be there for him too, I don't know what I'd do in your situation, is there any kind of charities that can help out with the cost of his meds , until or if the social security reinstate his costs ? I hope it all sorts it self out

 

[Ceejay123]

Big hug x

 

[DragonTamer]

I'm sorry Hun, it all must of been such a shock for you, one day your all happy as a family and the next it's torn apart and when someone we love does something bad, it doesn't just stop those feelings, I know you believe he hasn't done what he's accused of, and you probably know him best out of everyone.. I can understand you wanting to be there for him too, I don't know what I'd do in your situation, is there any kind of charities that can help out with the cost of his meds , until or if the social security reinstate his costs ? I hope it all sorts it self out

I've been trying to look things up to try and get help but I keep ending up at dead ends. Either the numbers are disconnected or no one is returning my calls/emails. Its very frustrating. I love him with all my heart and he wanted nothing more than to be a daddy and now all this. It was a HUGE shock and there is so much more to everything that I cannot get into except that even though I was a single mom before we got together, this is soooo much harder than before. I think because I know that if I had decided to continue to stand by his side I would have lost the support of my friends and family and possibly lost my children. It was a painful decision that I had to make and he is completely understanding albeit depressed because he can't be the daddy he wanted to be.

 

[whatwillbe]

There has to be somehow he can get his meeds paid for surely, weather he's committed a crime or not, it's his human rights surly in this day and age , I would keep looking Hun, or even try and get some legal advice somehow ? It's such a shame because it's like you want to be together but can't, but as a mother your kids have to come first, so youve made the right decision , I hope that he gets his name cleared if he is innocent and there is a way out of this for you all x

 

[kobrinfamily]

Im sorry you are going threw this and I hope he can get threw all this court stuff so you guys can be a family again!

 

[Ceejay123]

Is there any way that this will be resolved? If he's been accused of a crime, is there going to be a trial/hearing? If not - Surely he's innocent until proven guilty? x

 

[DragonTamer]

I was able to get a number that will help him get at least the medication he is currently out of and hopefully I can find him help for the other two before he runs out of those.

You would think its his right as a human being to get his meds but for the first 5 days in jail they refused to get them for him and he had a seizure...once he had that seizure they gave him his meds (thinking that maybe they didn't believe him) then he had one after only missing 2 doses of the med he's out of. I was able to get him 3 days worth last weekend but then he was out again and had a bad one on Saturday....I PRAY everything gets straightened out soon.

It will be going to trial, his parents are going to be draining their retirement to hire him a good lawyer. I just hope they don't go broke for nothing we just don't know when the trial is yet