Sadly coming on over...

[Myturn]

This is by far the hardest thing I have ever done. Went in for a scan today to find out I had a miscarriage.

I've been with my husband since high school we have never not tried. I'm 28 and I finally got my first BFP on 1/1/12. Sadly it ended to soon at 6 weeks. I am just heart broken and devastated. But, above all I'm sooo angry. Sorry for ranting.... I'm just feel so empty inside. I am waiting to hear back from my midwife to make sure my numbers are definitely dropping. So just waiting on that phone call. Hopefully this is almost over with. It's a cruel joke to still feel pregnant but know your not. This is awful does the pain ever dull???

 

[lilmamatoW]

So sorry for your loss. I know it's hard to believe right now, but the pain does dull over time. Give yourself time to mourn this loss and to be sad.

 

[Stepmomtobio]

I'm so sorry for you loss. It sucks, it's heart breaking and devistating. Mourn your loss, take the time you need and know over time it hurts less. I hope it goes quickly for you and when you are ready you get your rainbow baby. Hugs

 

[SabrinaKat]

You might want to also post down in Losses-Miscarriage for some more help (very lovely ladies down there as well)....

As for the physical part, you will feel the pregnancy symptoms for a few more weeks (I did for about 2-3wks afterwards) and it is cruel....Emotionally, it will take awhile (I ended up getting counselling, which helped me alot), but please take some time to grieve and recover...please take care of yourself....

am so sorry that you are going through this....

best wishes

 

[Charlee]

So sorry for your loss hun, it's completely natural to mourn and I hope you get through it, it will get better in time I promise x

 

[lilmamatoW]

I don't know if this will help you and I don't know what your belief system is, but it did help me to know that my angel was in heaven and being cared for there. And I truly believe that someday, I will meet my baby--not in this lifetime on this side of heaven, but I will see that child someday. I read a book called, "Heaven is for Real," and it is an account of a little boy who went to heaven and met his miscarried older sister (whom he did not know about). Like I said, I don't know if it will give you comfort, but it gave me a great deal of comfort and peace to know that my angel baby was in heaven waiting for me. In the meantime, hugs to you...I hope you are surrounding yourself with people who love you and care for you. It doesn't take the pain away, but it does help to know that others want to help in any way they can.

 

[filipenko32]

My turn, sorry for your loss, how long have you been trying or not preventing for?

 

[Myturn]

My husband and I have been together since high school so 10 years. WOW

 

[Andypanda6570]

I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
I know how hard this is and you will get through this, i promise.
It takes a lot of time and acceptance. I lost my Ava at 20 weeks and I was just devastated I think of her constantly and now it hurts cause the year anniversary is coming in March. I go to her grave every other day and just talk to her. I am better and stronger but the pain is always there, but it does get better, if you ever need a friend i am here... Andrea

 

[filipenko32]

My turn, I really think that if you have been not trying not preventing for so long and this I you first bfp then you should have some basic tests done. It could be something really simple so don't worry but a simple treatment like an aspirin a day could save you more heartache for example. On the other hand if you've never tried very hard at all it could still be bad timing that it took so long and just bad luck that you miscarried. I'd ask for those tests though on the basis you've been 'trying' for a number of years.

 

[Greens25]

I am very sorry for your loss. Tomorrow will mark 3 months since I lost my twins at 11weeks, and it still feels like yesterday.

Please know that we are all here to support each other! If you need anything, we have all been there and can empathize with how you might be feeling

 

[susan_1981]

Aww I'm so sorry for your loss. I fell pregnant 3 years ago but sadly miscarried at 7 weeks. Found out at my 12 week scan. We were absolutely devastated. The only thing that kept me going was the thought of trying again. I suppose maybe the only comfort you can take from this is knowing that you can fall pregnant so it will happen again. It's so sad that miscarriages are so common but most women go on to have healthy babies. Again I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

 

[Lazy Leo]

I am so sorry for your loss. I promise you it does get better.

I've gone through family bereavement and some tough times, but nothing prepared me for how I felt when I m/c my baby after 2 years of ttc. I cried so much I didn't think I had any more tears and I didn't know when it would end. I found I told my immediate family and circle of 5 close friends and it meant no-one said anything to me which would accidentally set me off again.

Crying helped me heal.

It was over 2 and a half years ago and I still remember the pain, but the pain has faded. It doesn't hurt as much. But my baby is still remembered and he/she would have been 3 yesterday by my reckoning.

Time heals, I promise.