Sadly joining you all..

[BabyBoyle]

Evening ladies..

First of all wanna say im gutted for everyone in the same situation and those of you who have unfortunately experienced this too..

Went for anomoly scan today (early because she was disgnosed with a few issues at 12wk scan.)

Today is 16wk2d, and was worried about not hearing LO heartbeat yesterday on doppler, after hearing every day from 12wks.

Thought it was nothing and refused to try again last night until scan today.

Went for scan, baby was measured for various sizing up they need, and was informed there was no heartbeat and she had gone to sleep

Had a second Dr come and check, and got referred to my local hospital for tomorrow.


Im absolutely terrified tbh, and hoping that if its not too painful you may be able to share your "experiences" with me with this?

Im going tomorrow morning for the tablets to stop the hormones (as Dr said?), and then will be induced on Sunday/Monday.


Ive never had this before, ive never been in "labour", im petrified.

I dunno what to expect, im looking forward to seeing her, and cuddling her, and have already wrote things i want to be done (like her photos & prints if i can) but i still dont know what to expect other than a teeny baby


Thanks in advance ladies Xxxx

 

[emmsie27]

Oh hunny, big I'm sorry I'm not so good with my words tonight, but just wanted to send you love and strength xx

A year ago on Sunday I gave birth to my beautiful sleeping angel, she too was my first baby and labour, I was absolutley terrified, I thought there was no way that I could go through it. But somehow I did find the strength with the support of my OH and mum, couldn't have done it without them by my side.

Do as much as you can/want to with her, take as many pictures as you can, they will become a treasured memory for you.

Wishing you gentle days ahead xx

 

[babesx3]

so sorry .
I left a message on your 2nd tri post ..
My baby died at around 17 weeks ..
instead of repeating it all as its pretty painful as its his due date today, i'll post the link to my pregnancy journal with him that tells u what i went thru ...

hope it helps

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-journals/347687-rip-baby-charlie-upsetting-birth-story-39.html

so sorry for your loss

 

[SassyLou]

 

[BabyBoyle]

So sorry for you too guys, Horrible thing to go through..

Will have a look at your journal now hun, think how beautiful he is now playing in the sun, not with this crap weather and crap world we are all in now

 

[iloveblue]

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.
You sound very brave and together.

We lost our baby 15 weeks ago today (at 20 weeks gestation).
It all happened very quickly for us - I was already having contractions when we found out there was no heartbeat, and the whole process from scan to giving birth took 6 hours.
We decided not to see or hold our baby - a decision I regret now, but I know it was right for me at the time.
We do have hand/foot prints, scan pictures and a few other mementoes - and we are going to plant a tree to remember our little one on our due date in March.
From what I have read by other mums who have lost little ones at this stage - your little baby girl will be perfectly formed but just very tiny. The size of our babies handprint could fit inside my thumbnail and that was at 20 weeks.
The physical pain will be easy to deal with and they will give you painkillers (even morphine I've heard) if you need it.
Do you have any inkling why this has happened? You mentioned issues at your 12 week scan - could it be related?

My advice is just do what feels right for you and be gentle on yourself over the coming weeks.
I would have days after when I felt fine, then the next day I would be very low again. I still get times now when I feel awful (and that sadness will always be with us) but it does get better and easier.

I really hope you have lots of support around you and everything goes as well as can be over the next few days.
Come and chat when you're ready, there's lots of us who have been through this and talking about it really does help.
I will be thinking of you xx

 

[babesx3]

baby boyle
will be thinking of u over the next few days..take each day /each hour as it comes..

 

[baileykenz]

ohh hun i am so sorry..

 

[BabyBoyle]

Thankyou so much girls..

Blue - so sorry to hear hun, I'm glad it was quick for you.

Yeah she has turner syndrome, at her NT her level was 10.8mm, where the norm is less than 2. That fluid is around her whole body and she had hydrothorax so think the fluids compressed her too much, her heart sadly stopped yesterday

Just knew when I couldn't find it on the Doppler she was gone

 

[iloveblue]

So sorry - she was just too precious for this world. x

 

[Hoping]

I am so sorry, you sound so strong, I think you are amazing to be dealing with it as you seem to be. I will be thinking of you

 

[django31]

Hi there, im so sorry for the loss of your little princess. I lost my first son last March so i know this horrid pain you are feeling...
thinking of you and your angel lots and lots
xxx

 

[Neko]

Sorry for your loss.

I lost my baby just a year ago at 14 weeks. In the US, it's usually recommended to have a D&E when a baby is miscarried. Enjoy holding your little baby, it's one memory I wish I could have had.

The only thing that made me feel better was naming my baby and knowing I'd see them again one day in heaven.

 

[spellfairy]

aw soooo sorry for u. i lost my son 3 weeks ago at 19 weeks. not sure what happened he came within half hour of pain, when i went to my bathroom. wish id been in hospital all alone than rushed in with trapped placenta he was perfectly formed. saw a wee brown eye too wee fingers n toes. i got prints of his feet n hands some pics and luckily i have a lil video of him at 14 weeks on a scan moving around. i m sending you hugs and a prayer xox

 

[BabyBoyle]

So sorry to hear this guys

I'm going in half hour for the medication. Hoping they scan her and it was all a bad dream and she's kicking me for being so stupid.

Dunno how I'm gonna cope x

 

[babesx3]

I had a second scan too the day they gave me the tablets... he was in exactly the same position as the day before.. but it was good to be sure iykwim..

I truely hope they are wrong, but don't build your hopes up hun..

I hope they are kind to you and help u thru this awful time xxxx

 

[Weeplin]

I'm so sorry hon

 

[Peril]

I lost my 3rd LO almost exactly a year ago at 17 weeks.

I had to have the tablet and then go into labour ward to be induced. The staff were so lovely to me and made a horrific experience as bearable as possible.

It was a long and emotional day. In my hospital they asked what i wanted. I didn't want to see my angel, i wanted the memories and dreams that i had for him. They took photos and foot and hand prints, and have kept them in my hospital records so if i want to see them in future i can.

I really wish you all the best and big you are such a brave strong woman x

 

[BabyBoyle]

The girls are lovely but got an info leaflet about the meds, unfortunately talks about terminations with these meds so it's a bit upsetting. Worded for women that have terminations not miscarriages

Gutting. They said I can either stay here (been here 5hrs already) and just taken the first tablet. But going home in an hour to return Monday for induction.

 

[babesx3]