scared and worried

[sierra19]

i keep thinking that what happened to my first child will happen to my next. i cant help but worry all the time that something is wrong. how long can you walk around with a fetal demise and not know anything is wrong, is it even possible? i think i feel flutters but then my mind tells me that its gas or some muscle twitch. at 11.5 weeks we got a heartbeat, but because i can't confirm that every day i am going crazy thinking something is wrong.

oh and crazy vivid and wild dreams-mostly involving some dangerous element, so dangerous it wakes me and i am loosing sleep because of it.

 

[hb1]

Try to take one day at a time - I know the movements at 17 weeks are hard to guage so can fill you with doubt - and remember - what happened last pregnancy is not the most likely outcome for your baby this time - the odds are in your favour.

I found a doppler handy but it depends whether you are likely to worry more or not - so it's a very personal decision.

Oh - and I have the craziest and most vivid dreams and have been suffering sleepless nights since v early on - I think it's hormonal ( although now I think the addition of being uncomfortable and getting SPD has made it worse lol!! ).

I also found that I have become more confident in my pg the longer I have gone on - I still have days of worry and imagining the worst but I have lovely days when I feel positive and can sit there feeling his little nudges and wriggles and it's great - I am sure you will feel better as you get further on.

Try and stay positive and relax when you can

hx

 

[marnie79]

aww hun, know how u feel, this time round i just feel like im a ticking timebomb just waiting to explode and for me it seems to be the further along im getting in this preg the more worried im getting and im starting to get the feeling like something is gonna go wrong i guess thats normal seeing as i havent hit the point i lost my son, but tbh this preg is doing my head in, i hope u can find a way to calm ur self and find some enjoyment in ur peg, big hugs xx