Scared I might tear again (read with caution, traumatic birth)

[BabyBlondex]

It's such an anxious time isn't it when you've experienced it once already. For me a section was a definite no straight away unless of course there is a medical reason why I should have one. I've been practising hypnobirthing to help me keep calm and my birth plan is going to be very specific around the care I want whilst in labour.

I have to laugh at the hypnobirthing comment. Not because I think youre crazy, but because I had read the book and practiced while I was pregnant with our second. I hope it works for you! I remember getting to the hospital and being ready to push within minutes (literally it was 12 minutes from the time I walked in until our son was born) and being in SO much pain, my husband kept telling me "remember, the contractions are like ocean waves, in and out, ocean waves honey" I told him to shut up, it was all bull$#!t and it didnt work, they werent waves, they were contractions and it HURT.

In all seriousness, I hope you find comfort in the hypnobirthing! And I hope you dont have to fight too hard for the birth you want and deserve.

I love this post 😂 I've never tried hypnobirthing but from having two children I can honestly say it wouldn't work for me, I can't keep calm without being in labour let alone while in it!!! You've made my day 💜

 

[sarah34]

I'm really worried about tearing down there. Although mine wasn't anywhere near as bad as yours I was actually given episiotomy and every time I think about labour I keep imagining the scar tearing open or another episiotomy! That's all I ever think about...

I know what you mean,hun, the midwife said to me they may want to do an episiotomy just in case to prevent tearing but I'm hoping neither happens!

I had ventouse and an episiotomy and honestly the recovery was fine. I also had a small tear and that took longer to heal than the episiotomy so don't worry if they need to do one it isn't too bad xx

 

[sarah34]

Sorry just seen you have had the baby! Congrats!

 

[babyjan]

I'm really worried about tearing down there. Although mine wasn't anywhere near as bad as yours I was actually given episiotomy and every time I think about labour I keep imagining the scar tearing open or another episiotomy! That's all I ever think about...

Now that I've given birth I thought I'd update my situation ... Ended up with another episiotomy but honestly it had to be done! My baby was in distress and his heart rate was down for 8 mins!

tbh I found the contractions worse than the pushing stage!

Today is day 4 and sitting still hurts and it stings bad when going toilet.

 

[victoria1987]

With my first I pushed for nearly 3 hours and tore terribly. The midwife was down there stitching for like 45 mins. Second time around I was terrified of pushing again but it went amazingly well! Baby was out in 6 minutes and I only needed 1 stitch!

 

[princess2406]

Just wanted to update I had my little boy 16/4, so proud I managed to push him out myself no pain relief, about 10 mins of pushing and only had a small 2nd degree tear that needed a few stitches. Recovery is been great this time too.