Scared of an idiot.

[Twilight]

So i'm single and newly pregnant - i hope its okay for me to post here, since im not a mum YET. Anyway, cutting a long story short (as you may have read the long story in teen pregnancy) i've split up with my boyfriend because i'm tired of his abuse and controlling ways. the thing is, i am so terrified of having this baby - simply because i know it will give him the excuse he needs not to leave me alone. as it is he appears everywhere i happen to be, and tries to contact me on every persons number he knows i have contact with! you might feel sorry for him,and think hes trying to make it right.. but ive been with him for two years and it always turns out the same. his newest line that has infuriated me AND b&b members who have followed my posts are : "i only hit you once, dont treat me like a criminal. i cant believe your ignoring me, why are you doing this to me? why are you being so fu-king horrible." and threatening to kill himself.

im so worried that i wont be free from him now, because so long as i have this baby, he has me trapped. his family hate me but i know they would fight for him to see the baby and have him/her stay ove a lot because they want to upset me. he even threatened me with social services for mistreatment... and i havent even had the baby yet! Im so (and i know this is awful, im sorry) close to pretending ive miscarried or terminated so he will back off.. but i dont want my baby to have no dad im so stuck on what to do, im happy now hes gone and i dont want him to come back into my life

 

[AppleBlossom]

Ignore ALL of his calls and texts. He sounds like a complete child and children tend to get bored after a while if they aren't getting any attention. As for being "trapped" remember YOU are the baby's mother. If you feel that he could jepordise the safety of your baby if he had contact with her the courts can do something about it like give him certain times to see it and under supervision by you at a contact centre. If he breaks these i.e. turns up at your door mouthing off wanting to see your LO he is breaking the rules of his access and he will end up getting less or even none at all. Just make sure you keep a note of any threatening messaged he sends you. Ignore him as much as you can

 

[Twilight]

the thing is he never is threatening when ive left him, just accuses me of being horrible and whatever, apart from saying he'll kill himself - its when im back with him he behaves like a moron. its so easy to get sucked in because hes nice and then i think i've made a mistake and go back and it starts all over again.

 

[AppleBlossom]

My ex wasn't physically abusive but he would work my head something rotten, sometimes that can be worse. I assume you don't live with him? If not, just cut all contact if necessary. I don't mean keep him out of your babies life, I mean if he texts you things like, get back with me or I'll kill myself, just ignore it. He wouldn't, it's just a way of him trying to force you to get back with him. It's a viscious circle. He gets a bit nasty, you leave, he makes you feel sorry for him, you get back together, he gets nasty again, you leave etc etc one of you has to break the circle or you will just carry on being miserable and possibly unsafe. That's not the kind of environment anyone wants to bring their child up in

 

[Twilight]

we have a flat together but i've left and gone back to my mums. she doesnt know im pregnant know , or i'd have no where. our flat is being put back on the market.