Scared of ttc baby number 2 due to past miscarriages

[flou]

So I have my rainbow baby who is my everything. I had a long journey to get him: 4 years ttc and 2 losses. And then finally I was blessed with my gorgeous little boy. Pregnancy was textbook until the end when I developed high blood pressure and I had a difficult birth experience which ended in me having an emergency c-section. But ultimately he was worth it. And I would like another, and I know even if I went through more difficulties having another, they would be worth it too. However, I am still scared. I'm scared about the possibility of going through it all again. Petrified of having more losses. Is anyone or has anyone else feeling the same way or got any advice? We are not ttc just yet but thinking soon. I am 35 so I don't want to wait too long, especially if it takes similar time to last time.

 

[CanadianLady]

I can understand how you feel. It took us 3 years ttc #1. I lost my first at 6-8 weeks Aug 2010. My second at 12+1 Dec 2010. I had my gorgeous rainbow boy in Jan 2012. We have been ttc #2 for 2 years now. I want another but it still scares me. Also worried about miscarriage because I will be 37 in December.

 

[nessaw]

This is exactly where we're at. We tried for 5 years to get Eva with 3 mcs. 1 blighted ovum found at 9 weeks, twins lost to twin to twin transfusion at 15 weeks and a mmc at 11 weeks. Time isn't on our side as I turned 40 this year. We really want a sibling for our daughter but don't know whether to just count our blessings and stick to one. With Eva's pg I was on progesterone so would be under the consultant again. We are thinking of starting to ttc in Dec. However the idea of another mc terrifies me. X

 

[flou]

Hi ladies its comforting to know I am not the only one who feels this. I tried talking to my mum about it but she said even if it doesn't happen I've got Arthur. Which is true. After all the ups and downs, I know I am so lucky to have him but it doesn't make me any less scared about going through the whole process again. I hope we all get baby number 2 without having to go through another mc.