Scared to find out gender and be disappointed..

[MommyMoore503]

I have 2 beautiful girls ages almost 3 & almost 5 wacko and I love them dearly. I am 12 weeks now and will be finding out the gender in a month. Every time i think about it I get crazy anxiety because I've always wanted a boy so bad. This will be our last child and I'm so scared I won't get the boy I've been dreaming about. I know that if it's another girl I will love her to pieces.. just feel like I'll also be mourning the son I'll never have at the same time. Has anyone else gone through this? It really is an awkward feeling. I don't want the ultrasound tech to say 'It's a girl' and then I burst into tears. Please share with me your stories so I can just come to accept I may have a 3rd girl. Thanks everyone and hope your bumps are growing nicely!!

 

[kirstensheep]

i know how your feeling! this is my first pregnacy but i really want a girl. my OH has 2 boys from a previous relationship but i want a girl! i know i will be happy with a boy, but i will be gutted!

 

[robinator]

I would like a girl, too, but all the predictors and instincts are leaning towards a boy.... I wonder if when we find out, and it is a boy, if I will be disappointed, or if I will end up being thrilled? There will probably be a bit of disappointment though, I guess.

 

[apple84]

Last pregnancy I wanted a girl, but wasn't upset at all when I found out he was a boy. This will probably be our last child though, so I wonder too if I'll be more disappointed if it's another boy?

 

[tink30]

aww dont worry hun, i think yr hormones will be all over the place... my friend had a baby when i did four years ago and he was so so sick and still is with disabilities.. its put things in prospective.. so many things can go wrong we just have to pray for a healthy baby and no worry about the sex, they are your babies and you will love them xxx

 

[daisybby03]

I have a daughter and am pregnant with twins..I am so worried I will have 2 girls in my belly. I know I will love them, but i really want at least one boy! I know how you feel

 

[sannod]

I think about this constantly. It has been really trying with my son and to be honest I'm terrified that my next child will be as difficult and high energy as this one. I love my son to death but can't help but wonder if i'm capable of handling two little boys i'm fully aware that a girl may not be any different but I can dream can't I. I grew up with all girls in my family so I never imagined not having one. It's hard to let go of the things we have always dreamed of but ultimately once you see your children or feel them move they take a peice of your heart and nothing will change that. Plus son's will get married and you may get daughters then or even better granddaughters and vice versa if your looking for a boy. My way of coping is by thinking that it is 100% a boy, that way my hopes wont get to high.

 

[sannod]

Does anyone else ever look around and think that everyone they know who is having babies at the same time is having a girl while your having a boy or vice versa. It happened with my first and I feel like it is happening again. I want a girl so all my friends are having girls and i'll have a boy. I know it doesn't matter but it makes me really jealous at all the pretty girl things haha. where are all the boys? PS my mom had all girls and although she wanted a boy I don't think she ever felt like she missed out, we were kind of tom boys though and now she has a grandson to make up for it.

 

[RedheadBabies]

A coworker of mine just went through this. She has 2 DDs, 7 and 4 and is due anytime now. When she was 20 weeks and found out it was another girl, she cried. This is her last also. She says now she feels terrible for how she felt, but I think its normal. We threw her a little shower with lots of pink, purple, frills, and little headbands, and she can't be more excited. Plus, I think there is something so sweet when you see a family with 3 of the same. Three little girls, cute little dresses....just think how close they'll be when they grow up? I have three younger sisters...and they are truly my best friends.

 

[kileyjo9]

im definately feeling the same way, but i am planning on having one more after this so there will still be hope. The only thing that has my gut in knots is that i suffered a loss in march and it was a girl. If i have 2 more boys I will be so upset knowing that i had my girl and she isnt here with me. It sounds stupid but i will be so upset if this one is not a girl, even more than I am now that my girl was taken from me. I know i will love another son more than anything, i am just really hoping for a girl. I am afraid of being disapointed, but i know if it is a boy, the disapointment will be minimal, and it wont last long. Good luck, and i hope you get the little boy you are dreaming of.

Kiley

 

[Nathyrra]

It's a rather strange, uninvited feeling isn't it?

It took me ages to conceive my first, and when I did I still wanted a girl. I got over it quickly and my son is absolutely AMAZING! My son was born with down syndrome so you'd think that all I'd worry about in this pregnancy is babys health. Well, it is the absolute first first thing I'm worrying about in the morning and last thing at night, but also I'm STILL worried if this is a girl or not! Last pregnancy for me. Last shot at that particular dream.I don't think it takes away any feelings at all from the child that's in your belly, I think it's moreso a mourning of a dream. Like when my son was born I had to mourn all the 'typical' things he wont ever do. I'd be ecstatic for a healthy baby. If I'm also blessed enough to have a girl too..well I couldn't describe the euphoria.

 

[Jennifaerie]

My sister lost her son when he was almost 3 years old - he had cerebral palsy and died of pneumonia. She now has two DDs but hoped that her last one was a boy. She never finds out the gender but said she didn't feel disappointed when she was a girl.
She so misses having a little boy though. She says she would have another if she could be sure it would be a boy, and I know she wants me to have a boy (as do I I think - everyone seems to have girls in our family) but I won't be disappointed if this one is a girl.

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

I.... dont no what to say. Iv never understood anyone who thinks theyd ever be dissapointed at the sex of there baby but i come from a very different angle... i was told the chance of me having a child was slim and if i did if need a form of IVF....

this baby wasnt a testtube baby... im taking it as my only ever chance because lightning wont strike twice im guessing. at first i wanted a girl... for my OH because the name we chose means the world to him.. now he wants a boy and i want a boy because i picked the name. but in honestly i dont care what sex my baby it is, as long as i get to hold my baby at the end and kiss his/her little hands and feet and kiss there button nose ill be the happiest woman alive.
Its nt a guilt trip post at all, guess im just saying if u get to hold you baby at the end does it really matter what the sex is.

 

[mum2b2009]

With my first i didnt really mind what i had (had a boy) but with this baby i am hoping its a girl just so i have one of each really but in the long run it really wont bother me if i have another boy.

 

[rosequartz]

I also wanted a Girl but I have been predicted a Boy by 3 different people but I now I am fine with anything Hope you get your Boy hun

 

[oox_tasha_xoo]

I have a 2 year old son and would love to have a little girl as my OH doesnt want any more kids after this one... but i do keep imagining myself with 2 little boys the boys are going to dominate my house

 

[LM2104]

I have a 2 year old daughter and I can honestly say I dnt really mind what I have.

When I found out I was pregnant I thought 'oh, I want a boy, so we have one of each', then I thought 'oh, I want a girl so my DD has a sister and I get to reuse the amazing girls clothes I have stashed away upstairs'.

But now I really dont mind as long as they are healthy. If I could I would have twins with one of each, but I guess thats just being greedy!

 

[Ginaerhol]

i always imagined that i would have a little boy...u now have 3 girls lol. I was very disappointed when i found out my 3rd was a girl as i was so sure that she was a boy coz the pregnancy was a bit different etc...but now i couldnt wish for lovelier children they are my world and i love them to bits. My OH desperately wants a boy and it would be fantastic if this one was a little boy but either way we will be happy coz at the end of the day all our children are special because they are our little miracles. It can be hard to take in if its not what you initially wanted but you will come round to the idea of either sex and love it regardless xxx

 

[poppy666]

I can totally relate to this i have 4 boys already and was really worried when i went for my gender scan last week cos when i had my scan with my last LO i did cry and all that day was disappointed because at the time he was going to be my last baby. Think i was also disappointed in myself for feeling that way but when you want something so much its only natural and im only human. Wouldnt swap him for the world though he's amazing.

Anyways found out last week im having a girl and cried my eyes out once she told us as this one would of definately been my last LO. Kept asking her if she was sure there was no tinkle hiding

Hope you get your little boy

 

[wishful1]

So glad i'm not the only feeling this way, don't get me wrong THRILLED to be pregnant and would be happy with a healthy baby!

I really want a little girl though, we have two lovely nieces that I adore and all sorts of adorable hand-me-downs . . .