Scared to find out gender and be disappointed..

[TiredNurse27]

I'm dying to have a girl this time, if it turns out mines another boy we can do a swap? I make cute boys.

 

[pixiepower]

I know exactly what you're talking about, i have been blessed with a girl whos 11 now, then 2 boys, so would really really love a girl this time and have a feeling if i was to find out it was a boy it would be a very dull "oh" from me. I think this is why i want to find out at the 20 weeks scan, because i think I'm going to need another 20 weeks to adjust if i dont get what i want. Sounds awful doesnt it but this is why i love these forums, a place for honesty

 

[Lara310809]

I'm so sorry you feel this way. A lot of people won't understand your feelings about this, but I can totally get it. I'm not in the same situation really; well not to the point of feeling the way you do.

I had always always wanted a girl. I had the strongest instinct in my last pg that we would have a boy, and everyone was saying the same thing. I basically never allowed myself to believe we could have a girl (and we did). But in a way I had kind of refused to accept that it could happen, so in a way I never got to allow myself to be disappointed, because I expected it. Does that make sense?

This time around I would love a boy, because we only want two kids, and I want one of each. If we have another girl, it will be sad that we never got to have a boy and to experience that side of parenting, but at the same time it would be lovely for our daughter to have a sister to go through life with. And we already have all the girls' clothes

If you think that the disappointment at the birth would perhaps prevent you from bonding with your new baby as you want to be able to do, then I would recommend asking the sex at the 20 week scan, or going private if they can't tell you the sex there. It will give you a chance to get used to the idea of having another girl, if it is a girl, so that when the baby is born you can be 100% there for her.

It's a hard subject to broach, and I@m glad you did, because plenty of women feel this way, but don't ever say anything. But the most important thing is that you have a healthy baby growing in there, and that he or she is thriving. Many peopel never become parents, and this baby, along with your other two, will show you so much love and give you such a chance to love, that it won't even matter in the end. LIke you say, you will love the baby regardless

 

[MammyEvans20]

My mother had three girls, miscarried two more girls then on her ast one had a boy and i can tell you she lets him get a way with murder! lol
This is my first and im not bothered what so ever, as long as i can hold my baby in the delivery room and kiss it to death i dont care, but i wounder if il have all the same ?

 

[hinakhan]

its okey whatever it is u cant do anything so dunt worry n pray 4 good i m also expecting 2 but i love to have both girls or boys..
be happy

 

[Odd Socks]

i felt this with bella. i really wanted a girl & found out at 20 weeks because i thought if it had been a boy, i'd need some time to "come to terms with it" (those aren't the right words at all). i knew i'd be delighted with either a girl or a boy, but i couldn't imagine never having a daughter.

this time round, because i have my little girl, i don't mind either way.

xx