Scared to test

[mjemma]

OK, usually I hate these threads in TWW and think 'for goodness sake woman, just test' but now this is how I feel!

We have been TTC#1 for 25 months and never had a BFP. This month I haven't been temping or using OPKs but from when I think I ovulated, my period was due on Monday.

On Saturday I had a very sharp pain in the morning and then a small amount of brown spotting. I got ready for AF to arrive as it always comes within 24 hours of spotting but nothing. This has never happened before so I am hopeful it could have been implantation.

Now I am 2 days late but have no other symptoms. I know I should just test but I feel quite hopeful and I really just want to hold onto that feeling for a little longer before I realise my body is messing with me again and see another BFN. Does that sound crazy?

 

[Carebearbaby]

Ha, ha - no that doesn't sound crazy, it is perfectly normal, or if it's not then I guess I am crazy too. I hate that sinking feeling when you test and get a negative, but that lovely warm, excited feeling when your period is a couple of days late. I've never had a BFP, so when my period was late by 3 months I was so giddy - it was a cyst, I'd had a scan, but deep down I still thought I was pregnant - now that is crazy!

I can't really offer any advise - but if you do test you never know, you might just get a nice suprise

Good luck xx

 

[mjemma]

Thanks, glad I'm not the only crazy one!! I had a similar thing where I had a 50 day cycle about 18 months ago and was convinced I was pregnant but turned out to be cysts. My cycles have been fairly regular since they were removed but I am scared that they are back and that's why I'm late. Hate this!

 

[Mommyagain]

I see you got your Bfp!!!!! Yay!!

Im am so scared to test too. Im only 8dpo, 9dptrigger/iui, cd25.

 

[mjemma]

Thanks, I know it's very scary when you are used to BFNs every month. Luckily this time it was a nice surprise for me when I plucked up the courage! I held out until AF was 2 days late so I could be sure. Good luck xx

 

[flipbabies]

congratulations on your !!!!!! i hope to join you sometime soon! im starting my 1st round of clomid this month and am so curious about it all. how much clomid were you taking? what were your most noticeable side effects? did you go in for scans daily? or were you monitoring from home? i know you said you had a little brown spotting a couple days before your period came...how many dpo was that? did this cycle feel different for you?

sorry for all the questions and congrats again on your

 

[Carebearbaby]

I know I've said it on a private message, but congratulations on your it is so reassuring to see people finally get there - gives us all hope. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months

 

[mjemma]

congratulations on your !!!!!! i hope to join you sometime soon! im starting my 1st round of clomid this month and am so curious about it all. how much clomid were you taking? what were your most noticeable side effects? did you go in for scans daily? or were you monitoring from home? i know you said you had a little brown spotting a couple days before your period came...how many dpo was that? did this cycle feel different for you?

sorry for all the questions and congrats again on your

No problem, happy to help! I was taking 50mg clomid and the only side effect I had was hot flushes, mainly at night. I went for one scan on the first round and the others were unmonitored except for day 21 bloods and OPKs/temping at home. I ovluated well on the first two and was borderline on the third.

This cycle I had decided to take a a few months off - no clomid, temping, OPKs, timing sex etc. I didn't feel anything different, same normal PMS symptoms. The only difference was the brown spotting at about 12dpo which I have never had without AF turning up that day.

Hope that answers your questions. Good luck x

 

[mjemma]

I know I've said it on a private message, but congratulations on your it is so reassuring to see people finally get there - gives us all hope. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months

Thanks! And as I said in my PM thanks again for giving me the encouragement I needed to actually test. Glad to see you got a grade A transfer. Fingers crossed you'll be joining me in 2 weeks x

 

[Carebearbaby]

Thank you that would be amazing

 

[flipbabies]

congratulations on your !!!!!! i hope to join you sometime soon! im starting my 1st round of clomid this month and am so curious about it all. how much clomid were you taking? what were your most noticeable side effects? did you go in for scans daily? or were you monitoring from home? i know you said you had a little brown spotting a couple days before your period came...how many dpo was that? did this cycle feel different for you?

sorry for all the questions and congrats again on your

No problem, happy to help! I was taking 50mg clomid and the only side effect I had was hot flushes, mainly at night. I went for one scan on the first round and the others were unmonitored except for day 21 bloods and OPKs/temping at home. I ovluated well on the first two and was borderline on the third.

This cycle I had decided to take a a few months off - no clomid, temping, OPKs, timing sex etc. I didn't feel anything different, same normal PMS symptoms. The only difference was the brown spotting at about 12dpo which I have never had without AF turning up that day.

Hope that answers your questions. Good luck x

thank you so much for taking the time to answer all my questions! i really appreciate it! did you always start clomid on day 3? my doctor is having me start on day 5...

sending you lots of hugs on your !!!!!!!!!!

 

[mjemma]

I did clomid days 2-6, to be honest I'm not sure if any day is better than another. Thanks for the hugs x

 

[Just_married]

OK, usually I hate these threads in TWW and think 'for goodness sake woman, just test' but now this is how I feel!

We have been TTC#1 for 25 months and never had a BFP. This month I haven't been temping or using OPKs but from when I think I ovulated, my period was due on Monday.

On Saturday I had a very sharp pain in the morning and then a small amount of brown spotting. I got ready for AF to arrive as it always comes within 24 hours of spotting but nothing. This has never happened before so I am hopeful it could have been implantation.

Now I am 2 days late but have no other symptoms. I know I should just test but I feel quite hopeful and I really just want to hold onto that feeling for a little longer before I realise my body is messing with me again and see another BFN. Does that sound crazy?

You hate these kind of posts in tww yet you put it in ltttc?

Is it just me?

 

[StephieB]

You hate these kind of posts in tww yet you put it in ltttc?

Is it just me?

Nope, not just you

 

[BobDog]

i'm happy that you got your Bfp after so long. congratulations.

i'd maybe ask the mods to move this though as it upsets people that these things get posted in the LTTTC section. and i know you were LTTTC before you got your little blessing, but maybe spare a thought for the other users of this section...?

xx

 

[mjemma]

You hate these kind of posts in tww yet you put it in ltttc?

Is it just me?

I have been coming on the lttc forum for the past year to find the support and advice I desperately needed. I found a community of women I could rely on when feeling down or scared, and that's why I made the original post.

I had no idea or expectation that it would lead to a BFP. While I am obviously thrilled and excited I am also terrified that I will miscarry and have to come back here to start all over again. The experience doesn't leave you the day the test turns positive.

So while I understand that you are angry and upset try not to take it out on the women who know exactly what you are going through.

I hope you get your BFPs soon.

I will ask the moderators to remove this thread.

 

[Just_married]

You hate these kind of posts in tww yet you put it in ltttc?

Is it just me?

I have been coming on the lttc forum for the past year to find the support and advice I desperately needed. I found a community of women I could rely on when feeling down or scared, and that's why I made the original post.

I had no idea or expectation that it would lead to a BFP. While I am obviously thrilled and excited I am also terrified that I will miscarry and have to come back here to start all over again. The experience doesn't leave you the day the test turns positive.

So while I understand that you are angry and upset try not to take it out on the women who know exactly what you are going through.

I hope you get your BFPs soon.

I will ask the moderators to remove this thread.

It has nothing to do with the fact that it ended in a bfp, it's the fact that you not only admitted that you find these type of posts offensive in ANOTHER forum specifically for the kind of query you had, not only that, but you admit you've used ltttc forum for a while so it would be safe to assume you know what this section is used for and the guidelines concerning its use.

As fir your concerns about miscarriage, I'm sure you will find lots of support on 1st tri. I don't wish you ANY I'll and of course I understand that your fears have turned from not being able to conceive to worrying you will miscarry, but that doesn't change the fact that different forums exist on this website so that people can feel comfortable and supported in the appropriate forum.

Everyone's feelings are important here and the best way to be sensitive is to use the correct section. That way you would have received a more positive response and had the support you're seeking and other ltttc ladies wouldn't feel reminded of their own broken body's inability to give them the joy you feel right now.

 

[BobDog]

thank you for asking the mods to move this thread. it really is appreciated. in the mean time, should you be posting any more in this section (and i for one don't have any problem with you doing so), maybe click the box that asks if you want to show signature.

i truly wish you a very healthy pregnancy and that you are free from any complications.

 

[flipbabies]

i think this all turned really ugly and unfortunately probably added stress to a situation that needed no such thing. i don't think mejemma was looking to talk about this on this board in the first place...it was a thread posted from a long time back that i happened to come across, notice her new signature...and ask a couple questions. i agree, trust me, how hard it is to hear positive after positive while all your seeing is negative...but that doesn't mean we need to jump on someones back when asked a question. espesially someone you know is worried and concerned for their pregnancy.

if it truly upsets you, fine, have it removed from the board. but in no way was this a situation of someone coming to the wrong forum and bragging. she was answering some questions from another member (myself) and was really gracious to be open and go back to that vulnerable place we're all in.

i hope when you get your and people are wondering of your story you don't run into a situation similar to this.

baby dust to all! xxo

 

[Armywife84]

i think this all turned really ugly and unfortunately probably added stress to a situation that needed no such thing. i don't think mejemma was looking to talk about this on this board in the first place...it was a thread posted from a long time back that i happened to come across, notice her new signature...and ask a couple questions. i agree, trust me, how hard it is to hear positive after positive while all your seeing is negative...but that doesn't mean we need to jump on someones back when asked a question. espesially someone you know is worried and concerned for their pregnancy.

if it truly upsets you, fine, have it removed from the board. but in no way was this a situation of someone coming to the wrong forum and bragging. she was answering some questions from another member (myself) and was really gracious to be open and go back to that vulnerable place we're all in.

i hope when you get your and people are wondering of your story you don't run into a situation similar to this.

baby dust to all! xxo

Actually this is a very recent thread.

The main issue is when a BFP is talked about on the main page.

While LTTCers are happy for other LTTCers, it still hurts to scroll thru the page and happen upon a post of where they're mentioning a BFP. When AF just arrived for you. It's like logging onto FB and seeing another pregnancy announcement. She actually posted something in Success Stories which is where you could have asked her your questions, seeing it is more appropriate for that section.

No one's getting rude about it, just pointing out the way this thread turned belongs in the Success Stories. I'm not sure if you knew there was one?