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[proudparent88]

So during my last pregnancy I was told that there was a chance I had cervical cancer. Well after he was born I had a biopsy done and was told I needed a LEEP procedure. I was terrified to have this done. I faced my fears and had the procedure done and the cells removed were sent off for testing. On november 25th I went back for a follow up and was told devestating news I have cervical cancer. So I asked what we do and they want to do a hysterectomy. I'm 26 and even though I'm not having anymore kids I don't want to have that surgery because it will cause my body to go into menopause and it will make having a sex life difficult. I would rather undergo chemotherapy. What would you do if you was in my shoes which route should I take?

 

[SoBlessedMama]

I am so sorry you're dealing with this! Big hugs! I can't imagine having a hysterectomy at 26. But, if the doctors thought this was the best route to health, I would probably do it. That is a horribly tough decision to have to make. : ( Praying whatever you decide to do is massively successful!

 

[seoj]

Oh hun- I'm so sorry It's hard to know what I'd do, but I think, for me and my family I'd do what gave me the best odds. I know how hard chemo can be on you- but it affects people so differently. Obviously it's YOUR choice- and something you and OH should discuss and decide together.

Is there an option where you could have a partial done (leaving your ovaries)- and do chemo on top of that? Maybe you could ask for research and options and stats- although I know stats only give us so much info... as every situation is unique, but at least you'd have the full information before making a final decision.

Best of luck!!!!

 

[calm]

If it was me I would probably go with what the doctors said but maybe you could get a second opinion? I'm sorry you have to go through this, big hugs

 

[proudparent88]

I think the hardest part is OH never said anything about it not even it would be ok. I pointed that out to him and yet he still had nothing to say. I go back to the drs on the 30th hopefully I will get some answers to my questions. If my dr doesn't want to allow me to choose how this is taken care of I will be getting a second opinion from a gynocogist oncologist. Thanks for your support everyone it means so much.

 

[calm]

Could it be your OH is scared hun? Its not fair on you but many men can be like that X

 

[Rcx]

Hi honey so sorry to hear about this. If it were me personally I would get a hysterectomy but that is my own choice.
I think from the sounds of it your oh is very scared. He is prob a little shell shocker. I would speak with your doctor about other options & take it from there. Definitely seek a second opinion if they try to force you into the hysterectomy x

 

[alex_22]

I'm so so sorry your going through this! I have no advice on which route you should take just wanted to send you some hugs! I hope you kick cancers ass!! Stay strong x

 

[LPF]

Hello. I just wanted to say, I'm in the same boat. I had a diagnosis of cervical cancer yesterday. I have to have some scans etc but essentially will have a hysterectomy in a few weeks.

My understanding is that for cervical cancer, surgery is always do e first if your cancer level is 1 or 2. If it's progressing then they do chemo radiation on top or instead. I think surgery has the best outcome and recovery rate to get rid of it all.

I'm 34. Have one little boy and have had 4 miscarriages and it was due to testing for that that they found this and now I won't ever have another child.

I'm devastated and can't believe this is happening. I'm also terrified it's spread and I'm going to die

 

[proudparent88]

Hello. I just wanted to say, I'm in the same boat. I had a diagnosis of cervical cancer yesterday. I have to have some scans etc but essentially will have a hysterectomy in a few weeks.

My understanding is that for cervical cancer, surgery is always do e first if your cancer level is 1 or 2. If it's progressing then they do chemo radiation on top or instead. I think surgery has the best outcome and recovery rate to get rid of it all.

I'm 34. Have one little boy and have had 4 miscarriages and it was due to testing for that that they found this and now I won't ever have another child.

I'm devastated and can't believe this is happening. I'm also terrified it's spread and I'm going to die

It's nice to know I'm not alone. I know it muat be hard to not have anymore kids. For me I wasn't going to have anymore anyway I had my tubes tied In may after my c section. I have three boys all five and under and its very hard on me to think they could be without a mother if anything happened to me. I am not sure what I want to do yet I just know I feel very alone.

 

[SoBlessedMama]

LPF, I'm so sorry to hear your news, as well. I'm praying you both can receive the best medical interventions and make a full return back to health. I can't imagine how difficult it is to let go of dreams for the future, and I'm so sorry.

 

[proudparent88]

I have problems now with a low sex drive I'm afraid that if I get hysterectomy that I'll lose what little sex drive I do have. Oh has even complained that we don't have sex. I know that with my hysterectomy I will go into menopause because they are going to remove everything. I just feel so lost and alone about what the right decision is and I have no one to talk to about it.

 

[LPF]

I had all my scans on the 23rd and I've totally convinced myself that it has spread everywhere. Every ache, pain, twinge etc is cancer spread and I feel like I'm going to die. It's been the worst Christmas ever. I'm still bleeding from the biopsy / colposcopy etc which is a constant reminder.

Proudparent88 have you had your MRI etc and full diagnosis yet? This is what I'm most scared of.

 

[Michellebelle]

Hi proudparent. I'm sorry you're going through this. I had a leep done in January. Once I'm done having kids, they want to do a hysterectomy too. Of course, there's always a chance cancer may show up before I get pregnant with any, in which case I'll be devastated! (I go back in January for a follow up)

I do know with me, they only want to do a partial when it comes time for that, leaving my ovaries there so I wouldn't go into menopause. Is it possible that is what they would do for you? Definitely worth asking about! Many hugs to you!

 

[bluebell]

I'm so sorry you're both going through this If it were me, I think I'd do whatever the doctors recommend. Thinking of you, stay strong

xx

 

[jd83]

I have problems now with a low sex drive I'm afraid that if I get hysterectomy that I'll lose what little sex drive I do have. Oh has even complained that we don't have sex. I know that with my hysterectomy I will go into menopause because they are going to remove everything. I just feel so lost and alone about what the right decision is and I have no one to talk to about it.

I would talk to them about hormone replacements you can take and discuss options for that. There are hormone replacement drugs out there to help with balancing this, especially in cases like yours.

Honestly, if it were me, I'd get the hysterectomy. I do cancer diagnostics, cervical cancer screening being the bulk of my work. A hysterectomy is the quickest way to rid your body of the cancer with the best possible outcome. Cervical cancer is absolutely beatable when caught quick enough and removed. Picking chemotherapy isn't the better option. It's leaving the cancer in your body, and hoping that the drugs kill it. There's no guarantee that will happen, whereas removing it completely IS guaranteeing it is gone, and hopefully no relapses occur down the line as the tissue it originated from will be gone. That's why chemotherapy isn't the first choice. It's used in conjunction with hysterectomy if the cancer has already spread and it can't be surgically removed from all the places spread to. If it hasn't spread yet, best bet is to surgically remove it. Hope that perspective helps.

 

[missk1989]

My husband is a radiotherapist and always says that chemo is a resort for cancer that has spread. Radiotherapy may be offered but surgery as pp said is always the best option. Did you have a consult yesterday?

 

[moose31]

I'm so sorry you are going through this!I am 32. I was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was pregnant and started chemotherapy. Just finished my last round 2weeks ago. Just wanted to give some input (even though I'm not sure which drug is used for cervical cancer) chemotherapy will put you into menopause as well for some it is temporary and others long term ...I am not far out from treatment so not sure yet... I am brca 1 (gene mutation causes Inc risk for breast and ovarian cancer) next week I am having double mastectomy. Later will have ovaries removed. I know our diagnosis/treatments are different but cancer sucks period. I am praying for you ladies . I am still in middle of treatment but if I can answer any questions about chemotherapy or radiation (having that aftr my surgery) I hope I can help.