Second baby with different father

[TTCinBC]

I think it's natural to have these thoughts. I've been having them and we're in the process of having my DH adopt DD(her bio dad is not involved) My DH loves DD like no other and treats her like she is his own flesh and blood. We are having our DS in Aug and it's my second, his first. I definitely do worry about him treating DD differently, but I try and remind myself that they have had a long time to bond as father and daughter. I think it's more just MY fear of the worst happening. Which I think is normal. Heck sometimes I worry about if I will love my DD MORE then DS because I feel bad about my DH not being DD's biological dad. Does that make sense?

My DD looks just like me, so we've never really had the issue of looks to be honest.

 

[Courtfrog]

ME! My husband has 2 sons from a previous, whom he is very close too and we have custody of but see their mom, and I have a daughter who has never seen her dad, but knows he is out there. WE are expecting our first boy.

I am kind of glad he is a boy, so my daughter will still be my only princess... and have something no one else does. I think she has always struggle bc hub is closer to his boys... I almost wonder if our son will be as close to him...

I have always felt like he has (not realizing) tried to prove to his boys that they where more important than my daughter... but he is good to her too, its just little things i notice...makes me really wonder...but I hope things will be great!! We are both excited.

 

[Ash0619]

Hm, this is an old thread and all the babies have already been born! I wonder if some ladies who originally started the thread will be willing to update with whether or not things worked out like expected? It would be very interesting to see.

 

[Miss Jennifer]

My sister went through this and had all of these fears. She feared they would not look alike or that her daughter would feel sad that her brother gets to stay home while she has to be shipped off to Dad's frequently. But, in the end, its totally find. Children adjust so easily. She has a half-brother from my sister and her new husband, and a half-brother and half-sister at her Dad's house. I call her the queen and they are her harem! She seems very well adjusted and happy and my sister is a wonderful mom to her and gives her extra attention if and when she needs a little extra love.

 

[Miss Jennifer]

and they both got my sister's looks and are identical!!

 

[Qqltsmejen]

I think blended familys are so common now that it doesn`t bother kids much anymore. My DD is 12 and all her friend have half brothers/sisters. She also has my surname and her dad was never in the picture. My huband and i have been together for 4 years and he has been an amazing father to her. We are working on him adopting my daughter and becoming her legal father. It`s important to me we all have the same last name and that if anything ever happen to me my children will be togther with my husband.

Also my daughter looks just like me but with green eyes and from the ultrasound picture i got of the babys face she will look alot like my daughter. Same nose, cheeks, lips.