Second Missed Miscarriage - Advice on options

[AS1]

I've just been to the hospital for a scan today and been advised that I've had my second mmc in a row. The bean is only measuring 7 weeks even though it should be 10 weeks, exactly the same timing as last time. I had a D&C last time and whilst the operation was fine and fairly painless I felt very depressed as my body had not gradually got rid of the hormones and it was really a process I'd rather not repeat. I have to go back to the hospital on Tuesday with a decision and was maybe going to try the tablets this time as I'm hoping as the bean is just 7 weeks they may be enough and avoid the need for the D&C. Just wondering if anyone has any advice? I know its a personal thing but if anyone has tried both it would be nice to hear opinions.

Also has anyone had multiple 'missed' miscarriages? Its so cruel as I feel very pregnant so was shocked when I was told the news today. I know that the hospital don't look into this until you have had three but I still think its so strange that your body holds onto to the fetus even though it is dead. I actually really wish I would bleed myself and that my body would sort itself out naturally - I know that probably sounds awful but its just the way I feel at the minute.

Thanks xx

 

[sarah_george]

so sorry for you losses, I had a similar thing happen I had 2 MC's at 6 weeks, my body expelled them so i didnt go on thinking i was still pregnant like you did, that must be awful, I have however managed to get to 27 weeks so far on our 3rd try at it and i know i am not the only one thats been third time lucky as ive stumbled on several people on here who have had multiple MC's then go on to have a healthy pregnancy, give yourself time to recover, its such a terrible thing too happen xxx

 

[honey08]

i know exactley how ur feeling hun i mmc with my first pregnancy last march, i was totally devastated, i cudnt understand anything, words cant explain the feeling anyways i had a dnc, although i had got to 11wk the baby died at 6wk, hope the horror of anything like this happens to me ever again, or ur self hun, i wud still have a dnc tho,as the sac has probaley still grown ..... awfully sry for this hun, im not 15wk pg and ive worried so much,but thank god all is ok, just hope2god i will have the baby happy and healthy in july09

 

[MrsJD]

Sorry sorry for your losses

With my MMC last July I had a DnC which I regretted afterwards. Two weeks ago I knew I had a Blighted Ovum and let it pass naturally. I felt my body has repaired better this time as my HGC level dropped dramatically within a week.

This was my 3rd MC within a year and I'm seeing a consultant on the 11th feb to discuss further.

XXX

 

[Barneyboo]

Firstly I am so very sorry for your loss xxx. I have had 2 m/c 1 mmc exactly the same weeks as you unfortunatly I opted for the tablets which I wish I had never ever done it was very painful both physically and mentally...Everytime I went to the toilet I had to pass everything in a card board potty and pull the cord for the midwife to come and check everything.....my 2nd mc passed on it's own!! God forbid I have to go through it again there would be no way I would choose the tablets. Big cuddles to you take care xxxxx

 

[charliesmom]

I'm sorry to hear that. I think the HCG levels with the tablet method will drop about the same as a d/c. The slowest is a natural m/c.

You first m/c also stopped growing at 7 weeks and happened at 10 weeks? If that is the case, I wonder if your doctor will send you for some tests because there is a probability that there is something wrong.

 

[Shazzy]

So Sorry for you loss.

Ive done natural at 6 weeks and was fine for me, but this time round @ 12 (with a b/o) weeks i tried the tablet and it was painfull with heavy contractions, with nothing happening. I then tried natural and after almost a day of "labour" like pain had a scan and was only half way through. I then opted for a d&c. Quick simple and i could move on. Personally i think it varies from woman to woman and pregnancies. Some find natural less invasive and there way for closure. Others feel that after a quick easy d&c they can move on straight away. But if i was to do it over again i would do a d&c.

With regards to testing i would look into it. Your babies both reach the same age in weeks before stopping growing. My Ob had said that if he had found a fetal pole in both pregnancies that stopped developing around the same time he would do more intensive testing, personally i feel they leave to many woman to long before testing for causes.

Wishing you all the best.

 

[Waiting2bMommy]

so sorry for your loss

 

[keepingfaith]

Soo sorry for your loss.

After my 2nd miscarriage I told my dr. that I did not want to wait for a 3rd to start testing why this happend again. At first she said no, but I keeped pushing.

 

[susan_1981]

So sorry for your loss. I had a MMC at the end of December. Similar to you, my baby stopped growing at 7 weeks and I found out at my 12 week scan. I read through the information they gave me in relation to how I wanted to proceed, I could either wait and let it happen naturally, have an ERPC (same as D&C I think) or take the tablets. For me, the ERPC won hands down. It said I would have to arrive at hospital for 7am and would be able to leave between 1pm and 5pm, would possibly experience some mild cramping and mild bleeding. With the tablets, I would have to arrive at hopsital at 7am and stay in until 6.30pm and it said that I would experience cramps and heavy bleeding. It also said that the tablets might not work so you have to go back to a scan 2 weeks later to check everything is removed (and, for me, I couldn't face the thought of going for a scan to see my stomach empty) and, if everything hadn't been removed then they would give me more tablets and, if that still didn't work, then I'd have to have an ERPC. I didn't like the thought of naturally passing my baby and I didn't like the thought of having to wait 2 weeks to see if everything had passed out and then possibly having to have an ERPC anyway.

Waiting to miscarry naturally wasn't really an option for me. The nurse said that, as it hadn't happened in 5 weeks, it may not happen and I'm sure she said "it may not happen at all". After my ERPC, I felt a bit empty and upset but I know it was the right decision for me. And I hardly bled afterwards.

So I think you should just go with what feels right for you and I hope everything goes as well as it can do in this horrible situation xxx

 

[Widger]

Really sorry to hear about your loss. I've had one mmc just over a week ago (baby stopped growing at 7 weeks too) and one early mc so can't really help with regards to the natural mc.

I do know what you mean about the d&c. I felt really sick on Thursday, my boobs have only just started to stop being sore and I have been completely fed up by having the same pregnancy symptoms. That said I think I did choose the right option for me as I didn't have any bleeding or anything. Assumed that everything was ok this time. I'm not sure how long I would have had to have waited for it to happen naturally and that was the thing I didn't like. So d&c seemed best option.

I hope you feel better soon. BnB is great for chatting/letting off emotions.

 

[AS1]

Thanks for all your kind comments and advice.

My mind is changing hourly I am now swayed towards the D&C (even though I was so against it on Friday!!). I am thinking that it is quick, and painless in a physical sense, and I can't bear the thought of taking the tablets and then having to have a D&C in two weeks anyway!! Reading some of the stories about what girls pass has put me off and maybe I should see it as a positive thing that this hasn't happened to me.

The whole thing is such an emotional roller coaster - one minute I'm crying my eyes out, the next I'm full of anger and thinking why me?? and then other times I can look at the whole thing logically and say that it wasn't meant to be this time and that hopefully there will be others!!!

The joy of hormones.....xx

 

[want2bamom]

I've had 3 m/c in the last 3.5 years...My last one was in April...Only my first m/c did i have to have a d&c, but with the other two i didn't..Why is that?? The only thing i could think of was becaues i was alot further into the pregnancy, i think i was just about to go onto 12 weeks, and my second and third well they were very quick! I'm so excited about trying again and hoping i get pregnant soon, but yet i'm so so scared because i have a history of m/c and i don't want to go through it again Lots and lots of for everyone!!!

 

[buffycat]

i'm so sorry to hear of your loss.....

i'e had two natural mcs now (11 weeks and 8 weeks)...both were incredibly painful.....

it's a personal decision though....all i can say is that you need to do what is right for you.....we're all here to help though....