Seeing FOB tomorrow - not looking forward to it.

[littlekitten8]

So FOB is coming down tomorrow to see James and to discuss maintenance, access and also rent and bills on the flat we had together. I'm really not looking forward to it cos every day he has been on the phone sobbing and saying hes sorry and misses me and wants me back and can't live without me yada yada yada! I have said to him that I don't want him to be crying and carrying on when he is here cos he is supposed to be spending quality time with his son and James is very sensitive to moods. I am going to the housing people on Monday to get myself on the council list and he wants to take me and watch James while I am in there. He won't accept that I have sorted it out already and would actually really rather not have him there. Really don't think it's going to go well

 

[starbucks101]

Bless ya, TBH I wouldnt let him watch James whilst emotions are running this high and things are so volitile, Hope you get the housing benefits sorted out xxx

 

[tinkabells]

I would say, that only your allowed to go to the council, hope it works out for ya xxx

 

[littlekitten8]

Thanks. I have no intentions of letting him come with me to the council, or letting him look after James on his own. It's just getting him to actually listen to me. I've told him that my dad is taking me and I want to take James in with me.

 

[expecting09]

Hope it goes ok today! I think it will be a weight off your mind once you've got things abit more sorted

 

[Mummylou23]

hope it went ok for you hun thinking of u ive just joined this forum so you wont know me yet i have a 5month old baby boy xx

 

[teal]

Hope today went ok xx

 

[nievesmama]

Hope it all went ok for you x

 

[sweetlullaby]

Hope today went ok for ya xx

 

[littlekitten8]

Hi girls sorry I didn't update last night but he didn't go til quite late and dear god did he wind me up! He insisted on keep touching me and crying and denying that he had been violent. Took me about an hour to get him onto the subject of the bills and access and it took me threatening to kick him out to actually get him to stop. He finally left at 10.30pm after finally managing to discuss him seeing James and payment of rent and bills etc. I was so damn wound up I didn't manage to get to sleep til well after midnight and had to be up at 7am to go to the housing people. So then after I was done at the housing people he wanted to see James again before he went home to Aylesbury and so we went and got a bit of lunch. Well he was a little better behaved but again really not good at taking a hint and it took me ages to get him to leave. In the end just had to say you need to go cos my dad is getting pissed off.

 

[tinkabells]

Oh well least you got it sorted with him, even if it took you all your strength to control yourself cos he wa being a twat!!!
How much is ghe hepling with your blls etc and what did housing say? xxx

 

[littlekitten8]

He is paying half the rent and bills on the flat in Aylesbury. And he text last night after speaking to his other little boy's mum to tell me he would be paying me a grand total of..... £70 a month maintenance

 

[starbucks101]

but if you dont live in the flat anymore why are you still paying the bills? get yourself off the lease and any bills that are in your name cancel. He can set up his own x

 

[expecting09]

I agree with starbucks, that flat is nothing to do with you anymore, why should you pay bills for somewhere your not living x

 

[lou_w34]

I agree with above aswell! Dont pay for anything, you dont live there anymore so you have no need too. Let him stand on his own two feet and pay for it himself

x

 

[littlekitten8]

The problem is the rent and bills are in joint names. I have given notice on the flat so that should hopefully be all done with in 2 months. But unfortunately if he doesn't pay it then I am liable for the whole lot. I tried to get him to pay for all the bills and rent but he then dug his heels in and said he wouldn't pay any of it cos he wasn't staying there either. So I kinda had to agree to pay half. Better than paying all of it! Sucks though and I hate his guts right now.