Hello all! I hope everyone's day is going well.
I'm not pregnant myself, but I have a friend who is and I need some advice. I believe I've posted this in the most appropriate area.
Like I said, a good friend of mine is pregnant with a wonderful baby boy who is due in August. I love her to pieces, and she actually helped me meet fiance. I'm extremely happy for her and her husband, and they know and always know I'm here to help them with whatever they need. I can't wait to meet little Junior and be his "auntie."
But, like I said, I need some advice. Any insight anyone can provide will be appreciated.
I love my friend, so please don't get the wrong impression from any of this. I haven't seen her in a while because I had to stop going to their house. They have five untrained, unhousebroken labs living in the home with them, so the state of the house is an absolute nightmare.
There is dog feces and urine all over the house, and the smell just from standing in the yard is absolutely unbearable. The dogs, and most certainly the house, are infested with fleas, so going into the house makes you a walking buffet.
There is junk such as old mail, dirty plates, old pizza boxes, and so on stacked up all over the place. It's not like "hoarders bad" and stacked up to the ceiling, but there isn't a surface that doesn't have some kind of old mail or a dirty plate on it.
Their bed room is unnavigatable because they have a mix of dirty and clean laundry covering the floor. It also now has a gaping hole on the bottom of the door where they dogs have ripped off part of the door to get in and out at night.
Their guest bathroom has mold growing on the walls and on the ceiling, so I can't imagine what the master bathroom looks like. The future nursery is where they keep their biggest lab at night, and he urinates in their nightly.
It's not an appropriate home for an infant, let alone a pregnant woman. My fiance and I are trying to figure out how to have a conversation with them over it, but we know it is going to ruin our friendship, but that is hardly a small price to pay considering a child is involved. I'll pay anything to protect the child.
My friend and her husband are in denial about the house. They tried to hire a maid at one point to clean it, but after seeing the house she said she was going to have to charge more (almost twice as what she had originally said) to clean the house because of the state it was in, and she also said the dogs would have to be removed before she would clean the house due to them jumping all over her. My friend was highly offended and gave this woman an awful and nasty review on a public site, stating that all of her allegations were false and that the house did not smell bad and was not all that unclean.
I'd love to find a good book or two about how important a clean house is for a newborn and a pregnant woman, but I can't seem to find anything that go over this. I'd also love to find a book about dogs and infants, but this is very low on the list or priorities right now. The house is more important.
It's come down to me knowing, in my heart, that if she takes her son to that home after he is born, I will end up making the call to CPS. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I was knowingly allowing a child to live in that place.
Any advice?
I'm not pregnant myself, but I have a friend who is and I need some advice. I believe I've posted this in the most appropriate area.
Like I said, a good friend of mine is pregnant with a wonderful baby boy who is due in August. I love her to pieces, and she actually helped me meet fiance. I'm extremely happy for her and her husband, and they know and always know I'm here to help them with whatever they need. I can't wait to meet little Junior and be his "auntie."
But, like I said, I need some advice. Any insight anyone can provide will be appreciated.
I love my friend, so please don't get the wrong impression from any of this. I haven't seen her in a while because I had to stop going to their house. They have five untrained, unhousebroken labs living in the home with them, so the state of the house is an absolute nightmare.
There is dog feces and urine all over the house, and the smell just from standing in the yard is absolutely unbearable. The dogs, and most certainly the house, are infested with fleas, so going into the house makes you a walking buffet.
There is junk such as old mail, dirty plates, old pizza boxes, and so on stacked up all over the place. It's not like "hoarders bad" and stacked up to the ceiling, but there isn't a surface that doesn't have some kind of old mail or a dirty plate on it.
Their bed room is unnavigatable because they have a mix of dirty and clean laundry covering the floor. It also now has a gaping hole on the bottom of the door where they dogs have ripped off part of the door to get in and out at night.
Their guest bathroom has mold growing on the walls and on the ceiling, so I can't imagine what the master bathroom looks like. The future nursery is where they keep their biggest lab at night, and he urinates in their nightly.
It's not an appropriate home for an infant, let alone a pregnant woman. My fiance and I are trying to figure out how to have a conversation with them over it, but we know it is going to ruin our friendship, but that is hardly a small price to pay considering a child is involved. I'll pay anything to protect the child.
My friend and her husband are in denial about the house. They tried to hire a maid at one point to clean it, but after seeing the house she said she was going to have to charge more (almost twice as what she had originally said) to clean the house because of the state it was in, and she also said the dogs would have to be removed before she would clean the house due to them jumping all over her. My friend was highly offended and gave this woman an awful and nasty review on a public site, stating that all of her allegations were false and that the house did not smell bad and was not all that unclean.
I'd love to find a good book or two about how important a clean house is for a newborn and a pregnant woman, but I can't seem to find anything that go over this. I'd also love to find a book about dogs and infants, but this is very low on the list or priorities right now. The house is more important.
It's come down to me knowing, in my heart, that if she takes her son to that home after he is born, I will end up making the call to CPS. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I was knowingly allowing a child to live in that place.
Any advice?
