The toughest thing about self harm, is learning to deal with your emotions that cause you to self harm in other ways. Most people do it when depressed, angry, sad or something along those lines. If there is one thing you know is depressing you, you need to deal with it.
Most people who self harm have "triggers" its about knowing what they are and how to avoid them, but more so knowing how to deal with them in healthier ways when they happen.
Self harm isn't something you just "stop" or "get over" it's a whole new way of thinking and being. Its very tough to stop, but it can be done.
Lots of people find success in writing down their emotions and then destroying the letter (ripping it up, burning it..whatever) or in aggressive physical exercise like boxing. Yelling into a pillow...whatever works for them.
I think the thing that wakes a lot of moms or moms to be up, is what will you do when your child asks where your scars came from? Its proven that children of self harmers are more than 67% likely to do it themselves. I dont think anyone in the world wants their child to self harm, for me that would be enough to make me stop.
But its not that simple is it?
Most women who self harm are extremely bright and smart people too...yet you likely feel worthless and dumb for not being able to stop. Well it can be an addiction.
You need to know you and your body are worth more than the scars you are creating on yourself. There ARE other ways to deal with things than hurting yourself.
Yes they might not come with that "release" or the "high" self harming comes with, but they are more healthy and less scarring literally and figuratively than harming yourself.
You are not stupid, dumb, worthless or pathetic if you self harm.