Pyrrhic
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From Niamh being 6 weeks old, my family have been giving me grief over the fact that Niamh won't self settle, and that I am spoiling her and need to let her CIO.
Now I always thought that babies only learnt how to self settle from about 10 weeks onwards? I hate CIO tbh and will only leave her if she is just doing overtired whimpers.
Am I in the wrong? I now don't want to leave her with anyone, because everytime I go out and leave her with family I come back to be told that she wouldn't stop screaming. She hardly ever cries for me (I mean proper crying, not squealing and whimpering), let alone screams, so I feel absolutely awful I've left her in that situation and no one has phoned me. I don't like the thought of people leaving her to CIO either, but my family think by not letting her CIO I'm spoiling her and she now won't settle for anyone but me (which at her age I think is simply not true)
I BF too, so maybe part of it is that she wants the comfort of BFing.
Should babies be able to settle by 8 weeks like my family say? Or do babies this age still need their Mums comfort?
Now I always thought that babies only learnt how to self settle from about 10 weeks onwards? I hate CIO tbh and will only leave her if she is just doing overtired whimpers.
Am I in the wrong? I now don't want to leave her with anyone, because everytime I go out and leave her with family I come back to be told that she wouldn't stop screaming. She hardly ever cries for me (I mean proper crying, not squealing and whimpering), let alone screams, so I feel absolutely awful I've left her in that situation and no one has phoned me. I don't like the thought of people leaving her to CIO either, but my family think by not letting her CIO I'm spoiling her and she now won't settle for anyone but me (which at her age I think is simply not true)
I BF too, so maybe part of it is that she wants the comfort of BFing.
Should babies be able to settle by 8 weeks like my family say? Or do babies this age still need their Mums comfort?